Love causes pain and still I don't know how to move on.

Philippines
November 23, 2007 11:21pm CST
Love really causes pain. Yeah, at first, it's sweet. But when one person starts to fall out of love, the other person who still loves deeply will really be broken-hearted. Honestly, I can't move on. I tried hard to do so. But, at the end of each day, I find myself falling in love with him again. I know that still loving him is just going to give me more pain in the heart. Well I guess, it doesn't only bring pain to the heart, but also, it causes physically pain. Because I have lost in this game called love, I keep on hurting myself . I do what an emo does(wrist-slitting). I am so tired of doing this. I just want to stop. But I find it hard to do. It hurts so much. Last time, he told me that he loves me. But now, all that he is telling me is just to move on. But, I just can't.
9 responses
@fanji008 (782)
• China
24 Nov 07
Hi,there! I'm sorry to hear that you are suffering and can't move on. I understand your feeling cause when it comes to the love thing,everybody seems to have no methods.Well,as what I always say to some of my friends,love is very important in our life,but it's not the only thing. If the other one doesn't love you any more,it makes no sense to keep loving him. If you don't go out,you can only hurt yourself more and more. I think time is the best medicine and everything can move on. So take out your courage and smile to yourself.Even without him,you can lead your own wonderful life with awesome experiences:) Good luck and best wishes!
• Philippines
29 Nov 07
Yeah... you're right.. It won't do you good alyanna if you always hurt yourself...me and Tiny are always here for you
@Estina54 (389)
• United States
24 Nov 07
Yes, you can. Meet new people. If you spend all your time thinking of him, you won't move on.
• Philippines
29 Nov 07
She really can't Estina54...she tried so hard for many times to find ways to be out of this problem.. But still, she couldn't
@nkhanna (925)
• India
3 Dec 07
hi purplemo.i can very well understand what you are feeling now,since i also have been thorugh this situation in my life once.i know its very tough to try to forget that person and move on,but this is the only solution to this situation.yuo cannot keep sand in your hand,it will definately slip[ down.in the same way time will also move.you better try to involve yourself in different activites so that you are tired.dont sit free any time,and try to divert your mind.remember one tihng lady its no good wasting your life for a person who truly does ont deserve it.if he does not love you,you can never force him to do so.i am sure after some time you will definately realize this.let me tell you one thing,you are not the loser of this game,its he who is the loser since he did not accepted the true love,for which he will repent later.comon cheers now and get busy into some work.
@subha12 (18452)
• India
3 Dec 07
you are abosolutely right. it is sweet when you feel you are in love or you are loved. You feel the pain when the person you are in deep love with moves on without you. I know how much painful it is. Its really hard to move on. But you need to understand, it is taht person who is so unlucky that he has lost someone so pure as you. He was not worth of your true love. You are in pain may be, but what he has lost is not known to him.
@ebtenorio (765)
• Philippines
3 Dec 07
I know your feelings gurl. I dunno but I have been loving someone so deeply even if my love had not been reciprocated ever since. But, it does not end there. I still am in love with her no matter what... However, I will not resort to slitting my wrist. What for? It will do you no good gurl. Just let love flow... I dunno if you can do what I have been into: Loving someone crazily without anything in return. Just let the One Who Knows plan for you. He might have a more rational reasons that we do. Let love flow, without anything in return... I dont know if you believe that I do gurl. But I do. I think I will have to love her till I die... It is much more worth it than wrist-slitting right? I hope I made you smile. Happy day!
@milkfish (375)
• Philippines
25 Nov 07
Hi purplemo. I believe that time will heall all wounds. After grieving, you will learn to accept it and move on with your life. Some things are not just meant to be. As they say, lovers did not fall out of love. Instead, love choses not to stay. Grieve if you must but after that you have to get up and keep on going. Life do not stop when a realtioship eith somebody ended. Believe me, there is somebody meant for you at the end of tunnel and he will come at the right time in your life.
• China
25 Nov 07
I have the same feeling with you,and I have the same problem with you.I am very fainful.I think it is perhaps time and space are the best medicine.Don't meet him for ever,and endure this time,all is OK!
@OffBeat (28)
• Pakistan
24 Nov 07
Hi Purplemo! It hurts me 2 see u in such pain. I wish I could give u a BIIIIGGG hug and make u feel better. Please dont waste ur precious self over omeone who just doesnt bother about ur pain and grief. U see u cant force anyone to love u. If such a strong love of urs couldnt draw him to u then nothing can make him urs. U cannot MAKE anyone love u, it just has to grow between two people and stay there forever. I cannot blame him completely. Maybe he feels u r throwing ur self on him. U know too much unwanted attention tends to draw men away. Try to act cool and indifferent towards him. Dont let him have the satisfaction that ull die without him. But best of all..... try to forget him. He is giving u a very good suggestion, to move on!!!. At least he's giving u SOME good thing :) IF u r married and have kids then u have to bear him just for the sake of ur kids. It might help u to find ways to keep urself busy, so that u just dont find time to moan about him. Iam not giving u hypothetical idealistic suggestions. I am doing it all myself to get over my painful love. I spend a lot of time onthe internet. Clean my home, decorate it, look at it back and say "WOW man! Im GOOD!!!". I have started doing a lot of crafts like dough flowers, cooking delicious stuff. U know it all gives me a sense of accomplishment. A feeling that I too can create some beauty inside all the darkness arround me. Lets be friends and help eachother out
@mensab (4204)
• Philippines
24 Nov 07
i could sense the difficulty on your part. i could imagine how difficult it is for you. i felt the same way too when i was broken hearted. however, i realized that it was not love that i was feeling for her. it was selfishness. i wanted her, and i thought i loved her. as they say, love more until it hurts no more.