HELP! My Best Guy Friend Confessed His Love For Me...

I have also had an experiece like this! My best friend is male and has been my best mate for as long as I can remember. We lived together and everyone told me that it was obvious he thought of me as more than just a friend. I didn't believe it of course and told them all that the idiot was ridiculous. However, over the 3 year span of our relationship, I found patterns. There were times where we got drunk and kisses, and spent the night together in bed, but no more than a kiss was ever exchanged. We told each other we loved each other everyday and we truly did. There were times where it was obvious that he was more into me than at first I wanted to believe, but then there were also times that I thought thath maybe our friendship could progress further. Fortunately, we never voiced these opinions to each other, just mutual friends and that's how I found out about his little "phases" of wanting more. We both experienced these awkward feelings but thankfully, neither of us took it any further, and it's a period in our lives that would always pass. In my eyes, I was very fortunate to have the friendship I did with him, and I think, if we had have made things more than what it was, it wouldn't have lasted very long and I would have lost a great friend. I think you should tell your friend how you feel and that you don't want to jeopardise the relationship you already have. Because, not only do you have a partner at the moment, but there is always the chance that in time, taking it further, you could lose a friend as well. Put it down to drunken stupidity and just be honest, in time he will respect that!

Tell him how you are feeling. It'll hurt him, but he's gotta hear it.

Well that can happen. I would just tell your friend that you are flattered but you want to remain strictly friends and that you are with your boyfriend and that is not going to change. I don't think I would tell your boyfriend because it could start more problems...but if this other guy doesn't back off...you may have too. However the fact that he is friends with your boyfriend and still telling you he loves you is not good either...this is a tough one...I think it is up to you?

i think you shouls tell your friend clearly that you are in love with someone else and cant be his ..evn if it hurts him ..but if u just ignore he will think that you too have feelings for him and that will hurt him more ..and i hope you donot want to see your friend more hurt ..so it is better to hav things clear out ..and still if you have feelings for both of them ..and are in confusion ...just sit alone ..think of the postitives and negatives of both of them ..y you like them and y you dont ...then just close your eyes and think whom you want ...whoever comes to your mind first is the right person for you ...this is what we indians do whn we are confused...just listen to your heart

lol! thats hard, i had that one before but not same situation, anyway, is he drunk too? i think if you dont like him you have to expalian him, its a big trouble when your boyfriend knows a bout it. geee. sometimes it happened. you have to do something now to stop it.just let him feel that your not interested with him i think he will be fine. sorry for him but you have to follow your heart.

You schould tell him how you feel about what he said and how it makes youfeel now coming over to his house.Hopefull he is a true friend and not let it come between you guys.....Good luck!!!!

Did you tell your boyfriend about this??? If you haven't you should because you may get count in an even more ackward situation if he tells him. I had my husband's best friend hit on me back when we were still dating. I told him it was wrong and that I didn't want to see him around anymore and he was to stay away from me unless it was with my boyfriend (husband now). I had to act a bit cold toward him for him to get the point that I was ticked off. I do have a tendency of comming off as a tease when I don't mean to. I was friends with him too, but after that I couldn't be anymore. It's gotton better since that was 3 years ago, but it's still ackward to be around him. I just act like it never happened but keep him at arms length.

Just be honest and clear. Tell him you don't feel that way. Its better to let him know your true feelings. This may be one sided love. Make him understand that You have a BF and you are happy with him.

I think it would be better to tell your friend about your feelings for him. Explain to him nicely. And I think you can still continue your friendship despite of his confession. Atleast he tell it and he just want to be true to you. Atleast you know how he feels for you incase the feelings is mutual. Just be kind to him after all you have things shared together.

i think you shouls tell your friend clearly that you are in love with someone else and cant be his ..evn if it hurts him ..but if u just ignore he will think that you too have feelings for him and that will hurt him more ..and i hope you donot want to see your friend more hurt ..so it is better to hav things clear out ..and still if you have feelings for both of them ..and are in confusion ...just sit alone ..think of the postitives and negatives of both of them ..y you like them and y you dont ...then just close your eyes and think whom you want ...whoever comes to your mind first is the right person for you ...this is what we indians do whn we are confused...just listen to ypur heart

Be frank on him. Tell him what you really feel. His your friend so don't feel it like that you dump your friendship just because he confessed that he likes you. happy posting:)

I think you got your answer right there: he was wasted. Just chalk it up to the booze talking and pretend it didn't happen. I know its hard to forget, but don't bring it up and i bet you he won't bring it up because he won't remember. Some people get honest when they are drunk, but more often than not, they "love everybody." Or say stuff they wished they shouldn't. Why don't you initiate activities and suggest you all meet at the movies or somewhere else for a change so you are not stuck staying at this guy's house at least til it blows over in your mind.

Well by experience its not good to mix love and friendship, someone will eventually get hurt.So my advise to you is follow your heart and choose whats best for you is it your friend that makes you happy or ist it your boyfriend. Rememmber the longer you take to do this the harder it will be for you. So just make the decision and also tell your friend how you feel and she how he reacts to it it might help your decision

Just be honest to your bestfriend and to yourself too. I know your situation is not so easy and how awkward it is like what you have mentioned. But things like this is really inevitable especially if you become close to each other.. simply because most friendships really grow into love!