Do you sometimes feel in the grip of uncontrolled emotions?
@owlwings (43897)
Cambridge, England
December 25, 2007 6:45am CST
If you do suddenly find yourself angry, disturbed, upset or even inexplicably joyful, do you try to analyse your emotions to discover what it was exactly made you feel that way?
If you do, can you tell how you go about it?
I play the 'because' game:
I am angry because ..... I missed the bus
I missed the bus because .... I messed around and didn't pay attention to the time
I messed around because .... I don't feel on top of things today
I don't feel on top of things today because ....
You get the idea, I hope.
I recently found an article about someone else who uses this to good effect.
http://www.emofree.com/a/?3252/Allergy/snoring-dairy-allergies.htm
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@nannacroc (4049)
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26 Dec 07
I rarely have this happen. Some people interpret it as me having a 'laid back' attitude and others think I just don't care. I wasn't brought up to show emotion and to be honest it's only if my family are upset that I have any really strong feelings. I've never tried analysing emotions, they are either there or they're not. The only tiime I really question how I'm feeling is when other people tell me I should feel differently.
@owlwings (43897)
• Cambridge, England
29 Dec 07
Being brought up not to show emotions, nannacroc, means not that you don't have them but that you bottle them up. Unless you have a way of expressing them (through writing, art or whatever), they become negative things - another tooth in a crocodile's mouth, if you like! They can also prevent us from doing things which make us feel free.
Please have a look at http://www.emofree.com/a/?3252 ... but also please keep writing!
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@nannacroc (4049)
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29 Dec 07
I will have a look at that site but I have learned that writing is a great way to air my feelings. As you know a lot of my stuff ends up humerous ( at least to me), but it all helps me to know myself.
I'm glad you enjoy my writing.
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@nanguofong (726)
• China
25 Dec 07
yes, I have the feeling once in a while. it is inexplicably to say why, and it is difficult to analyse the cause. I usually consider it as super-tired, so I often stop the work what I am doing and go out for a while, when I do suddenly feel disturbed, or upset.
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@owlwings (43897)
• Cambridge, England
25 Dec 07
Yes, emotions like this (especially negative ones) often surface when we are tired. It is important, though, to look at what our mind/body is telling us and not to just suppress them or pass them off as 'I'm just tired'.
Perhaps a good thing to do would be to make a note, such as: "I felt inexplicably angry at my wife for being clumsy [on a particular occasion]." and then to look at it later when one is feeling refreshed.
The 'because' game is good because the point just before where it leads to exasperation (when there is no sensible answer to the 'because') is usually the critical place one needs to look to deal with the emotion.
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@pumpkinjam (8876)
• United Kingdom
29 Dec 07
I often feel like that! I usually know why but if I don't know why, I just blame my other half! I don't tend to analyse emotions though, cos that would just cause me to get frustrated if I didn't know what was wrong! Sometimes I think emotions get forgotten and then turn up unexpectedly when you try to settle!
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