Fake People on the Internet-How Do You Tell When Someone Is Lying?

@CatClaws (115)
United States
August 29, 2007 3:08pm CST
What are your opinion on people who portray themselves as someone else. I recently chatted with a man for over a month and just found out that he is not who he said he was. Why do they do it? Let me know what you think?
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@herrbaggs (1308)
• United States
29 Aug 07
You must always remember the first law of the internet, If you can't lie to someone why bother to talk to them.
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@CatClaws (115)
• United States
31 Aug 07
I didn't know that there was a first law of the internet. Why would you even want to start out lying to someone? Then you just have to keep making up lies to cover up the previous ones.
@herrbaggs (1308)
• United States
31 Aug 07
To a lot of people making up stories is second nature to them and they enjoy it. Spinning tales is a way of life and entertainment to them. Case in point politicians and preachers and they also get paid for it. Being truthful in most cases gets people in hot water worse than spinning a tale. Being intimate and truthful is dumb, dumb, dumb.
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@CatClaws (115)
• United States
1 Sep 07
I understand what you are saying. I can see your point of view. And I guess you are right in a sense that some do it for fun, but some do it for other reasons too. Thank You for your response.
• Brazil
29 Aug 07
I believe in this life.
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• United States
29 Aug 07
I'll never forget my first experience in betrayal by an internet friend. I was very new to being online, and also very naive. I began chatting with a very nice gentleman who was a writer, and we would talk about our common interests. I also began chatting with a woman around that time. She and I got to be good friends. We had lunch several times. I went to her house, and she gave me some of her very nice clothes because she had gained weight and could no longer wear them. I confided in her, and considered her to be a good friend. Well, one day I met her for lunch. Only it wasn't HER. It was HIM...the guy friend I also chatted with online. It was at this time he informed me he was a crossdresser. I was in total shock and felt totally betrayed. But let me tell you...he had me completely fooled as a woman. (He looked good!) He had the mannerisms, the voice and everything down. Quite an experience.
• United States
30 Aug 07
Wow. is all i can say about that crossdresser.
@CatClaws (115)
• United States
31 Aug 07
i also believe in this life. but i think it is okay to make friends from across the globe. i just wish people would be honest.
@elisa812 (3032)
• United States
29 Aug 07
It's really tough to know whether or not someone is being honest online. I think it's sad that people will misrepresent themselves that way and lie to others, especially when others are confiding in them and think of them as a friend. I definitely think there are some nice and honest people on the internet too, but it can be really tricky to weed out the fake ones.
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@CatClaws (115)
• United States
31 Aug 07
You are ABSOLUTELY right. I have met alot of honest and friendly people on the internet. Just about everyone I meet is friendly, but the honest part is what can get you. I haven't figured out a way to tell if people are being true or fake yet, but i am working on it. it sure would make it easier to make friends on the internet. thank you for your input.
@elisa812 (3032)
• United States
12 Sep 07
Yes, it would be nice if there was a surefire way to know if someone was being totally honest or not! It can be really tricky sometimes. Thanks for best response! :)
@xcellen (204)
• Indonesia
12 Sep 07
well there are time that a person wants to be another person, to experience new feeling sensation, I don't think I can blame them, although I don't like liars too. and we all know that not all people are honest, on the net nor in real world, and what I think playing to be another character is still ok, as long as he/she didn't do it negatively. on your case I only think that the man you chatted with has a low self esteem.. cheers :)
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@CatClaws (115)
• United States
12 Sep 07
thank you xcellen for responding. I think that may have been part of his problem. but i was still hurt that he lied to me. so since then, i have not accepted any IM's or emails from people that i don't know. thanks again.
@Sharon38 (1915)
• Jamaica
10 Sep 07
Wel that is humans for you. I have learnt that when it comes onto the internet to take what people say with a "grain of salt". It means that you hear what they say but dont read much into it or take it for gospel. I had that experience too and then I guess it just did not work out. People like to impress and I think that is why but how long can they pretend for? They must slip up one day and thank God you found out that he was not genuine.
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@CatClaws (115)
• United States
11 Sep 07
thanks sharon. i am so glad too that i found out that he was a phony. I was looking to have a relationship with this man, just a friendship. he claimed to be an oil firm representative from nigeria. well it has turned out that he only makes money he and there from job to job, whatever he can find. now that is exactly what you were saying about trying to impress people and it catching up with them. i have learned my lesson about things like this. thank you again for your comment. i read some of your other discussions and i like your view on things. would you mind if i add you as a friend?
@wisconsin26 (3859)
• United States
30 Aug 07
Because it's the internet and people can be who they want to be and theirs nothing you can do about it... I've been chatting for 8 years and i've meet alot of fake people online. it's just something they like to do.. Not to mention they also like to take advantage of people which really gets me.. Because it seems that all the nice ones are the ones that end up being treated like dirt and lied too... Just my oppion..
@CatClaws (115)
• United States
31 Aug 07
Thank you for your opinion. Yes you are right, there is nothing I can do about it. It happens everyday to someone out there. I just don't understand why it would be something that they like to do. It seems to me that it would be pretty hard work trying to remember all the lies you tell and then having to come up with more to cover up the first ones. I have learned my lesson believe me. thank you
• United States
30 Aug 07
I think that people do that in real life too. How honest are people on the first date, really? It's just easier to do on the internet. There are some weirdos out there and the ones who can't fool people in real life, fool people on the internet. That's what i think anyway. So be careful out there cuz even tho stuff like this is fun, you never know who to trust.
@CatClaws (115)
• United States
31 Aug 07
I agree with you. I suppose the ones that try to fool people are the ones that don't have a life.
@josdevos (26)
• Belgium
29 Aug 07
you always have to be carefull on the internet, i prefer meeting people in real day life, and most of the time you will how he is. sometimes people try to seem better than they are, when you live toghether or go on vacation with a person you can see how they really are!
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@CatClaws (115)
• United States
31 Aug 07
i agree that you have to be careful on the internet. the person that i was chatting with was just that. i had no intentions of meeting him. we had similiar interests,hobbies, etc. it was fun talking to him until i found out that he was a complete 360 to what he portrayed himself to be.