Living with someone before Marriage...Good or Bad.?.

United States
October 26, 2006 3:36pm CST
what are the negatives.?. what are the positives.?. what are your experiences.?.
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• United States
26 Oct 06
I think that it is good so that way you get know their worst habits before you marry them. So there arent any surprises in the end.
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• United States
26 Oct 06
some surprises in relationships can be good thing... - good surprise "guess who went grocery shoppin' and bought strawberries and whipped cream." - bad surprise - them being a slob.
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@kgwat70 (13392)
• United States
26 Oct 06
I had a bad experience with this. It seemed like her whole personality changed after she had moved in with me. It only took a month and a half for us to break up. I can't say it is bad for everyone but it didn't work out for me. I would probably wait til I got married to live with someone.
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• United States
26 Oct 06
based on your experience, it seems that it worked out better that you lived together before you got married...had you gotten married, moved in together and then discovered how her personality was...then you would be somewhat stuck in a deeper situation - marriage... thanks for your reply...
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@disturbedgd (1820)
• South Africa
26 Oct 06
the good:you both will like it the bad:she/he will change your home the ugly:you meet her parents....their just like her/him LOL
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• United States
26 Oct 06
ha...funny...that is some of the basics pros/cons...thanks for your response...
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• United States
26 Oct 06
It is both. They will change your home.
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@tamm820 (463)
• United States
27 Oct 06
I think living with someone before marriage, is a great idea. My first marriage, we did not. After we got married, we bought a house and moved in together-for the first time, we were divorced 4 mos later. Dating someone and living with someone are two VERY different things. People are different, when they're in their own home vs, being out. I think you need the opportunity to see someone at all times, the good the bad, first thing in the morning, after a bad day of work, etc. It lets you know what you're truly marrying. My second husband and I lived together for 3 years before we married. We even had a child. And we are still happily married. It let me really see that he was someone I wanted to be with forever. I knew what he was like at his worst, and I knew I could deal with it.
• United States
27 Oct 06
great answer...you do really get to know someone and yourself when you live together...i definetely think its better for a couples to iron things out before marriage...
• India
6 Nov 06
good - good
i think its good to live with a person before marrying coz it tells about the pros and cons of tht person!!!!!
• United States
6 Nov 06
I think it is a good ideal. You test drive a car why not a spouse. That way you can see if the two of you can put up with each other 24/7. The only bad would be bills and money issues. many people want to keep the money as mine and yours.
• India
6 Nov 06
what the problem in living with someone before marriage
• Netherlands
6 Nov 06
I have lived with a few boyfriends now and I don't see anything wrong with it. I think it is a good test of the relationship. If you can actually live with the person then it will probably be okay to marry them. One time with my ex, it was best that I lived wit him before actually committing because I ended up running and screaming not too long later because he was a horrible slob. My boyfriend and I live together right now and it has been challenging but it gives us a better idea of who the other is. :)
@pumpkinjam (7103)
• United Kingdom
27 Oct 06
I think it's good because it's the only way you can really get to know a person so it's better than the big commitment of marriage. I'm sure more divorces happen with people who didn't live together first. I'm not married yet but I live with my partner. He has changed for the worse since we moved so I am glad I didn't marry him first.
@kgwat70 (13392)
• United States
27 Oct 06
Yes, I agree with you on that as well. I am definitely glad that I did not get married first. Thank you for your advice and comment.
@chebel82 (417)
• United States
27 Oct 06
I think it's alright i barely got married this year, and we've been together for 8 1/2 years