What Would You Change About Yourself?

@worldwise1 (14887)
United States
October 27, 2007 2:28pm CST
If we're totally honest, most of us has at least one thing we would change about ourselves-given the opportunity. One of the most frustrating things about me is my choice to spend so much time alone. I don't like it, but I find it virtually impossible to change. I am pretty much an outcast in my family because nobody can understand why I choose to spend my time alone so much. I want to tell them that I would change if I could, but I can't find the words. What is there that you would like to change about yourself, but find it difficult to do?
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@pyewacket (44032)
• United States
28 Oct 07
Aww--don't fret...I'm a reclusive hermit myself...LOL...I do go out everyday, say maybe go to the library, grocery shopping, etc... just to get the sense of being with people....but I've been a loner since way back, and feel very comfortable alone, maybe that's due since I grew up pretty much alone, and yes, when I was younger I did feel and was lonely, but my aloneness I think is what sparked a lot of my creative endeavors that I'm still involved with today...so in some ways it was an asset now when I think of it...Would I change that characteristic of preferring to be alone??....NOPE--Some people are the exact opposite..they hate being alone and always have to be with people, but maybe that's because they don't feel good about themselves --sometimes one discovers a lot about themselves when they are alone, and many might not like what they feel then. I have gotten a lot more "socialable" though in the past few years. In fact, this Wednesday I'm invited to a Halloween get together with my friend down the block and her get togethers are always a blast
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@worldwise1 (14887)
• United States
29 Oct 07
I have always told myself that my choice to be alone is because I am perfectly comfortable with myself, pyewacket. Most people don't understand that. They tell me all the time that they don't know how I can keep to myself so much. I grew up like an only child also because I went to live with my great-aunt and great-uncle when I was 4. I spent a lot of time alone and books became my best friends. I did, however have friends in school and in my community. One reason I like being alone is that I have found that people will let you down, so I keep to myself mostly to avoid that. Hope you have a great time at the party!
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@pyewacket (44032)
• United States
29 Oct 07
As you know I was an only child...but I think you hit it on the nail there...I think a lot of people AREN'T comfortable with themselves and that's why they always seek company/companionship--while people like us DO feel comfortable with our own company
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@MsTickle (25050)
• Australia
30 Oct 07
Ahh, I see we three are kindred spirits in this respect...cheers.
• United States
28 Oct 07
If I had to change something about myself I would definately wan to have the desire or learn to pay more attention to detail!! I am a very laid back person, and I let the house become a total mess before I clean, or let things get way too out of control before I change anything! My life would be much easier if I would pay attention more often and actually finish more tasks I begin!!
@worldwise1 (14887)
• United States
29 Oct 07
I am very familiar with those feelings also, brookehaun. You're left with the feeling that there just aren't enough hours in the day.
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@GardenGerty (118059)
• United States
28 Oct 07
I think I am a procrastinator and slob. And a workaholic. I would like to get going in the day, get stuff done, and pay all of my bills and be able to live off the income of just my hubby and myself. One job for me. I do not know how or when I will get there. If I ever got de cluttered, I would be able to keep the house clean, but there are some things that go on that prevent it at this time. I have to work two jobs to keep our heads above water, and I am just too tired to be neat. As far as being a loner, my son's gifted teacher from junior high would say you are probably a dreamer, and that there is nothing wrong with that, and that the world needs more dreamers, and thinkers.
@worldwise1 (14887)
• United States
29 Oct 07
I am definitely both of those things, GG, and I have accused myself of doing a bit too much of both at times. I know how hard it is working and trying to keep house. It is a major undertaking with just one job. I hope it will all come together for you soon.
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@dajiale (108)
• China
28 Oct 07
First one is my loneliness, I want to share with anyone, but I never found a way to talk to them. So I keep lonely, and I will always lonely, I don`t want to change it any more. Second one is my shyness, I have try to defeat it, but I lose eveytime. I knwo the problem is I have few chance to face it.
