Money Grubbing Vultures All Around...
By twoey68
@twoey68 (13627)
United States
October 18, 2007 12:50pm CST
I can't believe how ppl can demand an inheritance from ppl...WHILE THEIR STILL ALIVE!! I mean, good God, if your going to pick over their bones at least wait till their dead.
My Mom has 3 sisters and 1 brother. None of them want to take care of my Grandma and my Mom loves the time she gets with her Mom. But whenever one of them calls or comes by it's all about how much do they get, when do they get it, how come they don't get more and can they have it NOW! It's sickening to watch. When one of my Grandma's brothers passed away, his wife was actually committed by her daughters so they could make off with everything they wanted...thank God out of 3 daughters one was decent enough to help get her out and take her in.
I don't expect to get anything from either of my parents... it's just not anything I've really thought about. When my Dad passes away everything will go to my Stepmom and when she passes it will go to her two kids and their kids. My Stepdad has said when my Mom passes that he's hauling everything out in the yard and having a huge bonfire. It doesn't matter anyways b/c I would rather be able to get as much time with both of them as I can.
We had a foster kid that we had for just about the full 2 years we were foster parents and he became like a son to me. About a year ago he moved back near us and when we were talking about his future one day he tells me that when I get too old to live alone I can come live with him. I joked with him asking what about all my stuff. He says that it's ok b/c when I die he's going to get everything of mine and Hubby's anyways. He was dead serious. I was shocked. I asked him what about my Niece and Nephew and he replied he'd give them something...something he didn't want or like. So I told him that when I get to old to live on my own that I'm auctioning everything off and giving all the money to a dog/cat sanctuary!! He was furious, yelling about he'd burn them down before he'd let them have his money. I couldn't believe how he behaved. Talk about scary!! I've since had to cut ties with him (for other reasons) but it sure makes me aware of needing a will.
Why do ppl act this way? Why do they turn into such money grubbing vultures even when the ppl they are supposed to love are still alive? Why do they feel they are ENTITLED to an heritance?
!!HAPPY HALLOWEEN!!
**AT PEACE WITHIN**
~~STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS~~
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21 responses
@webeishere (36313)
• United States
18 Oct 07
Oh my gawdddd. Go read my discussion about siblings. Too ironic. I am going through the greed factor woth my older sister right now after a call this morning. Anyhow you can read it in my discussion. I can't believe that people can and are this greedy even before one passes away. What gives them the right to ask how much they have coming when etc etc. Un friggin real. I feel for you friend. IN MANY WAYS.
HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~
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@redyellowblackdog (10629)
• United States
18 Oct 07
"Why do ppl act this way?"
My hypothesis is that a generalized expectation of entitlement has been nurtured and encouraged by the government with its social welfare programs that has become so pervasive as to have entered even people's private lives.
That's my story and I'm sticking to it!
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@mamasan34 (6518)
• United States
20 Oct 07
I can't imagine why people would do this. I think it is atrocious behavior. It has happened in my own family though, everyone with a hand out but no one wanting to take care of them when they were alive. I can't believe your foster son acted like that towards you. How dare he? As for family, it's worse watching family turn into these vultures. Ugh, I can't stand seeing it and it just leaves a cold spot in your heart for these people afterward.
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@tinamwhite (3252)
• United States
18 Oct 07
I do not understand how people can behave in this manner...but have lived and seen it many times...shameful at the very least...
Like you, time with my loved ones means so much more to me than any material thing could possibly ever mean to me....and money is just so unimportant to me that few people understand my thoughts in that field...
I am so sorry that you are having to experience this behavior from your family....I have cut ties with most of my family because of similar behaviors....instead I focus on my family...the one that I gave life to and the continuation of that wonderful group of people....I know that they will not behave in this manner when my time comes....
A will is a good thing to have prepared...no day is guaranteed to us and the things that can arise from the lack of one would make your head spin....
Blessed be....and Happy Halloween to you as well....
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@suzieb (188)
• United States
21 Oct 07
It's horrible! I have a friend with a similar problem.
Her Grandmom passed resently. Now she was the only one taking care of her, the rest of the family didn't want to be bothered. She has 2 kids, but still went over every day to help grandmom. Her grandmom wanted to put just her on the will, but she peged her not to, because the family would fight about it. It didn't help becaus they still fought over it, "Why did you but her on the will and not my son". All she wants is her grandmom back. Even her husband is thinking about what he wants to do with the money.
I just can't understand, I was brought up that family is the most important thing, without them you have nothing. I don't sit around thinking about when mom or dad is going to die, I don't think I could take it, what would I do without them? The thought just makes me cry.
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@spiderlizard22 (3444)
• United States
18 Oct 07
That is a sad story. It seems all he wants is your stuff so he can sell it and make money off of your stuff. I am glad you told him you will have it auction off and give away to charity because if he truly cares about you he will not care what happens to your stuff after you die. The reason they feel they are entitled to a heritance because its free money for them. They want to get a lot of money, not work for it, and in a short amount of time. I bet their kids or grandkids will act like them if they don't change their ways.
@pumpkinjam (8539)
• United Kingdom
21 Oct 07
That is really sad when people are like that. I don't expect anything from my mum and dad (well, they don't have much anyway! But that's not the point).
People can be so rude and thoughtless. The kind of people you speak about, if they were my family, I would make sure they got nothing because they certainly don't deserve it. Some people are so greedy.
