so sad that this happen now...
By andrejuly84
@andrejuly84 (1047)
Romania
September 21, 2007 3:39pm CST
let me tell you my problem if i can say so.i had a deskmate in high school.he was a boy and me a girl but we were simply friends.i used too help him much with the homework and with the test papers.we were good friends but nothing else happened between us.i liked him a lot at hat time but i had a partner so i couldn't say anything to him.and most of all i was shame to tell him that i would like him to be my lover as i felt that he won't look at me more than at a friend .i thought he didn't liked me as a woman.few months ago he got my phone number and sent me few messages but nothing so spectaculous.anyway,two days ago i called him as i wanted to sell him an assurances and then he called me and asked me to borrow himsome books he needed for university as he is also studying law.i met him yesterday talked as old friends we were and than asked me my yahoo id.i gave it to him and than in in the evening i got some offlines from him telling me i am so beautiful,more beautiful than i was before and that he wanted to meet me again and he would like to love me.today we talked on mess and both of us confessed we had some feelings when we were in highschool but none of us had the courage to tell each other.i feel so sorry about all the love i lost!
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16 responses
@braveheart07 (2601)
• Philippines
23 Sep 07
I think you are destined to be with him. It is really amazing that up until now, you still have the communication with him. I know for the fact that both of you are shy to tell the truth and feelings inside in you, but since you have this communication with him, then there is a great chance that he will be able to tell you that he is inloved with you. You just have to wait patiently and don't give up. Be sure that your communication will not be cut off. If both the two of you have spare time, why not go out and have some fun with each other. In this manner, it would produce a strong relationship bonding between the two of you.
Wish you all the best!
Have a nice day!
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@andrejuly84 (1047)
• Romania
24 Sep 07
things would be more easier if i wouldn't already have a family,a child.i think is too late for us.he told me that if i wouldn't be involved he would like us to be together forever.we lost our chance for loving since we were in highschool and never had the courage to confess our feelings.regrest come too late.can we still be friends now knowing all this about us?hardly to say.although we been always just friends now is harder to behave as simply friends.i am 23 he is 24,we are studying the same thing just in different universities.but destiny didn't want to put us together
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@claire03 (1443)
• United States
22 Sep 07
Don't feel sorry about it now andrejuly84 cause it's already late for him to realize he has feelings for you. You have your own life now and you have kids already. Maybe it's not really meant to be you and him and maybe friendship is all you can ever be. If he didn't find the courage to tell you before i don't think he deserve you. If you really love somebody you'll do the things that you never you can do, maybe his feelings is not that strong enough to fight for you. Just focus on your new life now and your family, there's a lot of temptation around us nowadays. Be strong to know and decide what's right for you. :) God Bless!
@andrejuly84 (1047)
• Romania
24 Sep 07
i really can understand why he didn't had courage to tell me as i had a boyfriend very possesive,coming everyday at my school to take me home and even during the breaks to see what i am doing.
@royal52gens (5488)
• United States
22 Sep 07
Sounds like you have an opportunity to explore this relationship to see if there is anything of true value there or not. Go slow, keep your eyes open and protect your heart. Enjoy the friendship. Do not do anything you will regret though. This could be a good thing.
@aseretdd (13730)
• Philippines
22 Sep 07
It is no use crying over spilled milk on that... it is a lost love and the two of you already have your own lives to live... if you dwell on the past lost love... it might not be healthy or fair to both of your families... so... i suggest that you go on with your life without that guy because something might happen that you will regret...
@andrejuly84 (1047)
• Romania
22 Sep 07
i know,you are right but the situation seemed so amazing to me.but life could be so strange
@Flight84 (3048)
• United States
22 Sep 07
Awwww...that is sad! Are both of you in relationships right now? It's funny how you like people in high school and never act on it, and then you find out later in life that they liked you too. It's like being star-crossed lovers. I hope everything works out for you. You guys can still enjoy being friends even if you can't be together.
@damitajoey (99)
•
21 Sep 07
It doesnt matter, what matters is you have him now, so enjoy your moments to the full. Love is something you can enjoy but make sure you dont get urself too attached and not get hurt, cuz men cant be trusted.
@andrejuly84 (1047)
• Romania
22 Sep 07
if i wouldn't have a partner maybe it would be easier to enjoy this love if i can call it so,but i can't enjoy it,i just can stay and think about all that could happen but didn't happen
@reeseyj (906)
• United States
22 Sep 07
Why feel sorry? you know it now so take advantage of it. You prabably were not ready back then and the proof of that is neither of you had the courage to tell one another that you had these feelings. Because you both know what you want in life and are basically established as individuals, the chances of you growing apart are very slim. So be happy. good luck.
@raijin (10345)
• Philippines
22 Sep 07
Such a wonderful yet painful story andrejuly84, but it's too late to make regrets. You both have different lifes now, don't try to ruin with one such foolish thoughts you have in mind. Don't fall too much of him, it could be just infatuation you feel and that you might end up wasting other's life. All you can do now is, befriend him and continue what you have in your life now.
@suspenseful (40193)
• Canada
22 Sep 07
Sometimes love needs time to grow. You and he were probably not yet ready when you were in high school, but now you were. Besides it might have been that both your parents would have put a stop to it and that would have made you even more unhappy.
At least, now you found each other, but at least now you know that your feelings then were true and sure. Too bad about the long absence though. It was only a short time between high school and university though.
@Debs_place (10520)
• United States
22 Sep 07
You can't change the past, just enjoy the present and look forward to the future.
Cherish what you have now and who knows..you have changed since then and so has he, maybe you would have gotten together and broken up.
@eshaan (6188)
• India
22 Sep 07
Love is never lost, the moment u realise that u love someone the love starts at that time, and how hard u try to be away from it, it will bloom like flowers and spread its fragrance and u can't hide it from anyone.Maybe whatever ur age, ur situations are but love is love and u can't stop urself proceeding in it.And if u r giving a second thought then its not love,coz there is no right or wrong,good or bad in love.
@nmhschic2004 (1238)
• United States
22 Sep 07
Thats too bad you didnt get a chance to experience love with him. Sometimes its better to take a chance and just let all of our feelings out. Are you both free now? If so then go for it. You dont have anything to lose now. You both know your feelings for each other. Good luck. =)
@vicki2876 (5636)
• Canada
22 Sep 07
I understand what you are saying. There was a guy I was good friends with in highschool but I had a very serious boyfriend and there was no way we would have dated. We really had a good time together in school and I did like him but was involved. Just recently we met up in facebook after 12 years and were messaging back and forth. He told me how much he liked me in school but didn't say anything because of my boyfriend. We talk now like the years apart were nothing and we are close again. But now I am 2000km away with three childern and a partner. Though I am happy with my life it is sad that we missed out a chance on a relationship.
I think what makes it okay with me though is that I guess it wasn't meant to happen. If he would have told me in highschool would I have left my boyfriend then, no. I was living with him and depended on him so I wouldn't have left. When I finally left him I moved very far away and would I have changed that then if I knew he liked me no. I had to move away when I did. Would I go with him now if we were closer together, no. I have a family now and I am happy. So I guess we weren't meant to be lovers but I will take the great friend and enjoy that. Good friends are really hard to find. Good Luck! Vicki
@LearningDavid (22)
• China
22 Sep 07
Anyway,I think you're a lucky girl! Because you know he love you at last. To happen something is good,but nothing happened is also good. And you can enjoy his love and yours for the rest of your life,even if you can't get married.
