lost child?

@rouwel23 (1353)
Philippines
September 21, 2007 1:28am CST
have you ever lost your child in the department store? or have you been lost in the department store when you were a child? losing a child in a crowded place is a nightmare to parents. you worry about your child. I have a friend who once lost a child in the department store for 3 hours. luckily the child was just sitting around in the customer care department. talking to the clerk. it is a nightmare to be lost also. to fear about losing your parents and not seeing them. have you ever been in a situation like this? what could you do to prevent situations like this? what would you do if ever you were in a situation like this?
15 responses
• United States
21 Sep 07
I took my daughter and her friend to the Indianapolis Childrens Musume over the summer. We went into the science exibit and we stop to look at a display right outside the hallway. It started to get crowded, so I grabbed the other little girls hand then turned to grab my daughters hand and she was gone. My heart just flew right out of my chest. I was frantic, but at the same time trying to remain calm so the little girl didn't get scared. Luckly a worker noticed I was looking for someone, and asked if I had a daughter. My daughter followed some lady who had similar features to me, she thought I was her. She was just a freaked out as I was. She was only gone for maybe 10 mins. but it felt like hours. She did that to me twice that day.
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@rouwel23 (1353)
• Philippines
21 Sep 07
yup. parents get nervous and frantic when kids are lost. even a second would seem like an eternity. hehehe. lol.
@violeta_va (4832)
• Australia
21 Sep 07
I havent lost my son but my husbend has. We went to a shoping centre and my son wanted to play in the kids corner (they have slides and all these other big toys) there is a fence around it and a small opening as a door. So my husband decided to look after our son while I went to a shop when I got back I saw my husband standing there confused (he had no credit on his moblise so he could not call me) and I said whats wrong, he goes I lost Viktor, I go what do you mean you lost him he is in there playing. He goes well he was there but he is not any more. I go he could not have passed you you are standing right infront of the door. (my son has mild autism his language is limeted so if he is lost there is no way he could ask for help) so I looked all around my heart is racing 1000km/h I have tears in my eyes runing like crazy I told my husband to shut the hell up and look for our son (he was 3) thinking the worse I went to tell the customer centre and I looked on my right and there he was in his bright yellow madagaskar t-shirt playing in the national geographic store. when he saw me he ran to show me what he found in the store. I didnt know if I shoud hug and kiss him or kill him.
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@rouwel23 (1353)
• Philippines
21 Sep 07
yup we have mixed feeling when these things happen. but let us hug and kissed them all the while because these wonderful angels are one of our reasons of living. indeed it is very nervous to have somebody lost in a big store. but your story is one wherein you have found your child. some people have lost their child forever. some kidnappers are waiting to steal children and sell them or auction them for smuggling. let us always be wary of people who would come to steal and kidnap our kids. let us always be careful. be safe.
• Brazil
22 Sep 07
it looks for to inquire tself where it is the department of children to see if they help to find the child
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@meaculpa (338)
• Philippines
21 Sep 07
I would not want to imagine my child being lost in the crowd not even in my dreams, it would be a nightmare! Though I have thought of this as a prevention. I have been teaching my 6yr and 4yr old kids if ever they will be lost should they cry? They would answer "no". Next, I ask them, what will you do? Then I answered for them, try to go to the police or the guards and inform them that you are lost. I teach them how to state their name, address, telephone number, names of parents. If possible, kids should wear identification cards for their protection. Parents must orient kids and parents must not bring kids to crowded places so as to prevent such.
@rouwel23 (1353)
• Philippines
24 Oct 07
that is a good idea having an identification card for children for their protection in cases they would indeed be lost.
• China
21 Sep 07
yes ,it is a nightmare ,but you can change that if you do something carefully
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@rouwel23 (1353)
• Philippines
27 Sep 07
yup. there could be changes we can make. like teaching the child to go to the customer counter or customer service counter if he or she thinks that he or she is lost. to let the child know his or her name and the name of his or her parents.
