Who will you choose, your spouse or your parent?

@raulgc01 (306)
Philippines
September 17, 2007 1:23pm CST
When I was young then, I've heard a story about a mother who was forced to choose by a Japanese officer during the second world war, of who she would she choose to be executed, her father or her husband, as the Japanese officer would execute one of the two. As the story goes the woman chose her father, saying one can always look for another husband, but she has only one father. Aghast by the woman's reasoning, the Japanese officer decided to spare the lives of both men. I would have been an orphan, if I was on her place. How about you?
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@vicki2876 (5636)
• Canada
17 Sep 07
I think I would have to spare my husband and not my father. Though I have a great relationship with my father now, (he was very selfish when I was a child)and I wouldn't want to be given a choice like that and it is so sad that something like this was even done, I think my father would understand that my childern need their father. My father is older and doesn't have minor childern who need him though my man has childern who need him. If my child was asked this I would want them to spare their spouse so that their childern can have their parents and I would gladly sacrafice myself for them.
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@smileonstar (4007)
• United States
17 Sep 07
God, this is tough... husband or father? I dont want to loose both but if I have to choose then I might choose my father too. I am not selfish, but I believe my husband will let me choose my father too. I have only one father and I will not marry again to remember my husband. But, Im sorry I dont wnat to choose between them
@AmbiePam (86049)
• United States
18 Sep 07
As painful as it would be, I would choose my husband. When I get married, I'm leaving my parents (symbolically, I'm already living on my own) and starting a life with another person. They are who I owe my life and loyalty too. And I love my dad and he loves me. But I know he would understand, because he would make the same decision. I know cultures have different priorities, but if I promise my life to someone, they come first, and no one else.
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• United States
17 Sep 07
My family wanted to my to chose either the man of my unborn child or my family. I chose the man of my unborn child. Which my step-father wanted my mother to chose him or her child and she chose him over her child her own flesh. Now if I had a chose between my husband and my children I would pick my children any day. My husband would do the same, atleast I hope.
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@lisa_wxy (393)
• China
18 Sep 07
it is really a dilema for me. there is no doubt that we can't make two ends meet,what do i suppose to do ? i really don't know.i have only one dad,and maybe the perfect spouse just one too. all in all,i would choose my dad too.
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@sephrenia (567)
17 Sep 07
I would choose my father without a doubt. Not because he had done anything wrong (although mine has lol) but because I can continue to keep his memory alive. Parents expect to die before their kids and I know that if I chose my father, he would be happy in the knowledge that i would be living on as his legacy to the world. I would be able to keep his memory alive by telling everyone of him. I wouldnt choose my spouse because first of all im selfish and want him to live as long as possible next to me, and i wouldnt want to deprive any of my children of their father (or possible children if I had none).
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@sarah22 (3979)
• United States
18 Sep 07
she made the right choice and if it where me, i would of done the same. and its sad to have to make such a harsh choice in the first place
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• India
18 Sep 07
My very first wish is that people who force others to go thru situations like this, should rot in Hell. Frankly speaking I could not have chosen between either and maybe I would have offered myself instead. Its easier said than done I know, but the pain of choosing either of your loved ones is equally great if not more. While its true that I have only one father and nobody can replace him once he is gone, it is also true that I have only one husband and I cannot remarry again, not after I have myself given consent for his execution. Also my husband is my best friend, he is there for me in the future too, while my father is not my best friend, I cannot share my life with him. He is my past while my husband is my future. Both are equally important to me.
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@raulgc01 (306)
• Philippines
18 Sep 07
I totally agree with you, the best way to repay your parent for the love and all the things they've done to you, is by loving your children, that is the cycle of life. You can make your children happy and complete if they have both of their parents.
• China
18 Sep 07
Gee..it really tought choice.two men who I loved deeply. maybe I will choose my father too. If my husband love me deeply, i think he will understand me. There is no one can insteas of my father's love, For me it is more precious than husband' love. maybe i will keep silence and not make chooice any more. Lose one of them, it's painful for me.
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@michecu (637)
• Philippines
18 Sep 07
I will choose my parent for the same reason as with the woman's in this story. I owe my life from my parents and if there is a way I can save their life, I will do it. As for my husband, though I love him, I can give him up in this circumstance and I'll make sure that he will understand my choice. In this story, the lesson I learned is that while your parents and your husband are alive, you should make them feel loved and satisfy them that they will not doubt your decisions even in very crucial situations like the story posted here. :)
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@ssf12ster (488)
• India
18 Sep 07
see in the beginning you chose your mother.later on you tend to live your spouse more often. so you change your attitude with your mother.so in the long run you lose much interest in your mother and be behind your spouse. i think it is fair enogh to choose the spouse in the long run.
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• United States
18 Sep 07
This is a tough one. I dont have a relationship with my dad but if i did I would still chose him. Hes older and has lived most of his life while my husband has a kid that needs him and more than half of his life still to live. I know I could choose another man but I couldnt bare to see either one die. I guess its eaiser to say your father when you get older b/c you become less dependent on him and more dependent on your spouse so thats what I think
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• Philippines
18 Sep 07
its verry touching.but its great that the officer spare both.i heard a lot story of that. from my mom too.anyway its really hard.or i should say let me die with them.becouse i cant leave my life hungting those horrible memories and guilt.
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• United States
18 Sep 07
In most moral situations I would have to say that my husband would come before my father. Partly because my dad would expect me to choose my husband, because he is, well, my husband. And my dad is a strong Christian and believe NOBODY comes before your spouse. But in this situation I would probably choose my dad. Because I can't imagine losing my dad. And also, I don't think my husband would LET me choose him. He would make the decision before I would even have a chance to think about it.
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