Local or foreigner?

Hello Titaniumsoul, How are you? It's nice to visit with you again! Well, partnering with a person with different cultural values than one's self can be a very great challenge. However, many have proven that they are up to the challenge. I think it takes a very open-minded person to allow their own cultural infusion to blend with another's. It can be extraordiarilly difficult. Yet, as I mentioned, many have succeeded magnificently in this endeavor. For me personally, I would never consider anyone other than my own Hubby. Our values are so compatible that we've created a life together where we virtually never argue. We disagree on some things, yet we're both OK about agreeing to disagree. People with differing values might find that very difficult to achieve, because deep in the recesses of their minds they might be wondering whether the other partner thinks they're right because their culture is better, wiser, smarter, etc... than mine? In other words, when there is disagreement, the tendency could be there to look to the greater cultural differences. Again, inter-cultural unions can be utterly fulfilling. However, I would caution both partners to explore within themselves whether they are truly willing and able (when the hard times come knocking -- which they inevitably will) to view their partner as just another human being, rather than a Brit, Malay, American, Spaniard, Russian etc...

I prefer to have local partners. That way there won't be any problem on cultural differences. We share the same beliefs and traditions and will usually think in the same level. Having a partner from another country, you really have a lot of adjustments to do. You first have to learn his background and cultural beliefs which may cause conflict in the relationship at the end. But of course, we cannot undermine the fact that there are inter-cultural relationships that have worked successfully. I guess it depends on how much each are willing to adjust and accept the other.