Is saying SORRY enough?

@claire03 (1444)
United States
September 1, 2007 2:04pm CST
When somebody did us wrong and they say sorry, is that enough for us to forgive them or not? If we reverse it and let's say we did something wrong to somebody and we say sorry, is that enough? When can we say sorry is enough? I think if it's just a small mistake and the person didn't really mean to do it, what i mean is if it's not intentional then i could probably say that sorry is enough for me. But if that somebody has really intention of hurting me and doing something bad behind my back and i know that the sorry is not sincere, i would probably not believe him and i will say that sorry is not enough. How about you? when do you think sorry is enough or not?
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@zabawaus (1732)
• United States
1 Sep 07
Ofcourse it depends on the mistake the person did. I mean if he or she just stepped on my food it is exceptable but if my partner cheated on me, even the sun rise from west instead of east nothing will change. So let them not bother to excuse :)
1 Sep 07
Saying I'm sorry can be very sincere Saying please forgive me might be more appropriate. There are alot of people who tend say I'm sorry for every little thing and It has no true meaning at all But when they say please forgive me That usually carries more thought. Also you can forgive some one without accepting their actions. Sometime we forgive for our own well being to release baggage even we do not accept the action. It can give us healing and let us move on.
@ruckz11 (131)
• Philippines
2 Sep 07
for me, saying sorry isn't enough.. anyone can say that, in many ways, many times too, but no one can ever tell if that person is sincere about that sorry. now a days the "sorry" word has already become a cliche, like the other cliches, though before it had meaning, because it has been used too many times its essence slowly have faded. when we say sorry, we should mean it. its not just about the word being said, we should act upon it. we show how sorry we are. the pain we caused to someone will not vanish after we say sorry, its there still. we wait till they heal. we should learn to accept the consequences of our actions. we say sorry so we let them know what we have caused them, we say sorry to let them know we accept the consequence of our actions.
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@claire03 (1444)
• United States
3 Sep 07
you have a better understanding about this topic i created, you are right tha we should really mean when we say sorry cause if we're not sincere saying it then it's just useless and meaningless. And if we are truly sincere we are ready to accept the consequences of our mistakes cause simply saying sorry doesn't make things right. God Bless!
@CarlHalling (3629)
• United Kingdom
2 Sep 07
Yes, I think "sorry" is enough. We have to trust in the sincerity of the apologiser. If not, then when can we ever forgive? We have to forgive in this life, or we become very ill.
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@brew2x (3096)
• Philippines
2 Sep 07
For me saying sorry is enough as long as it is said with sincerity and with a promise of trying not doing it again. Life is so short, why make it complicated? I just want to live a happy life and make others happy too as much as I could, that's why I'm trying to forgive easily and try not to fuss over small stuff.
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@wonderful1 (2075)
• China
2 Sep 07
of course it is not enough, but what should i let him/her do? if a friend do something hurt me, then i must say goodbye to him/her. i don't want to make friend with him/her. frankly, i must be sad and disppointed. even he/she says sorry to me, but it doesn't work. what is a friend? you must protect your friend, when others say bad words to your friends. how can you hurt him/her by yourself?
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@phon4u (2217)
• Laos
2 Sep 07
Saying sorry is just incident happening. If I pretend to do, people will not forgive it when they find out. It should not be repeat mistakes.
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@kelly60 (4548)
• United States
2 Sep 07
I have to agree that it depends a lot on the situation. I have had those who have unintentionally hurt me, and have offered a sincere apology. I have no problem forgiving them because I know that they didn't mean to hurt me and that they truly regret it. For those who deliberately go behind my back or who intentionally hurt me in whatever way, it is hard to believe that they are sincere in any apology that they offer. I have a hard time forgiving them. If I can forgive their wrongdoings at all, it is much more difficult than the forgiveness I can offer to those who have wronged me unintentionally.
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• China
2 Sep 07
Saying sorry is really good way to ask for forgiveness, but it depends for what the sorry is used, if its for simple silly mistakes, it might be enough, but there are some mistakes for which sorry is not enough,,, also depends on person saying and how is he saying , how serious is he,,, if some one make mistakes and every time tries to be dry on the water,, for them sorry is not enough.. i guess...... everybody has different opinions , its mine.
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@hv1peer (113)
• Netherlands
2 Sep 07
Saying i'm sorry is easy to say for the most people. The most people using the words i'm sorry for things like, they went to stay a moment on your feet or something like that. When someone says i'm sorry to me, it depends on the tune it was saying and for what, if i doesn't like it i will say something about it
@jHoEn16 (2043)
• Australia
2 Sep 07
if somebody did something on me and they are saying sorry... i think a word sorry that comes from thier mouth are not enough... unless they should prove it that they are really sorry... and if i did something wrong to others... i better ask myself first if i would really mean it if i say sorry... and i will prove to that person how sorry i am...
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• United States
2 Sep 07
It's good if they do say there sorry but most times they don't.I just got done wrong by a long time friend and I never thought he would what he did to me.I'm not sure he would mean it if he said so.
@Nardz13 (5059)
• New Zealand
2 Sep 07
Hi there. I think saying sorry is enough, providing it is said with a genuine heart felt apology... Anyone can say sorry and not mean it, just say it to get it over and done with, clear there own conscience... But then sorry can be said with meaning and these people are genuinely sorry, you can always tell the difference, in just how sorry a person is...
@claire03 (1444)
• United States
3 Sep 07
yes, what you said is definitely true, one can just easily say sorry and not mean it. If someone is truly sorry then he deserves to be forgiven. God Bless!
• Malaysia
1 Oct 07
I couldn't agree more with what you've said. You're totally right. Plus I think the sorry is not sincere when someone keeps repeating the same mistake (and knows that you're hurt by their action) and just say sorry afterwards, as if it's no big deal. those kind of people really gets on my nerves!
@gradyslady (4055)
• United States
25 Sep 07
I guess it would depend on what was done. If someone cheats on me early in the relationship then no sorry is not enough. If someone kills my child or parents, no sorry is not enough.
@jcj_111776 (3220)
• Philippines
4 Sep 07
Actions speak louder than words, claire. It's so easy to say those words, "I'm so sorry." But what really counts is the action behind those words. I can say the words of apology even if I don't mean it. The sweetest apology is the one that's loaded with gestures and not just mere words. Sometimes, it's much better to convey our apologies through gestures because it will truly mean how sincere we really are. For me, claire, i much prefer to be apologized to with words and gestures. Saying a simple sorry won't be enough because words are useless if you don't really mean it.
@cupid74 (11394)
• Pakistan
4 Sep 07
Well, if person is saying "SORRY" after realizing that he/she did wrong and feeling guilty and have intention not to do it again then i THINK its enough. as person is admitting its fault.
@youless (97647)
• Guangzhou, China
4 Sep 07
When the mistake is serious, then perhaps saying sorry is not that enough. It is better for him/her to do something to show his/her apology. If it is only a little mistake, then we shall be generous to forgive him/her when he/she says sorry.
• India
3 Sep 07
if you feel that a person is saying sorry just to hurt you a little more next, just say "appology accepted" and runnnnn. smiles, apple.
• Pakistan
2 Sep 07
Exactly it depends on situation if you have done big blunder than obviously its not enough to say sorry but if mistake is of minor kind than i think to say sorry is not bad at all. whatever to say sorry is good ritual