Recovery Homework - Serenity to Accept the things I can not Change
@royal52gens (5488)
United States
January 2, 2008 9:06am CST
Here is your homework assignment #1.
We are all familiar with the Serenity Prayer which goes as:
God, grant me the Serenity to accept the things I can not change,
Courage to changes the things I can,
And Wisdom to know the difference.
Your homework is only the first line. "God, grant me the Serenity to accept the things I can not change,"
List some things that you can not change.
My list is: I can not change other people's feelings, the way they think, their morals and ethics and I can not change other people's views of me.
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3 responses
@GnosticGoddess (5626)
• United States
3 Jan 08
You've really covered the basics here.
I guess one of the things I'm struggling with is not having children.
I'm torn between if I can change it and if I can not. And my hubby has seemed to accept the I can not approach. Though I can't just yet.
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@royal52gens (5488)
• United States
3 Jan 08
Honey, you may not be able to physically have children of your own. Coming to terms and acceptance of that is deeply personal. Have you thought about being a Girl Scout Leader or Adult troop helper or something similar? You would have many children in your life in this respect. You have a lot of love to share with the children of the world. Is there a way for you to do that in your community? I encourage you to explore your options.
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@GnosticGoddess (5626)
• United States
4 Jan 08
I just feel like I haven't completely exhausted my options yet - looked at everything there is to look at - be tested for everything. I have this strong feeling that there is a medical reason but we just haven't found it yet. Until I get through that I won't be able move on from it.
We have talked about foster parenting - and may go that route. But I won't have any part of Girls Scouts.
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@royal52gens (5488)
• United States
8 Jan 08
Foster parenting can be a wonderful experience. There is a family in our town that have been foster parents for many years. They have shared their lives and home with well over 50 children at last count. Many of the children are now adults. It is like watching one huge family. It is absolutely awesome around the holidays when all of the children return home for a dinner and family gathering. Very inspirational.
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@misheleen73 (6037)
• United States
3 Jan 08
aww come on.. you never said there'd be homework !! No fair !! LOL
I cannot change how my family feels about me, I cannot make someone love me or appreciate me, I cannot make my father quit drinking, I cannot change other people's actions. There are many things I cannot change. Good thing is that I am finally realizing it and stopping feeling so guilty.
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@royal52gens (5488)
• United States
3 Jan 08
Allow me to zone in on this one area...........you can love your father and not his drinking or the effects of his drinking. You do not need to carry guilt. Dump the guilt, honey. (hug)
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@MsTickle (25180)
• Australia
13 Jan 08
I cannot change the cruelty and resentment I endured from my husbands/partners. I cannot change the fact that my parents beat the crap out of me and the nuns noticing said and did nothing - except pick on me themselves. I cannot change the fact that my parents disowned me more than once. I cannot change that my family neglected me and forgot about me when I needed them the most; I cannot change that I was a horrible lousy mother myself.
I've already passed on the other assignments, I have left the building on this one....tooo hard mate.
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@royal52gens (5488)
• United States
8 Jan 08
Since this is a homework assignment, can you expand upon your answer a little before you move on to the other 4 assignments?
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@royal52gens (5488)
• United States
14 Jan 08
But I have a huge (((hug)))) here for you. I know that this was difficult but you got through it. You did good. You have taken an awesome step forward. You have looked back and faced what you can not change. Now you never have to look back at it again. In that knowledge, I hope you will find peace, tranquility and serenity. You have a lot of friends here to help you. It is ok to cry and release the pain of the past. It is time to look forward and gain courage from your friends who love you and care about you.
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