To love or to be loved. Which is more important?

@owlwings (41903)
Cambridge, England
September 28, 2007 6:27am CST
I think that both are important but that to love is better for one's soul. To be loved is also important, of course, but it is better to give than to receive. What do you think?
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20 responses
• Philippines
29 Sep 07
Hi owlwings.. I think both the two is very important in our life, but if we are going to weigh them, to love is much heavier when compared to the other one. These two are vice versa. We have to love other people so that others may also love you. Love may either start from the other person, then to you afterwards or opposed to that. From the very start, we were already loved with our parents even though we do not show them our love during our young age because we do not have yet enough knowledge and understanding about the meaning of love. But as time goes by, we grow old and we tend to understand and realize that we should love our parents because they were the one who made and gave birth to us in this beautiful world. So I think these two really matter and have its own significance as well. Have a great day! You're topic is nice! God speed!
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• India
28 Sep 07
well i have felt both to love and to be loved. its good to be loved but it feels great when you feel that you have the heart to love somebody too. love is a heavenly feeling which can only be experienced when you actually love someone. and i feel if you love someone with sincerity then you will surely beget love in return. so love to be loved.
@lucky_witch (2711)
• Philippines
18 Oct 07
I believe that it is both important. To be love.. it is important because we all need feel that we are important and we matter to other people. WE need to feel security that love brings. And to love... it is important because it will make us complete, it will make us happy and will make life worth living...
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@villageanne (8554)
• United States
16 Oct 07
I think that to be loved, you must first love. You cannot be loved by someone else if dont first show love. We all have the need for love but it is only by giving it that we can appreciate the love that is given us.
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@estherlou (5017)
• United States
15 Oct 07
This is one of those "apples or oranges" discussions that makes you think! Needing to be loved is important, and helps us to feel fulfilled, but to give out love is more fulfilling in the long run. HMMMM....I think they actually go hand in hand...giving love would make you lovable, and you would probably have someone in your life that loves you in return whether it be family or significant other.
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@caribe (2465)
• United States
11 Oct 07
They are both equally important, however, we have not control over whether someone loves us. We can give love the best we know how and make ourselves lovable but the rest is up to other person. So when it comes right down to where the rubber meets the road I would say it is more important to love because this is something we have an amount of control over.
@sunshinecup (7880)
29 Sep 07
Wow wonderful question! Yes it's a blast giving love and seeing how happy we can make someone. Yet on the other hand, I have been in a relationship where it was me giving and not getting a drop back in return. That wasn't so hot. So if I had to pick between the two, it would be better to receive it. Love to us humans is like the sunlight to flowers, without it we can't survive really, not emotionally any way.
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@academic2 (7009)
• Uganda
29 Sep 07
owlwings, in the business of love, there must be a give and take situation. You must love and see it returned to you in kind. As soon as you discover that your love is not being reciprocated, then you know you are not in the business of love, you may choose to stay the pain silently or just walk away. I dont see a point in giving my heart to someone who trumples over it mindlessly, for every basket of love i give, i would be happy with a similar basket back to me, with that I will know my love is not in vain!
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• Philippines
29 Sep 07
Me, i am more of a giver than receiver. I used to give love to my love one no matter of their shortcomings. I don't care of shortcomings, for me as long as i can make them happy it gives me happiness also. If i can provide for my family, if they can survive their lives because of me it makes my life worth it.
@MsTickle (25051)
• Australia
29 Sep 07
This is one of those areas where I think balance is crucial to our own well being. My ability to love someone is limited. My ability to accept love is damaged. This leaves me pretty empty. I have loved in the past but I've loved selfish people and not been loved in return. Now, I'm overly cautious and of course, I'm alone. I have my animals, and they need me. That's better than nothing.
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@gradyslady (4055)
• United States
28 Sep 07
I think that they are both equally important.
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@evangleen (219)
• India
28 Sep 07
Hey, right said pal, both are important. After all love is the energy that charges you up to love somebody. You need what you give. But sometimes to love may be difficult but the most rewarding and when you love with all your self then what you get back may be something even greater that what you could ever expect. Love is a beautiful feeling and to love is the best part of it. When you give love, it is encsured that you will get it back too. This universe gives you back what you give to it. Keep loving without expectations. Take Care
@dexsha28 (73)
• Philippines
28 Sep 07
To love means to feel a happiness you never felt before but also to endure all the pain of this world! To love is to cry, to smile, to laugh, to be jealous, to think and sometimes to even feel the pain! To love is a powerful feeling that can either destroy you or make you a better person! To be loved is wonderful! To have someone that cares for you, has faith and hope in you, never gives up on you and is always there for you is something that everyone wishes for! To be loved might fulfill you or might make you feel empty? To be loved but not love in return might leave you feeling numb for you are getting all the care and attention from someone but you never felt any of these things for anyone. You only felt emptiness! To feel is important but you are numb to emotions and feelings, beacause you simply do not love!
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• United States
28 Sep 07
...Biblical teachings say we are to love. Love the Lord, your God and love your neighbors. When we do this, we receive love in return. ...Peace be with you. =(^;^)= Della
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@viroop (155)
• China
28 Sep 07
to beloved is more important than tolove yes.because when we love themwe always thinkthat a person shuold be theretolove us and to makelove of us.that is why to be loved is more important.
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@sophylline (1042)
• Philippines
20 Dec 07
This is what I think, it is better to act out the love you have. It is better when you have so much love to give. It is better to experience and feel the love you have when you are able to to share it and give. It is more satisfying to be able to see and know that what you have given benefited someone or some people. Love has somehow have the ability to make you free. Love has somehow gives you a level of freedom. I agree with you, to love is better for one's soul.
@ebtenorio (765)
• Philippines
23 Nov 07
For me, here is what I could say: "Better to have loved than not to have loved at all." - It actually would not matter for me if I am loved, what matters more is that I love....Specially that someone who captivated my heart for all eternity.
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• United States
17 Dec 09
I feel both is equally imporant. To me they say it is better to give than to get and I believe there is some truth to that statment but when it comes to love in my opinion I feel we need to have it back as well as giving it out. Now I know sometimes in relationships they need and take can change daily and what I mean by that is one day your partner might need more attention than you do and thats fine but I think there need to be some kinda of happy median in order for the friendship or realtionship to prosper. Nice topic and happy mylotting to you.
@zhuhuifen46 (3485)
• China
24 Nov 09
I fully agree with you, and we have been taught from early ages that to give is better than to receive. Ladies of my age always play a major role of providing love, to spouse, to children, to relatives, etc. But experience tells us that while appreciating being loved, some men prefer those who know how to request and receive love. There is much skill to learn in family relationship.
@Modestah (11192)
• United States
17 Mar 08
we are told to love our neighbor as ourselves, and to love even our enemy, even if we are not promised any love from them in return... that is not the object. being loved is a great gift bestowed upon and allowed us - but if we are not loved by our fellow man we must treat him still with dignity and charity. Christ gave the greatest gift, laying down His life for another - He laid His down not only for those who loved Him but for those who will love Him and even for those who will not... yes, it is far greater to give than it is to receive. but our tainted concupiscence sometimes leaves us pouting for not getting what we think we deserve.