Do you think it is better to be a stay at home mom?
By april444
@april444 (1341)
United States
29 responses
@NettieMae (185)
• United States
29 Oct 06
Personally, I think it is always best to have at least one parent home with the child. I also think it is just as important to be there (if not more so) when a teenager comes home from school as it is to be with an infant.
@dollbaby (595)
• United States
29 Oct 06
I work from home because I have a 9 month old that I can't bear to send to daycare! It was definately a lot easier when I worked outside the home. Now I feel like I have to juggle work vs. kids. Of course my kids will always come out on top!
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@april444 (1341)
• United States
29 Oct 06
I agree I had my children in daycare and had to report them to social services because my 5 yr old came home with one side of her face all scracthed up and they wrote the incident report wrong, plus the child that did this was terorrizing everyone else. They were investigated and recieved violations. Also, another parent I spoke to also went down to social services and filed one too. The scary part is I really thoght it was a good one,it sure cost alot but they were all about the money. i took my kids out. I now work at home when my children are sleeping. Thank god I dont have to deal with that and I will never send them back money is not more important than my kids.
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@pumpkinjam (8539)
• United Kingdom
30 Oct 06
It is best to stay at home at least until the child is at school. Even if you have to make sacrifices. With the costs of daycare, I can't see how anyone can be financially better off working anyway. I have always stayed home with my children. It means we only have one wage coming in but I have always been used to not having a lot so that was never a problem.
And, not that it was ever needed for those with common sense, but it has been proven that up until aged 5, they are the most important years of a childs life and the most important time to spend with their mother, well, I know that's not always possible or practical but it's still the best thing for them.
Then, once they are at school, I think you still need to be there for them. You need to be able to fetch them and take them to school until they reach an age when they can go by themselves. It's good if you can work while they are at school but then that still might cause problems of what to do during holidays. I think it's always important to be at home when your kids get homw from school, whatever age they are.
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@newmama412 (590)
• United States
30 Oct 06
I don't think it's fair to ask "what's right". What may be right for you, isn't for someone else. And so many people don't have the luxury of having the choice to be home or go to work.
@rohrt1222 (11)
• United States
30 Oct 06
I had a stay-at-home mom and I am so grateful that I did. I believe that it is very important for a child to be raised by his or her mother rather than a daycare center. When I have children hopefully I will stay home at least 3 days a week with them. I'd like to work 2 days so I have adult contact, and also so my children are socialized.
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@pumpkinjam (8539)
• United Kingdom
5 Nov 06
I've always taken my kids to parent/toddler groups and stuff like that so I get adult company and they can socialise at the same time but I'm still there with them so it's like a compromise between home and daycare.
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@clownfish (3272)
• United States
30 Oct 06
I prefer to be a work at home mom. Of course, we have had to make sacrifices due to less money, but our daughter is worth it! That's what's best for our family.
@Thara26 (399)
• United States
30 Oct 06
well personally, right now, im a stay at home mom. i think its better for the kids if u can afford it. my son is in daycare 3 days a week so he can get speech therapy that he needs and so he can interact with children his own age, but my kids are 2 and 6 and im pregnant with my 3rd child. i think it helps parents and children bond better and u know that way what ur kids are doing, and i absolutly love spending time with my kids.
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@vula30 (28)
• Fiji
9 Nov 06
Yes, I feel that its better for mums to stay home with their kids when they are been born till you send them to school. You will always give them the best care,nurture and I know lots of mum will give in their best.Nowdays, parents can't really find good babysitters, most work for the sake of getting their pay but do not pay much attention or nuture the child well. Most babysitters paint a different picture when we are together but when we leave for work our child suffers when they are together...etc etc. Thats the experience we here in Fiji. Most caregivers/babysitters spend their time at work to eat and sleep....thats a reality.....
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@simplebear (227)
• United States
30 Oct 06
I think if women have the money to support them, like a working husband or somthing then yeah. its good to stay home with the kids no matter what age
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@cjbaby1018 (52)
• United States
9 Nov 06
Im a stay at home mom and there is no way in this world I could leave my kid with anyone.
@suracizgurl (51)
• United States
9 Nov 06
My life has been so wonderful since I've been able to stay home...thanks to LiveOps!
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@mommy2taylor1 (405)
• United States
31 Jan 07
I personally know that it is right for me to stay at home with my little girl & all my other children that we plan to have. I just think it provides your children with so much more than what they would get at a daycare or care provider. I'll actually use my degree once my children are all in school, until then I'm going to be at home with them and raising them.. teaching them what I want instilled in them. It's a warm feeling to be able to stay at home with your children and such a rewarding job!
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@cjmagu (9)
• Spain
5 Nov 06
I have been both a stay at home Mum and a working Mum. My youngest son was born after I started work, and he went to daycare and playschool.
I think this is a very personal decision. As long as the children are happy and thriving that you are doing the right thing.
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@ShannaS (557)
• United States
9 Nov 06
I think it varies. People have different opinions on this and knows what works best for their family but I prefer to be home. I was a stay at home mom for 8 yrs before I got back out into the work force. My kids are in school now, I figured I would work once they got into school
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@kylesmiles (1910)
• United States
8 Nov 06
I think it's really up to each family! Luckily, my husband doesn't mind that I want to stay home with our son. We tried the daycare thing but it didn't work out.. He got sick after 3 days!
I am looking at getting a part time job, working on the weekends...
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@Truewater2 (322)
• United States
5 Nov 06
I personally feel a parent should be "at home" all the way through young adult-hood. I believe one needs to be at home more so during the teenaged years because it is the age when "adult choices" become a part of the picture.
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@margieanneart (26423)
• United States
9 Nov 06
Stay at mom is great, if you can afford it. They is no substitute for mommy.
Go back to work, if you want, when the kids are in school. Be home when they get home.
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