will you go on in a relationship even if its hurting you?

when love is there but understanding is so far awa - is it wise to keep the relationship?
Philippines
December 17, 2007 3:40am CST
if you love this person so much, you cant let him go... he mean the world to you... but your differences and misunderstanding builds a gap, thus leads to arguments even if its just a little mistake.. is it better to let it go?for wives and husbands who sacrificed a lot for the marriage to work out is it wise to keep sacrificing? what did you do then to keep it? do you think love will conquer all the spaces and all the differences? How far will you go if the relationship is hurting you but wanted to keep it because your hearts says so?
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11 responses
• India
17 Dec 07
Hi vehaileairu, Life is full of adjustments.It is binding one on both husband and wife.If we can't adjust, It is difficult to run life. Those who do not understand this will get saperated in the name of 'divorce' and lead a miserable life. Putting their hands on the heart, can any one say that they are leading a life without adjusting themselves to any situation arised in their life,whether married,unmarried,divorced or individual. Relationships will flourish only when we understand the real meaning of adjustment.
• Philippines
18 Dec 07
wow, season0907... im happy that you are such a positive person, yes we need to adjust. and i feel that aspect.. thank you very much, i'll give you a plus. ^_^
• Philippines
18 Dec 07
and for you mooch, yes, i always agree there are abusive partners, the one sided one.. that they treat women like maids.. i am so touched with your response.. its sad, how much love gets into violated feeling. thanks a lot^_^ and plus for you.
@nkhanna (925)
• India
18 Dec 07
well for me i will first try that this type of situation never ever comes in my life.i will try to resolve the issue in the beginning only when it statred its root.however if at all the problem grows and our differences and misunderstanding comes to a point where it really cannot be resolved then i will let this relation go.since it no point dragging a relation,since it that case its going to give pain to me as well as to him.and a relation out of pain can never ever surviive.someday or the other it has to ide so i will better like that we both set free to each toher and move ahead in life so that we can atleast live a normal life.well its true that marriage needs compromise from both the sides but i think its should be compromise and not just sacrifices.why do one needs ot sacrifice for marriage.i will not want to hurt my partner even if i walk out of this relation.
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• Philippines
18 Dec 07
i should have seen it coming, and ended it while its still not hurting.. thanks for that response.. plus for you^_^
@WuBojin (32)
• China
17 Dec 07
I think it is better to let him go.Because love to a two-persons' affair.If one of them feel bad,there should be an end.But it isn't that simple always.Sometime it really hard for one to give up,especially for girls.So I believe love is the most complicated feeling all over the world.We have to try ,if it doesn't help out,give up.Hope you will become some kind of humnious.
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• Philippines
18 Dec 07
yes, specially women... thank you.. maybe painful but true.. plus for you..
@diillu (5128)
17 Dec 07
It is always better to work things out then just let the things go and later regret thinking about not giving it a single chance. After trying to work out and if the things again seems same then it is better to let go cause it is better to let go then dying each day because of that relationship. There were times when my relationship was about to end. Everything was going to end and staying with him was really hurtful. But I just took a chance and everything worked out.
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• Philippines
18 Dec 07
i guess, i will take the chance.. and yes... i'll try my best to work it out.. thanks diillu.. plus for you^_^
@funfreak2k2 (1740)
• India
17 Dec 07
well, my wife and i are in the 7th year of marriage. we do argue with each other, do not talk to each for two to three days at times. but it is more than a year ago now. from then on we have no differences, thats due to her second pregnancy. but the arguments never went so far that we had to think about divorce. we just cant live separately.. perhaps that was the reason that the fights stopped at some stage.
• Philippines
18 Dec 07
sometimes, there's really this unknown that pushes us to argue and all differences comes out.. we are 5 years together.. but we still have that no talk for a whole day.. and like you, well mend again.. thanks funfreak2k2^_^ and a plus for you.
@mzz663 (2782)
• United States
17 Dec 07
I lived that one, was married 20 years with 3 kids and couldn't stand the arguing anymore.....it ended up that our differences were so great that if I would have stayed in that relationship, we would have ended up killing each other. My advice? if there are small problems in the beginnning that aren't being resolved....there will only be more and they will only get bigger.
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• Philippines
17 Dec 07
thats really honest of you.. im glad to hear this. thanks for responding, a plus for you..^_^
@mimpi1911 (25474)
• India
22 Dec 07
Hi vehaileairu, any relationship is based primarily on commitment, respect , compromise, understanding and ofcourse on love. Differences of opinions, arguments, fights and bitter, swordy words all are part of it. What's more important is whether we go to bed huging and forgetting it or not. Tomorrow is always a new day - that's what I believe. When the earnest commitment and respect is not there, I feel, love will fade in due course or there wasn't any at all. It was infatuation. A relationship is nurtured on mutual interactions and only one person cannot carry it all through life. So, if one feels a genuine vibe is missing from the counter part, it's always better to move on. Love has to be felt from both the sides, isn't it? it might hurt, it might kill, but we should let go and move on. Who knows someone, somewhere is waiting eagerly. He/she should not miss out on love. smiles...
@bishu_sinha (1459)
• India
18 Dec 07
As per society, its not OK. But if you are satisfied and have no fear of family or kids or society, all the best!
@pickles12 (308)
• Canada
18 Dec 07
It depends i guess ... if you've already tried to fix it and its beyond repairable just leave it .. you can't spend the rest of your life trying to fix something that can't be fixed. you are losing out on time where you could be happy and so could ur spouse. so if its not working and you think u cant fix it i think it would be better for you to leave the relationship for a little while
@Sharon38 (1915)
• Jamaica
17 Dec 07
Well I always have to look out for me so I would walk out of that relatioonship. Lets face it though, its not going anywhere and you will only make an already bad situation worst. So I would leave.
• Philippines
17 Dec 07
yes because i love him.If i dont I wont