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• United States
28 Oct 07
It's sort of funny, but I'm seeing a trend. Mylotters are actually just loners who want a sense of belonging. I'm also more reserved and keep to myself most of the time. I would love to be extrememly confident and when I decdie to do something, I actually really go for it. It's sometimes difficult to get going when there's something holding us back. I'm not sure what that is, but it seems to plague alot of us. :( I'm reading the book "The Power of Now", and in it, it states the importance of how the past doesn't really mean anything. We have to live in the moment and stop those crazy voices in our heads that hold us back. There's a saying, "Act As If You're Confident, Then You Soon WILL be Confident." We should all try it. What have we got to lose?
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@worldwise1 (14887)
• United States
29 Oct 07
It would be a good thing if you could talk to someone, dajiale. Maybe there is an older person whom you respect that could give you some advice. Nobody should have to be lonely unless they choose to. Good luck.:)
@dajiale (108)
• China
29 Oct 07
Thank you all. Thanks to all mylotters! I love here
@raychill (6530)
• United States
28 Oct 07
I think if there is something you'd want to change about yourself you could. If it's physical, there is a lot of stuff, besides surgery, to fix that and if needed the resort of surgery. If it's mental, that is also something you can change. It's not easy, but you are who you are and you make yourself who you are. So all you have to do is make yourself someone else. So I'm happy with who I am. I made myself this way.
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@worldwise1 (14887)
• United States
29 Oct 07
You are certainly in a small and elite group, raychill. I have found very few people who are perfectly happy with themselves.:)
@raychill (6530)
• United States
29 Oct 07
well don't get me wrong, I don't think I'm perfect or anything and I definitely get on my own nerves at times. But if something bothered me enough, I'd change it.
@ayou82 (3460)
• Philippines
28 Oct 07
Being introvert and stubborness. I want to cure those two. Because it reflects to one's personality. Shyness is the main factor..why i did not succeed in my calling. I cannot sing in front of a thousands. I could not share my voice to the world because of my shyness. Stuborness drives away alot of people around you. Thats what i want to change in my life. Well i tried ..and will still try.
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@worldwise1 (14887)
• United States
29 Oct 07
Don't give up on yourself, ayou, there are treatments for stage fright. A competent therapist should be able to help you with that. And you can overcome shyness but you have to really work at it.:)
@ayou82 (3460)
• Philippines
29 Oct 07
Yeah thanks for that.. I know i will overcome this shyness..i just need some exposures.
• India
28 Oct 07
i would love to change my laid back attitude and the laziness in me. bad boy me. smiles, love , apple.
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@worldwise1 (14887)
• United States
29 Oct 07
Hey there apple! I can't imagine you being a bad boy, lol. I am sure that when the time comes you will become more serious. You are still young.:)
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• India
29 Oct 07
you surely are worldwise and you are number one. thankyou. lovealways, prayers, smile, apple.
@fab315 (1242)
• Philippines
28 Oct 07
Hello! I grew up having people doing things for me. In short, i'm very dependent to others, my parents and my family. I'm used to having other people organize my life for me, plans things for me and I would just say 'yes' or 'no'. Now i'm like that to my hubby too, I just wait for him to decide and plan things for us which is one working. So right now, the one thing that I would want to change about myself is being too dependent on others. I'm starting already, little by little, it's hard but I know I can do it. I just have to set my mind into it and believe that I can do it. Goodluck to me! *smile* ciao! c",)
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@worldwise1 (14887)
• United States
29 Oct 07
You have a great positive attitude, fab, and I am sure you will overcome your dependency upon others. Good for you!:)
@Cammeel1 (372)
• United States
28 Oct 07
I like this question. Especially since one biggest "flaw" has been a HUGE problem in my family the last week or so. If I could change one thing about myself it would definitely have to be my chronic depression. I have been dealing with it since I was 12 and it effects everything in my life. I would LOVE to know what life is like without having depression such a big part of it.
