second marriage

United States
January 2, 2008 9:15pm CST
does anyone else feel like everbody should get married 2 times? once for practice and once for real?
8 responses
@ky1119 (699)
• United States
3 Jan 08
I'm married for the second time. Our first anniversary is coming up in March. My first marriage wasn't a "practice" marriage. As it turns out, he wasn't the man I thought I married and I left before he hurt me or my kids beyond repair. I don't think first marriages are "practice" marriages. I think everyone makes a mistake now and then and sometimes the person is who you thought he/she really was.
• United States
3 Jan 08
but u learned in the first one am i right? it sounds like our situations were similar except i didnt get out as soon as u did my 5 yr old son ended up in a mental hospital because of stuff he seen the other kids are fine
• United States
3 Jan 08
oh and me and my new ones first anniversay is in a few weeks we were together for years b4 we got married
@mrsjbelle (1640)
• United States
4 Jan 08
Of course not on purpose some get it right the first time lol but marriage takes 2. If one person gives up thats it. But my boyfriend was married before and thanks to her he appreciates me more because he sees all women aren't like her.
• United States
4 Jan 08
well thats wonderful i hope neither of u let the other down and i wish u many happy years together
• Columbus, Ohio
4 Jan 08
Marriage is a lifetime commitment. You do not get married until you are responsible enough to make it work. It disgusts me the way people take thier vows so cavalier.
• United States
4 Jan 08
ok well NOBODY gets married with the intent of getting a divorce but it happens that life u either deal with it and make the best or u dont and become bitter like some people on here
• Indonesia
3 Jan 08
don't ever you think like that. Maried its not joke decision. if they fail in first time its not easy to continue and get second because sometimes shadow of first always follow it. Believe me i fell like that cause im second ok.
• United States
6 Jan 08
trust me when i say this there is now shadow from the first time
@lucy67 (819)
• China
3 Jan 08
it's true that we can learn a lot from our marriage. but i don't think it's a good way to learn by getting married. if we get married with the intention of learning something so that we can make our second marriage last, perhaps no one will get married with us. we can practice every day during our marriage so that we can make our marriage last. if we really find our marriage a failure we can have the second marriage but that should be the last choice. i don't think it right to choose marriage only as a kind of practice.
• United States
3 Jan 08
i didnt say to do it for practice u can get a shack up job for that but you do learn alot the first time for all the people that have only done it once and are still together thats great and i am glad they could make it work
@lightningd (1041)
• United States
3 Jan 08
Interesting thought, but I bet that would not go over well with alot of religions. I am on my second marriage now. I will say that there should probably be a mandatory 2 year engagement for young couples. I say this because so many marry young and the marriages don't last. As far as persons who have been married before, I think they should live together for a minimum of a year before they remarry. So many people discover things about their spouse well after the marriage.
• United States
3 Jan 08
this is completely correct the first time we lived together 6 weeks this time we lived together for 3 years i think people do marry to young and that is the practice round i mentioned i had never lived on my own before hubby 1 and he was a## anyways
@milkfish (374)
• Philippines
3 Jan 08
Personally, I do not believe in it. We should marry with the intention to keep the marriage relationship work and lasts forever. Everyday there are real life activities that let couples "practice" for the perfection of their relationship. Its bot a "hit and miss" sort of thing. If you are committed with your partner, you try to work the relationship out and stick with each other no matter what.
• United States
3 Jan 08
that is what i thought in round 1 but there are some things that are unforgivable and i learned alot the first time i married young and had i not married the first time when i met my for real hubby i would not of known how to make it work so it was a learning experience
@mizrak07 (557)
• Philippines
3 Jan 08
I don't feel that way. I'm married, it's first time and it's for real.