Who should get the ring?

Absolutely agree that if the girl breaks it off, she should definitely return the ring. Otherwise she's like a con artist who fooled the guy into giving her an expensive piece of jewelry. Now if the guy is the one who broke it off, then I say she should sell the ring and enjoy the cash!

The girl should have decency and give the ring back. No marriage, no ring. I think that if the marriage actually happens though she should keep the rings, should they get divorced. She did finalize the commitment. Great discussion, sis!

If the guy paid for the ring, then yes, he should get it back, no doubt. HOWEVER, if he continually borrowed money from his fiance, and never paid it back, I have no problem with her keeping it to reclaim some of the money he owes her. Otherwise, be classy and give the ring back.

since it was given to seal a commitment and the commitment is now broken she should most definatly return it !

I agree, if the girl breaks it off she should return the ring. Its only fair.

I think the girl should definitely return the ring to the guy if she breaks off the engagement. Like you said, it's only fair for that to happen, assuming that the guy was the one who bought the ring (which is most often the case). The guy can have the ring pawned or sold so he can get his money back :) But I don't think he should give the ring to the next person that he would be planning to marry; it would be unfair for the next girl to get a ring that wasn't meant for her in the first place.

yup she should give back the ring If it were me I wouldnt want it . but then there are some that would keep it and some just get engaged just fo the ring for their collection I have seen one woman with 5 rings and she wore them.

I agree with you...If she wants to end it she should return the ring (unless for some strange reason it was an heirloom from her family's side and then it should just go to whoever was in charge of it before she got it). If he breaks it off though then it's just tough luck on his end. She should keep the ring and do withit as she pleases.(again unless it was an heirloom from his family and then she should be kind enough to return it)

It really depends on why the engagement was broken and what the laws are where the couple lives. For instance, in some states the law says that it doesn't matter why the engagement was broken or who broke it off, the ring belongs to the person who paid for it. In other states the law says that if the woman breaks it off for any reason the guy gets the ring back if he paid for it. If he breaks it off for any reason, then she gets to keep the ring. And in still other states, it depends on why the engagement was broken. If he cheated or in some way caused her to break it off, she can keep the ring. Traditionally, if the woman ends the engagement the ring is returned to the man or man's parents, depending on who provided the ring. If the man ends the engagement the he is supposed to allow the woman to keep the ring and pay her parents for any expenses that have already been incurred. Of course, in today's world, that doesn't really happen. Most of the time the couple goes to court to fight about a ring that was supposed to be a symbol of their love for one another.

yup, return the ring. if he broke the engagement, also the girl has to return the ring. no use to keep the 'bad luck' ring..

I go with the tradition. Whoever causes the breakup gives up rights to the ring. In this case, the girl does, so the girl has to return the ring to her man who paid for it (unless I think, if the girl paid for it anyway because it sometimes may happen). From a legal standpoint, the ring is a "conditional gift". It's a gift that is contingent on a contract (the act of marriage) being completed. Think of it as a deposit. And like any deposit, whoever breaks the terms of the contract is the one who gives up rights to it.

yea she should definitely return the ring to the boy after breaking the engagement, because it is his property ,and according to me she should give all the gifts too , because those were given for their love and when the relationship doesn't exist everything the boy gave should be his and everything the girl gave should be hers , this is s fair game.

that picture of engagement ring is really nice.Actually my brother just broke up with her fiancee , btu I still don't know if she give him the ring back.but I think she should.i mean anyway if you broke up with someone would you still wear that ring?But also I cannot imagine if she will give it to him, what he will do with a ring?I mean I was never thing about this.He will have to sell it probably.

If a girl breaks off the engagement then she should return the ring. If the guy breaks it off then he shouldnt expect it back, unless of course she throws it back at him lol.

Personally, I would want to return the ring, unless, as has been stated, it was an heirloom in my own family or was charged on my credit card. I believe, however, that the advice columnists differ with that opinion, as I think I had read that the engagement ring was a gift and could be kept by the person who received that gift, but the wedding rings should go to whoever bought them. Of course, that advice could be definitely outdated. It seems to be totally outnumbered here in this discussion, that is for sure.

I think the woman should give it back to the man. He bought it he should get it. My hunny told me that this was the first ring hes bough and never wants it back. Meaning he wants to be with me forever.

If she breaks it off, she should give the ring back. If he breaks it off...she get to do with it what she wants. If it is an heirloom from his family and he breaks it off..then I would think they could work something out..but I am not sure.

I don't know what the "rules" are on this one but in all fairness, I think she should return it regardless of who does the breaking off. An engagement ring is very expensive and it is a token of a promise to marry. If he spent that kind of money, I am sure that his intent was good at the time he asked her. Regardless of what circumstances led to the broken engagement, the ring has no meaning once the engagement is over. I would return it...just my opinion.

of course its faire if he had payed the ring...

I think that the ring should be considered a contract. The ring is given with the belief of marriage. If she breaks off the relationship then the contract is broken as well and the property should be returned to the guy. Now if the guy were to break it off then she should be able to keep the ring.