attacked on my lot!!

United States
December 20, 2007 5:44pm CST
I recently was attacked on my lot! Has this ever happened to anyone? I recently wrote a post about the Christmas Blues and that I was struggling financially. I wrote that I was newly divorced and raising three kids on my own with another on the way. This person wrote saying how dare I bring another child into this world and so on and so on. why am I the only one to blame and who gives anyone the right to be so rude to other people. I was not rude back but I feel like this kinda behavior should not be tolerated on My Lot.
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@lilybug (21145)
• United States
20 Dec 07
I posted a few months ago about deadbeat dads and for the most part got supportive responses, but one of the responses told me it was my own fault for putting myself in the situation on being a single mom. Like I intentionally got knocked up by a guy I knew was gonna hightail it out of my life. People are jerks sometimes. I would report the person and then never give them another thought.
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• United States
20 Dec 07
Well said! Yeah it takes 2 to make a new life and I don't see why people would only blame the mother. And what the biggest point is why blame anyone. it is not like you can send the baby back.Hehe.
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@lilybug (21145)
• United States
21 Dec 07
I saw your post you were talking about. He sound like a bitter old man to me and I would not let him bother you.
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@lbinkley (1078)
• United States
20 Dec 07
Unfortunately I see this happen to people on MyLot all the time, and it shouldn't. Just ignore it. If it is really bad, give them a ngative rating, or even report them. There is no need to be blatantly rude! In the mean time, I am sorry to hear about the divorce, unless maybe it was a good thing? Good luck with everything, and take care of yourself, your kids, and good luck with your baby on the way. Merry Christmas!
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• United States
20 Dec 07
Thank you for your response and Merry Christmas to you too!
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@lbinkley (1078)
• United States
20 Dec 07
You are very welcome!
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@vmenard (895)
• United States
21 Dec 07
That's an unfortunate experience you had to deal with. I've had responses that were rude and at first I was irritated, but then I realized when you put something out there for people to see, you are bound to get responses that you don't like. I think people should refrain from rude comments, but not everyone has the same beliefs. Hope your situation gets better.
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• United States
21 Dec 07
Thank You. Merry christmas
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@cotruelove (1021)
• Denver, Colorado
20 Dec 07
It is sad to say that people tend to flavor some of their opinions toward you probably based on their own experiences and don't consider your discussion, feelings or the true subject of the discussion. Unfortunately, that is the problem with opinions and since it doesn't violate any laws they can do it. Had it been discriminatory, then MyLot would have probably done something about it. The only suggestion I have, is ignore them and their comment. You weren't asking for that kind of attack I'm sure. You were vulnerable and the attack hurt. I've been through hard times like you are experiencing and if it weren't for my faith I don't think I would have emerged from it with any kind of sanity. Responding to rude people isn't going to make you feel any better. Any discussion in MyLot can bring on all kinds of opinions and you just need to be aware that not always are the comments nice.
• United States
21 Dec 07
I think that if people are bothered by the post they should maybe just move on to the next one. People struggle all of the time and I feel that it is the people who struggle and pull through end up on top. It is wonderful to have support here on My lot. Thank you for your response and Merry Christmas.
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@sedel1027 (17851)
• United States
20 Dec 07
If I were you, I would report the user. There is no reason to attack anyone and that user should be banned from the site.
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• United States
20 Dec 07
Thank You! I did report this person. I just hope that they never fall on hard times doesn't sound as though they would be able to handle it.
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@royal52gens (5380)
• United States
21 Dec 07
Happy Holidays to you and your children. I know it will not be an easy time for you but at least you will be together. Treasure your little group. Thank God for the little things you have like all of your friends here on MyLot. I will say a prayer for that rude person who has harmed you because it sounds like they will most likely be alone with themselves.
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@Lindalinda (4112)
• Canada
21 Dec 07
My dear, this is a discussion forum and you just have to ignore rude comments. I read the discussion and I also thought the response from that person was not charitable and very unkind. Especially at this time of the year when we are supposed to show goodwill and kindness. If it is any consolation to you I have been called "names" in Mylot discussions. The best way is not to respond (you were wise not to do so) because it would only bring some sort of satisfaction to the rude person. Now cheer up, count your blessings enjoy your health and family and forget about this. Merry Christmas to you!
@Ohara_1983 (4119)
• Kuwait
20 Dec 07
wow, i think the good decission for those people who have rude behavior to be report to mylot, that is the easy way to complain so they will know what is the rules to be follow. or just leave them alone dont mind what they will say to you they will answer good or not. good luck friend:)
@calicot (256)
• Philippines
21 Dec 07
Hey wait a minute? I replied to your post as I remember, surely It wasn't me AFAIK. Although I wasn't able to say sorry that you had a divorce recently and that your raising 3 kids. I remember sharing my own blues. I'll find that post again if it's still here in mylot. I'll check my reply. If it's me then I'm sorry, but for sure I know it wasn't me.