• United States
21 Sep 07
We went to the mall, the entire family, and we was just about to leave and my husband went ahead of us to go pull the car up to the door for us, and we walked slow and my 9 yr. old said he was going out with dad, and ran ahead to catch him. The rest of us kept walking slow, and continued looking at things as we were heading to the exit door, and we finally got out the door, and my husband said where is Jonathan, and I said stop playing he came out with you, and he said no he is not out here with me. I started to panic and my husband said you stay here, and I will go in and look. I kept walking around saying oh my goodness where is he, and a worker saw me and asked are you looking for a little boy and I said yes. She told me to go in by security that they had him there. My older son ran in to tell my husband, and I ran back in as well to find the security, and just as my husband met up with us we heard there she is. We turned around and the security officer stood there by the counter with my son I ran over and said where did you go he said I had to go to the bathroom. I said the next time tell me. You scared me so bad, and we all left the store together.
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@rouwel23 (1353)
• Philippines
24 Sep 07
hehehe. it is so scary to lose a child in a department store. and sometimes the child would do things that could be unexpected and beyond our control. good for you your child found you in time.
@butterfly39 (3906)
• Philippines
21 Sep 07
Well I just thanked God for keeping my children safe...I always have the assurance that it won't happen to my kids cause we don't go out much in a crowded place such as malls. My husband and I make sure that our eyes will keep on them especially in going out to church, or even market... It's a big responsibility to lost our own child....
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@rouwel23 (1353)
• Philippines
23 Sep 07
good for you to always keep your eyes to your children. and to keep your children safe too. praying to God for protection helps.
@eprado (1470)
• Philippines
21 Sep 07
Hello rouwell23, I haven't lost a child or have gotten lost when I was a child inside a big mall. I usually stick whoever I am with when going out as a child. Its very scary to think that you have lost a child. I have seen many in the news and its very sad for the parents. I think when ever we are in a crowded or big place with our kids we should always keep our hands on them and never let them go by themselves. :-)
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@rouwel23 (1353)
• Philippines
22 Sep 07
yup. we should never let them go by themselves in a very crowded place where there is a high percentage for them to be lost. I have seen alternative methods to keep your child always with you especially in a mall with a large crowd of people.
• Brazil
22 Sep 07
it looks for to inquire itself where it is the department of children to see if they help to find the child
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@ranitam22 (1147)
• United States
22 Sep 07
I got lost for about 10 minutes at Kmart. I know I was young. I was old enough to know to go up to a sales associate for help. But she paged my mom who was actually in the next aisle. I still remember that. I know I worked in a retail store and so many parents would drop their kids off at the toy section or let their kids run all through the store. I helped reunite some kids who eventually got lost. I tried to warn people that their child could get hurt, or someone could try to take them. It was some kids that would be running in and out the store where traffic was right outside while their parents were aisles away not paying attention. It is not something that feels good when it happens.
• Spain
21 Sep 07
Yes, this has happened to me three times although not in a department store. The first time I was on the beach abroad with my eldest son who must have been about 3 at the time, and his grandparents. While his grandfather was playing with him, I was sorting out something with my mother and was temporarily distracted. When I turned around he had disappeared. Some how I didn't outwardly panic but noticing we were near a tunnel under the road I ran down that way and instinctively ran up the stairs to find him standing right by an extremely busy main road. Even today I still have flashbacks about it but of course he remembers nothing about it. The second time I was with my son, then aged 5, and 3 of his cousins aged 3 to 9, in the Science Museum in central London. We'd all been to the IMAX cinema on the top floor and somehow my son and the 6 year old cousin had managed to find another way out, rather than using the exit, and disappeared into a 5 storey building. I then spent the next half hour dragging the other 2 kids up and down the escalators looking for them before a security guard eventually tracked them around, slightly freaked out but none the worse for wear. The third time was more serious in that my youngest escaped out of an open back gate of his cousins' house and wandered down the road barefoot where a well meaning person found him and took him to the police station. He'd only just started walking and the cousin, back from school on the first day of term, forgot the gate. With so many people around it was a few minutes before we realized he wasn't just in another room, and whilst I was scouring the streets panicking, my sister-in-law had the sense to phone the police who luckily soon phoned back having located him. Once again he was too young to be aware of what was going on, but my eldest was very sheken up and we both had nightmares afterwards. I guess the main lessons to learn are to never assume or trust anyone else to keep an eye on your kids, when you're in a group, and to make sure the children always have a contact plan. In the case of younger children always have your content details on view eg cellphone number on a wristband, and for older children have a central meeting point in case you get separated and make sure they have your cellphone number, and if practical have their own phone
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• United States
21 Sep 07
YES!! lol I must have been around 5 or 6 yrs old, me and my mother went to the store, a department store. While she was shopping I was hiding under the circular racks that the clothes hung on, playing hide and seek with my mother. She either figured I was moving along from rack to rack with her or I figured she was still where I was! When she didnt respond to me, I panicked and started running around the store only I didnt see her. A woman, luckily a nice woman, took me to the front of the store and had my mother paged. I was so scared, and from then on I didnt hide in any more clothes racks to play hide and seek! Bay xx
@rouwel23 (1353)
• Philippines
27 Sep 07
that is a funny experience. so since then you did not played hide and seek anymore. you learned your lesson regarding not to be lost in the department store. good for you there was a nice woman at that time who helped you find your mother. did you happen to catch the woman's name?
