I Know How She Feels: I Was Banned From A Site Myself...No Not Here

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I was being reflective here about the whole hoopla that has been going on for the past week, since one of our cherished friends had been banned, and despite her emails to the admin and an email writing campaign from many of us to have her reinstated, none of us got replies back or have the member tell her full side of it. We really worked very hard to get Terry back but it was a no go. Some of us, including me, suggested to her that she create a new account so she could once again be a member of our community but she was so thoroughly disgusted by everything that she decided to terminate her account permanently and not come back. I have to admit I got a bit ticked off at Terry for not wanting to start a new account, but then I remembered something, that I almost forgot...I had been banned once too at a site and began to understand. I had once belonged to a rather "exclusive" pagan/wiccan Yahoo group. The moderator and owner was a well known wiccan author no less. I was so happy to join this "exclusive" group and gee, to think owned by a famous wiccan author. At the time I joined I was going through a very rough time, and while I did keep on topic and discuss various pagan-wiccan subjects I also asked for prayer help (the wiccan/pagan way) and did so by filling in just why I needed the prayer help. One of the things that ticked me off though, was I would start really interesting topics to discuss...I STARTED THEM ..then the moderator would chime in with her OWN topic, but a copy-cat version of what I had already started--okay kept my mouth shut. Of course all her "admirers" who were in my opinion a$$kissing her would reply among other things, "what a wonderful discussion idea"--as if SHE were the one who really did--uh, nope, it was me who started the discussion ideas/topics. So on and on this went, and I still continued to ask advice or for prayer help during the rough time I was going through and would still give background info as to why--I did this so the members could understand completely what was going on in my life...just as many of us do here when we start a topic/discussion and we what to elaborate or give an example..Next thing I know I'm banned. When I wrote to her and the other moderators, it was like they just weren't listening. She got her info all twisted up about me, made judgments and assumptions about and against me that just weren't true--like in other words, she hadn't even really bothered to really read what I had been saying in my discussions, or what I was saying to her when I would privately email her to explain things. To this day...and it's been well over a year, I have to admit I still hold a grudge and I would still like to open the moderators eyes and have her understand things, to have the chance to really explain things, but she still would probably be wrapped up in her erroneous conclusions and assumptions about me that were so false and off-base. She said someone like me was no longer welcomed to the group. I even happen to have one of the books the main moderator wrote and is rather famous for, and I know this sounds stupid, but while it's one of my better wiccan type books, I still want to spit at it every time I pick it up. Yeesh. Do I hold a grudge or what? LOL Now unlike our missing member I was tempted to start a brand new account...but then I figured why bother? So I do know what it's like to not only be banned from a site, but to be ignored and not have the truth listened to. So...folks..have you ever been in a similar situation? If not banned from a site, have ever had a friend or relative make some erroneous conclusion and assumption about you, and not given the chance to clear your name and put them right about who you really were or what you were all about? Were you ever to make the situation right? Or did you just figure...oh, the hell with it?