Would you go back to an "X"?

United States
September 20, 2007 2:26am CST
Even when I am having problems with my b/f, I'd never think about going back to my X. So why do my friends always bring him up when I am having problems in my current relationship? They seem to stuck on him.... But I could care less about going back to him! I wouldn't dream of it! So why the pressure? They know it would be destructive as much as it was before?
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8 responses
• Philippines
20 Sep 07
at my present relationship, i have also experienced some problems/challenges with my boyfriend to the very point of breaking up with him. but i stuck it out coz i know that if i parted with him,i'd never go back to him again. i have never gone back to a past relationship before coz it's my personal belief that if i was able to put my ex out of my life then i don't need him in my life. don't be bothered with the idea of your friends mentioning your ex, it's just their way to make you put aside current problem... like a breather of the current situation. just let it ride but don't make it affect you. goodluck with your relationship with your bf. :)
• United States
28 Jul 08
Thanks for your thoughts. You are right and beliefs are along the same lines as yours. He is an x for a reason and nothing is worth losing what I have now.
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• Philippines
29 Nov 08
the BR is very much appreciated. thank you. :)
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@theprogamer (10534)
• United States
23 Sep 07
I would never go back to any of my exes. They were all wretched foul little harpies and I don't want to be with them ever again. Some of them really ruined their own lives and the lives of people they finally settled on. Others are just so vile that I wouldn't want to be anywhere near them. If any of them were on fire, I get a glass of water, sit down and drink it and watch them burn! If any of them became blind I'd guide them to an open ditch. No no and NO! I'm not going back to any of them. I'm worth way more than what they think and what people in general think.
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@gapeach65 (805)
• United States
20 Sep 07
My husband and I have been together for 10 years, we've had our problems in the past, but I would NEVER go back to my ex. We didn't work out as a married couple, and our friendship (until he got his new girlfriend) was pretty rocky, now the way he treats his kids and his friends, he's just not a nice person. His brothers, when we first split up, kept trying to get us back together, they just didn't get how their brother really was. My ex will never be a man a want to be with.
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@vicki2876 (5636)
• Canada
22 Sep 07
I wouldn't think of going back to my ex if I was having problems with my now relationship. They are two different relationships so why would I go running back to a relationship I know didn't work. I would try to work out what was going on in my relationship now and if it couldn't be worked out I would spend some time on my own before jumping into anything else. The question is why are your friends putting that pressure on you about the ex. Is it that they fear you being on your own, or is it that they really like him and want you two together. I think I would find out why they do this and ask them to stop. It is your choice what you want to do and they should pressure you into anything.
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• China
21 Sep 07
In my opinion,you are right,you shouldn't go back to your x.If you love your b/f,you should love him only and forget your x.If you go back to him,your x,you will hurt your b/f very seriously.Quarrel or disagreements is inevitable in lovers,maybe you should take it easy.Don't care the quarrel badly,I think if your boyfriend love and care you very much,he will apologize to you.good luck!
@sexylc (501)
• United States
20 Sep 07
Well maybe because your friends they think that your x-boyfriend still care about you and love you!.But don't let your friends who make a decession of your life! thats your life go on where you happy.Me either I don't want to go back my x once I through the person I never think to get it back again.
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@ericajoyce (1746)
• Philippines
20 Sep 07
No, I would never go back to my ex. After all that he has done to me I think it was already enough. My friends used to pressure me too.I just explained to them that it would never happen going back to him again.
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• United States
21 Sep 07
Well I never thought I was pressuring anyone into any relationship. That said, I would have to say just go with how You actually feel inside. The Only person who knows how your truely feeling is you, and not even your closet friends, or your current boyfriend should ever tell you how you should feel or think. I do believe that everyone does have a right to have their own privacy and No one should push others. But then again, I've never been in love, and frankly, I'm not really sure if I'll ever know what really loving a person will ever actually be like. Though I still hope and wish that I did know though. With that said, I'd like to know more about where this question comes from. Thanks. Oh, and I still think Bijiou is one sexy and Hot Biotch to! You and your boyfriend really should get the little guys his own sports car and his own posse' of girls too! Just a thought. Anyway, you take care ands Please call me later, Ok? Love ya! :D