• United States
27 Sep 07
Your right, I never did that again when I went to the store with my mom, I was always right there by her side from then on. No I didnt catch her name, but I remember my mom being really grateful to her. Im sure my mom got it, its been sooooo long ago. hehe Bay xx
@rouwel23 (1353)
• Philippines
10 Oct 07
hehehe. so you learned your lesson.
@wisedragon (2328)
• Philippines
21 Sep 07
When I was about 5-7 years old I was in a mall with my family. We were walking when a big group of people walked between me and my family, causing me to deviate and start walking in a different direction. I just kept on walking when suddenly I realized I was all alone. I was terrified! I ran searching for my family. When I couldn't find them, I decided to go to where we parked our car. That's where I found them and they didn't even realize they lost me for about 10-15 minutes! My suggestion is to hold on to your kid's hand especially if the place is crowded.
@rouwel23 (1353)
• Philippines
26 Sep 07
yeah. hold on the kid's hand to not lost the child in a crowded place. there are holders wherein you tie a string on your wrist and the other end on the child's wrist. the child could only move like two meters away from you and that would be the only distance your child could move away from you. good for you to have remembered where your family haved parked your car.
• Philippines
21 Sep 07
i don't have a child yet but my brother once went to a mall with his almost 5 year old son. it was december 29, 2000. the mall was so crowded at the time during the holiday season. and he lost his son at the entrance of the mall. he's such a big guy and he was so ashamed to admit he lost sight of his son. he panicked so he called up his wife at home and told her about it. my sister-in-law calmly reassured him that everything will be alright and he just need to report it to the customer service. so he gave the description of his son to the customer service (almost 5 years old, more than 3 feet tall, wearing a blue shirt and maong shorts and he is... fat). my brother dallied at the last word. :) fortunately my nephew got into a bookstore coz he was so fascinated with books at the time. when the announcement of a lost child was heard by the storekeeper, she approached my nephew and asked him "are you lost?". my nephew simply just said , "no i'm not. although my father is missing." :) really... losing a child in a crowded place is a nightmare for the companion. so to avoid it, i just simply don't bring a child in crowded areas where it's easy to lose a child. if it can't be helped: -talk and remind the child to behave and just make sure that you always hold the child in your care. -provide him an ID to wear (with contact information included). -the child must know vital information like his full name, name of his parents or his companion, or even his address and phone number -orient the child that if in case he got lost, he should approach somebody (a security guard or sales person) and ask assistance ***these are the things we do for my nephews and nieces. if you lost a child: -never panic. keep focused. -inform the authorities or in case of the mall, inform the customer service or even a guard.
@rouwel23 (1353)
• Philippines
22 Sep 07
yup it is a nightmare to lose a child in a crowded place. it is wonderful to orient a child in cases when he got lost. and never to panic when losing a child too.
@lenapoo (678)
• United States
22 Sep 07
I've never lost my child in a department store, but when I was a kid my dad lost me in a department store. We were in K-mart and he was talking to somebody and I got bored just standing there so I decided to go off on my own. My mother was so upset when he called her to say I can't find her. Well finally after a lot of searching I was spotted in the stock room eating some gummy bears sitting on the floor alone. It wasn't that bad, but I just didn't want to have to go through that with my kids so I make sure that I have them in a cart whenever we go in a store even if it is for five minutes and that I keep them close by me at all times.
@twowizdom (861)
• Philippines
22 Sep 07
As a child I have been lost in many department stores and malls and it was really a nightmare for me...lol.. I could remember myself from before how I cry and cried as I was looking for my mom good thing a sales lady on a department store saw me and took me to the customers service and by that I was then reunited with my mom.. ^_^