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@worldwise1 (14887)
• United States
29 Oct 07
Take it from someone who has the same problem, Cammeel, life would be better for us all if we did not have to deal with depression. I have found that taking up hobbies helps me greatly. I like to do things that keep my mind and my hands busy.:)
@nangel78 (1458)
• United States
28 Oct 07
I would change reacting quickly after a stressful situation instead of taking a step back and reevaluating things. I am so bad about doing that. I am working on getting better about it, but it is a slow process.
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@worldwise1 (14887)
• United States
29 Oct 07
Well, nangel, recognizing that you have the problem is half the battle. The best of luck to you.:)
@euroster (35)
• Greece
28 Oct 07
I would change my Myopia. I hate glasses!
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@worldwise1 (14887)
• United States
29 Oct 07
They are doing great things where vision is concerned, euroster. Have you checked into surgery or contacts?
• Philippines
28 Oct 07
i would say my way of spending money. i don't normally save money. i just spend it as much as i can and buy things that i do believe is important but it comes to a point that i don't have anything left for myself. though i love my family, i pity myself when it comes to that.
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@worldwise1 (14887)
• United States
29 Oct 07
You might find it helpful, nike_myth, if you sat down and made out a budget. Of course, then you would have to stick to it.:)
@maddysmommy (16233)
• United States
27 Oct 07
My patience. I am not a very patient person and often get irritated easily, sometimes even at the smallest things.
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@worldwise1 (14887)
• United States
29 Oct 07
Patience is a virtue, maddysmommy, and you really should work on that issue.(:
@jillhill (37379)
• United States
27 Oct 07
If I could change one thing about myself I would change the fact that I sometimes don't speak up for myself..or others until I am angry. If I have a difference of opinion I something keep my belief's to myself to avoid a conflict. But when I finally do speak up sometimes I blow...
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@worldwise1 (14887)
• United States
29 Oct 07
I used to be like that, jillhill, but I learned that holding things in can harm you, so I learned to speak up when necessary.(:
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@pinay81 (1538)
• Philippines
27 Oct 07
for me i want to change my self because im little bit childish mind, too much spending in material things, im also shy person specially if there is a party i just like to sit alone than to talk with anyone who is not close to me like my friends:-)
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@worldwise1 (14887)
• United States
29 Oct 07
Maybe your friends could help draw you out of your shyness, pinay. The childishness you must work on yourself.(:
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@sumitsonu (599)
• India
27 Oct 07
To be honest , one thing which I would like to change about myself is my shyness , I am very introvert type, I find it very difficult to interact with people , but once started it is easy going, the other thing which i would definitely change is that I tend to believe in people very fast which has already made me suffer many times.
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@worldwise1 (14887)
• United States
29 Oct 07
Shyness is very hard to overcome, sumitsonu. I am shy myself until I get to know a person better.(:
@MsTickle (25050)
• Australia
30 Oct 07
I would like to be more assertive, less cynical and to spend less time thinking about things I can't change. LOL. I'm a pretty happy person but I would like to be stronger and more confident. I also like to be by myself and I really like that I allow myself not to feel bad about that but at the same time I would like to make my time count a little more....to achieve something and make something of myself, to contribute something valuable to the world, not something huge but just some little something.
@MGjhaud (22831)
• Philippines
30 Oct 07
What I want to change is that my being negative thinker. I am sometimes overpowered by my mind being negative at things that I want to try but afraid that maybe I won’t make it right. My close friend is always encouraging me to just go for it whenever I have something in mind that I want to do. Maybe that’s one thing I want to change especially that I’m also out of school and will enter the career world, I should really be a positive thinker so that whatever comes my way, I have the confident to take it.
@3lilangels (4639)
• United States
29 Oct 07
well basically my friend,right now in my life i am really happy and i dont think i would change anything,maybe have a little more time for myself but that will come in time when all my babies go to daycare.
@SViswan (12071)
• India
29 Oct 07
I would definitely change my temper. I'm short tempered. I've managed to control it in the sense that people around me don't really know. But it affects me because I bottle it and I wish I could change that and let certain things be.