What Would You Think?

@girljar (287)
United States
November 15, 2007 3:00pm CST
My husband and I were separated for awhile earlier this year. We got back together in June, and we moved to Florida from Indiana. Since he's been down here, though, a couple of times he has gotten text messages from a woman in Indiana. The first time, I thought it was strange, especially since he doesn't even know how to use text messaging (lol). But, last night, his phone rang at about 11:00 pm, and stopped after only 2 rings. I asked him who that number was, and he said he didn't know. A little later, I looked at his phone, and saw that there were 2 text messages from her. Nothing bad, really, just chat, for the most part, except when she said she missed talking to him. The weirder part is, she is dating his brother. I asked him about it this morning, and, of course, he said he didn't know why she would call him and text him at 11:00 at night. I said, I just think it's strange that she feels comfortable enough to feel like she can call him at that time of night. The woman isn't really my friend, she's his. She was married to a friend of his, then they worked together, then our kids played ball together, then were in band together. I just think it's a bit weird, that's all. I don't really think they had anything going on, because my husband is pretty shy, and just so totally not that way. (I know everybody says that, but if you knew my husband...) All I know is, I don't like her calling and texting my husband! Should I call her? Should I send her a text message telling her to stop contacting him? Or should I just leave it be?
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5 responses
• United States
20 Nov 07
Maybe you should wait until she calls next time and answer the phone. That would give you an answer. If she hangs up or doesn't say anything, then you know it isn't as straight forward as it seems. She is after something that she shouldn't be after. know what I mean? Or you could call her & tell her that you don't appreciate her calling so late.
@girljar (287)
• United States
20 Nov 07
Yeah, you're right. I think that's what I'll do. I'll leave it alone, unless she calls or texts again. Thanks for the advice!
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• United States
20 Nov 07
You are very welcome
@cthorn (20)
• United States
20 Nov 07
Sounds like a pretty sticky situation. I think if it were my husband, I'd try to let it go. Unless the messages indicate that maybe she wants to start something up with him or that they already have, if she's so far away you probably have nothing to worry about. Have you tried answering his phone when she calls? If you do and she hangs up or sounds nervous then maybe she's hiding something. If you trust your husband then she's your only problem.
@girljar (287)
• United States
20 Nov 07
Kinda weird, actually. Yeah, I might have to do something if she calls and acts nervous if I answer, or if she hangs up. (I love caller ID) Otherwise, I will just let it go. The distance between us now makes it not worth worrying about, it just irritated me, that's all.
@Gemmygirl1 (2868)
• Australia
19 Nov 07
Like everyone else has said, it'd probably be best to let it be. You can forget it for a while & maybe just see if there's any more contact between them but since he didn't answer the phone, there's a good chance she's just not getting the hint she's being ignored! If there's no more contact, then it's not even worth worrying about, if there is more contact, then it could just be nothing BUT if it bothers you that much, you could always call her & ask her to quite calling & texting your hubby :) Don't do it any time soon but do it if the contact continues - maybe over the next month. Good Luck!
@girljar (287)
• United States
20 Nov 07
Thanks for your response.
@RosieS57 (889)
• United States
15 Nov 07
Whoa! You say you trust him. It isn't his fault that she's calling and bugging him. And after all, you can see for yourself that he isn't answering. Even the dimmest bulb in the drawer will eventually figure out when they are being ignored. It's just taking this woman quite a bit of time to get the idea. It's also a good idea not to get on the bad side of someone you could wind up related to (as a sis-in-law). So by this point you yourself have figured out that my advice is to just drop it and not let it worry you. Doing that proves to everyone that you have more smarts than your bro-in-law's girlfriend has. :-)
@girljar (287)
• United States
20 Nov 07
I do trust him, completely. You're right about not creating 'bad blood' between us, since she's dating my brother in law. I will just drop it. However, if she calls again, I will probably answer the phone. :)
@kykidd (6818)
• United States
15 Nov 07
I know it is going to be so hard to do, but you should probably just let it be. If you know that he is not interested then she will probably quit texting and calling after a while.
@girljar (287)
• United States
20 Nov 07
I'm sure he's not interested, or, at least, he would never act on it if he was. Besides, she's 1100 miles away, now.