• United States
21 Dec 07
NO it was not you that made that response. Meryy christmas friend
@anniepa (27280)
• United States
21 Dec 07
I read the discussion you're referring to, and you certainly were not rude back, not at all! I have to give you credit because I wouldn't have handled it nearly so well. You're right, this kind of behavior shouldn't be tolerated on myLot or any other forum like this. I don't know what makes some people think they have the right to be so cruel and judgmental. Anyway, I sure hope things work out for you and you kids, including your unborn baby, and that you all have a Merry Christmas even if things could be better financially. I hope you find some places like other posters in your other discussion suggested to help you out. I know what you're going through; I have no little kids myself but I have two grandkids and we're all going through some tough times this year and it hurts, I know it. It hurts more when you can't give like you'd like to your loved ones than it does to not get much yourself. Try and hand in there, Hon, things WILL get better and you'll have lots of wonderful Christmases in the future and your kids won't even remember if this one is a little "lean". Bless you all and please realize most of us here on myLot wish you the very best and do feel bad that you're going through hard times right now. Annie
• United States
21 Dec 07
Thank You so much for you support. I will try to make the best out of this christmas no matter how little money I have.
@chooochy (356)
18 Jan 08
Hun, that is dreadful, the majority of people on here ask for opinions, advice etc, and to make friends, there is unfortunatly, a small minority here that feel it is there right to judge people!! i find this incredibly disrespectful hun, we should all be getting on and sharing our problems, as they say, a problem halfed is a problem solved!! I hope you dont have to encounter such an attitude again hun, if you do, you should no doubt report it. Dont worry the majority are hear looking out for you hun xxxxx
@Haiden123 (128)
• Canada
18 Jan 08
I hate too say this but you just have to live with rude people its part of nature sadly :(
• United States
10 Jan 08
Oh barbiegirl, I'm so sorry someone has to be that rude to you, exspecially around christmas. I was divorced to and with 2 girls and I know how hard it is. I'm sorry to hear that. People shouldent be so mean expecially when were down. We should lift spirits up here at MyLot. ~WiteNgtOwl
@Sissygrl (10914)
• Canada
4 Jan 08
I'm glad that you kept you cool ;) There are a lot of people who would have resorted to fighting back with the rude one. And two wrongs surely do not make a right do they?! I haven't seen your post yet with the rude person but i think i might go look for it now! Sorry that you had to read that rude persons post, and i think that you should report the person as being rude and that they are "flaming" you as mylot puts it. If you were that offended you should anyways. but if it didn't bother you too much, just let it slide, unless the person continues to be rude to you over and over again!
@mrsjbelle (1641)
• United States
4 Jan 08
Because people don't know how to mind there own business thats why. I wish you the best:)
• United States
21 Dec 07
How rude!You're right, it shouldn't be tolerated and you shouldn't be subjected to it. It's shame that some people just post anyhting to earn money...whether they are rude and totally out of line or not. I hope you have a wonderful holiday and a great New year.
@sherrir101 (3676)
• Malinta, Ohio
21 Dec 07
Hard times hit all kinds of people, all of the time. People should realize that. Just because you have children shouldn't be the cause of someone targeting you on here. And...like you got pregnant by yourself... I commend you for taking on raising your children during these hard times. If being divorced and having children wasn't enough hardship...being finacial strapped doesn't help. Don't worry about someone elses actions on MyLot, you take care of the children and yourself.
@maximax8 (30121)
• United Kingdom
21 Dec 07
I always try to be polite and respect other people's feelings that are on My Lot. I don't think that is is good to judge other people. People live in different countries and have different values of right and wrong. The person that wrote how dare you bring another child into the world is wrong and made a very unkind comment. You are a good mother and you will love and care for your child when he or she is born. If a lady is pregnant the father got her in that situation in the first place. So two people are responsible. A couple might have tried to have a baby and been successful then their relationship failed. But the baby can't be sent back but born into a one parent family and loved. There is nothing bad about that and the father can still see his child. I am sorry that you got such a nasty comment and would report that to My lot. Good luck and take care.
@mcjeannie (704)
• Philippines
21 Dec 07
It is only God who can judge us not man.I don't think that person would have the right to judge you on whatever going on with your life right now!It is ironical isn't it that when you thought he/she should emphatize with your situation, it was the rudeness of attitude that you get. I believed people who respond negatively to your previous discussion must have had some issues to in his/her personal life projecting it to your situation.And that anger which should not be directed to you is his/her actual issues too.I understand the dilemma of your situation as in the past I have been in your shoe based on my real life experience.No matter what barbiegirl, don't focus on these people and never let them get the best in you. For sure you are still mending your past and it takes time to heal that's why you are still so fragile, sensitive and it will take awhile to accept it. As for the rude people here, disregard them and keep yourself and family together and make the best of what God gave you, strength and conviction to do things, perseverance with life and a hope of a better future. Better yet,report harrassment acts of responders and rate them negatively if that makes you better and safe.
• United States
21 Dec 07
ok i have never had this happened and never have heard of it happening but i for one apologize for that person being so rude to you and i hope that doesnt make you leave mylot ....well im sorry and yeah hope it dont happen to anyone else...... people amaze me they will go being mean to people but dont realize what they said hurts....dont worry karma will get them good:)