I don't have much but I've got enough and the saddest thing is that there are people with far more who are often the ones expecting to get their hands on other peoples stuff.
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@carolbee (16230)
• United States
21 Oct 07
Money is the root of all evil. I am a firm believer in that old saying. I recently lost my mother-in-law and saw firsthand how other family members can be so cruel to remove heirlooms and want to resell to an antique shop. I was livid and at times beyond control. It's not that I wanted those items but felt as though my mom-in-law wanted to keep certain items in the family. It was all about money and I find that to be rather disgustng.
Once upon a time, I had a son-in-law who was waiting for his grandmother to die so he could benefit. She's still alive and very old but can only assume he is standing with his hand out in advance. Now that's a vulture! Now wouldn't it be interesting if she outlived him?
@Cajunhellcat (2073)
• United States
20 Oct 07
People are just that way they are greedy and for what if they want things they should get out and work for it
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@mkirby624 (1598)
• United States
21 Oct 07
While people are very greedy, I think it's sad that everything of your dads will go to your stepmom, then to HER children. Shouldn't you be entitled? I mean, what if there is something of his that means a lot to you? Would you get to get it? Same with your mom. Sometimes, things like this are important, and I might be upset if my stepmom's kids were getting MY father's stuff.
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@seabeauty (1480)
• United States
29 Oct 07
That is just awful! My mom is 78 and I want to spend time with her, I am not thinking about money. That is such a shame how people can feel like they are entitled so someones money and things. If they leave it to you in their will then its yours but to expect it, that is a horrible thing.
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@MsTickle (25180)
• Australia
22 Oct 07
A couple of years ago I received a reasonable inheritance. Ever since my daughter has been whingeing that there is no-one to leave her anything. She sounds like a spoiled brat.
I don't think about what this person or that will leave me. I had no idea my aunt was leaving as much as she did. It's just not something I think out loud about. Sure you wonder about it but until it's there in front of you, it's nothing to do with you. The decision lies with the person leaving the inheritance.
@mattwilkie (278)
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18 Oct 07
Materialistic west.. Thats the answer.. everyone wants bling.. a new car and a better house..
For me I want to leave the society thats lost its interest in its families and what it means to be one.
Im heading to the Philippines where family is the most important thing. Im not materialistic and never have been I dont need Armani Jeans or a Versace shirt I want a family that loves me. Regardless of who i am. BUT i have a good advantage in life I was lucky to be born intelligent in multiple subjects and skills something my ex-partners have lived on for many years. Loving me because i put the plasma in the living room and the new car on the drive.. But if your one of the people I was.. Leave it! you deserve better.. find a woman who loves you for a person not an asset. My parents assets I dont even think about and none of my family do. But when you start involving people from outside i generally find they can naturally distance themselves.
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@cajunmomma (624)
• United States
19 Oct 07
We have some people like that in my family. When it comes to money, everyone wants a piece no matter who they hurt or take from.
@sharone74 (4837)
• United States
19 Oct 07
It is unseemly and just not right. It seems that the less there is to go around the more furious is the competition and the fighting for the stuff. I would trade all of the things and even if there were money in it, which there hasn't been in the past, not for me anyway, for the person that I loved and cared for back with me instead of gone. I know that it is to be expected but I don't like the vulture syndrome either. You forgot to metnion how a lot of people will steal bits and pieces of their inheritance while the person is still hale and hearty and in no danger of dying anytime soon. There are those people that will live with the aged person and let them support them all of their lives while they wait for the person to kick off and allow them to inherit. I know one guy that keeps asking his mom to let him kill her and just walk away from everything with his inheritance. I think he should be killed not the other way around.
@RobinJ (2501)
• Canada
20 Oct 07
Yes it is a very sad time when this happens and my sister-in law talked my ex mother in law in to signing every thing over to her and thus depriving my children of any thing, but the biggest joke was on my ex husband because he was left one hundred thousand dollars and he sold it for a few thousand dollars, his sister bought him off and he will take $ 10.00 today instead of $10000. a few years from now. My kids didn't want nor expect anything from their grandmother, sh never so much as gave them a birthday card never mind leave them any thing in her will all the grandkids were supposed to get $5000.00 and the bulk of the estate to her two kids my ex husband and his sister, so she ended walking off with at least 750 thousand dollars. and I am a firm believer in what goes around comes around. so I am not concerned, but in your instance you were right to set up a proper will.
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@jezzmay (1845)
• United States
19 Oct 07
This is a shame,but 9 times out 10 this is the way it is.I give my kids
what I want them to have now.I have gotten rid off evryhing esle and do
not plan on buying anything for them to fight over.I think you plan is
o.k.,but if you do not have will I would get one.
@Simoneetah (420)
• Canada
19 Oct 07
Wow that is some serious s**t. I really can't understand why people act the way they do about certain things. Especially your forster son. I don't know what would give him the idea that you would give everything to him. That is out of order. Sometimes family can really let you down and always feel entitled to something when they are not deserving. I know my aunt has issues with all her kids but only one (and I know which one) will definately getting the majority in her will.
@theprogamer (10534)
• United States
19 Oct 07
Its sick stuff and I've seen it before. Its really sad. But you think that's bad, check out stateside divorces. Some people (usually women) really have entitlement issues there and the law and the courts actually indulge it. -_-
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