Do you have enough guts?

United States
September 21, 2007 8:13pm CST
If your neighbor is playing music of bass so loud it comes through your walls and gives you wife a headache and disrupts your household in general, would you have the guts to go over there and ask him/her to turn it down? And if you did, would you feel bad about it afterwards? I do.I think I have this pathologic "feel bad" gene. It seems like it's turned off in a lot of other people.
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15 responses
• United States
22 Sep 07
Yup. My husband and I frequently go around to neighbors and tell them to turn their music down, especially those with the sub-woofers bass. Where we live, there are many quartz veins running under the neighborhood, which only amplifies the sounds that travel in the ground. You can be inside and clearly hear AND feel a sub-woofer bass, but you step outside and it's quiet. We can have the window a/c units on (and you know they aren't quiet units) and the TV on and STILL hear the thump thump thump. We've reported license plates of cars that frequent our street that have those basses going also. I don't know what makes people think they have the right to just blast their music, forcing everyone else to hear it. We have the right NOT to hear it. I don't like rap, street music, hip-hop, etc ... so what makes you think I want to hear it at obscene decibels. In addition, that sub-woofer bass makes me literally sick to my stomach. And they have that affect on a lot of people. *gets off of her soapbox before she truly gets into a rant about this subject* *smiles sweetly*
@raijin (10373)
• Philippines
22 Sep 07
As a citizen, I do believe that I have the rights to have privacy. If someone, even neighbors, disturbs my rest then I'd instantly approach them and let them know that someone is resting and if they could lower down their volume, I have a neighbor like that also, that I confronted and told to tone his steroe's volume because it's still way too early in the morning to make such a noise like that..
@violeta_va (4834)
• Australia
22 Sep 07
If its during reasonable hours and the noise is not above legal I am ok, I have rights but they also do. In australia even the police cant to a thing if its during the day (we have strict laws when it comes to noise and we stricly obey those). I dont mind at all. Even when people have an ocasional party and go pass the legal hour I am ok as it does not happen every day I let the people enjoy the party but than again we dont have to many of those and most of the people turn the music down so its not a problem.
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@roniroxas (10574)
• Philippines
22 Sep 07
i knew someone who doesnt tell his neighbor to turn down low the music but he calls the police and let the police take care of it.
@Valce1 (173)
• Canada
22 Sep 07
Everybody has it :P But you didn't do anything wrong, so hopefully your sense of reason will push that down.
• United States
22 Sep 07
Thanks :)
@Bunsdk (242)
• Denmark
22 Sep 07
Usually I just tolerate it, ive been young and had parties myself. But if its random and constantly they play loud music, I do react and ask them to turn it down. When you do, just remember to do it tactfully and with respect. Most ppl just plunge in and demand the music shut down, and if the person playing it is a youngster with a " I dont take no ####" kinda lifestyle, youll be in way over your head. Ive never really had any problems with getting ppl to turn down the music. Not even the naighboor that was former Hells angels biker. He might be superintense when he was drunk and such, but as he said himself: I was so straightforward with my request that even though he was set for ignoring complaints and even turned on to start a fight he felt that he should turn it down. I didnt give any excuses for why he should turn it down. I just asked for it. Didnt try to guilttrip him, didnt demand it, and he liked that so he complied.
• United States
22 Sep 07
I am tryng to learn to be more straight forward myself. I think it saves a lot of hassel for everybody involved. I just need to not feel bad about it. Great answer!
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@runsgame (2032)
• India
23 Sep 07
well my friends and my wife use to say this - that is my guts. and of course i am brave in all senses and i am always pessimistic you know
• United States
23 Sep 07
...In a heart beat! I asked nice the first time. ...The second time I went over with a baseball bat to knock on their door! Told them if they didn't turn it down and stop waking up my baby, I'd start taking out headlights on cars in their driveway! I was very pregnant with my second child, so you could say I wasn't myself. ...Third time, I just called the police. Two of them were arrested that night and the owner moved shortly after this happened. ...Did I feel guilty afterwards? No, not a bit. People who have no respect for others, untimately have no respect for themselves. ...Peace be with you. =(^;^)= Della
@luluwow (165)
• United States
23 Sep 07
Considering how some people fly off into a mad rage, I would not go over to the loed neighbors home. I would give one phone call asking them to tone it down, the next call would be the police. that is their job, not mine.
@jmbauer (43)
• United States
23 Sep 07
I agree with the poster who said be straightforward but tactful. Now, say whatever disturbance has got you fighting mad. Are you more or less likely to go over and plunge right in, irrespective of any consiquences?
@wisedragon (2330)
• Philippines
22 Sep 07
loud - some people can be so insensitive of others
Personally I'm not sensitive to that sort of thing. I can tolerate it. But if it is giving my wife a headache then I would definitely do something about it. I might go there myself or I can call building/village security or even the police and let them handle it. If the problem persists we can always move out of the area. No sense being around jerks like that.
• United States
22 Sep 07
Hiya JackBravo, Well, I sort of have this problem, and there seems to be this time frame that people have accustomed themselves too. lol Where I live, people feel that between the hours of 10am and 10pm, you can pretty much be as loud as you want. I however disagree with this, and find it difficult to live with the drums and guitars on the weekends from my neighbors garage. Those are my neighbors on the west side of me. On the east side of me, we have a new Tuba player for the Jr High School, and what wouldnt you know it the mother sends him "outside" on their back deck to practice around 6pm. I do hope this deteriorates as the weather changes and climate get cooler! I would love to say something, but my husband is more easy going and says "let it go honey" lol So by the advice of my husband I try and be tolerant. I guess Im just more considerate of the noise coming from our place that I would think others would too. Not the case. I think I would feel badly afterwards if I did say something. If you think about it, there really is no way of saying something like that nicely, or should I say that most wont realise that your trying to be nice. Bay xx
@archer1811 (1099)
• Philippines
22 Sep 07
I dont know if I will have the guts to tell my neighbor to turn it off, and first my husband wont let me do that because he will think of the neighbors reaction afterwards. We been into that situation before, but its not about the loud music playing of my neighbor, its about the bad odor of my neighbors pet doves, they have a cage near our yard and the smell of it really coming through inside our living room, that you cannot really take to sit down an hour inside the living room because of the bad smell coming from their pets, its maybe the food they eat and of course they dont clean that often so the results was the bad smell. I dont know if they smell that too, that it came to a point that I really really wanted to tell my neighbor but my husband dont let me do that because he thinks that i well hurt our neighbors feeling. Thanks God that know we dont have that problem anymore maybe they realize it.
• United States
22 Sep 07
Hi... I would most defenatly go over there and ask them to turn it down, now if they didnt and I had to go back over there and be mean I would feel bad..
• United States
22 Sep 07
You know, I used to do this all the time. People can be so inconsiderate. I used to say something not only about music, but also a lot of other annoying noises. The thing is, most of those people would ignore me and do whatever they wanted to. I also used to get people who would fight back and almost come to blows. I would tell the manager and they would tell me that I'm the only one who hears these it and tell everyone else that I'm crazy. So, I pick my battles. If they guy is playing it really loud at 2AM that it reverberates throughout my apartment, then, yes, I still go and say something. Otherwise, I try to drown out the noise myself. Often, if the person only does it once in a while and not for very long, I will try to tolerate it.