Do you understand your parent?

China
January 14, 2008 1:55am CST
Do you understand your parent? Of course, all parents love their children, so do children. Is "love" equal to "understanding"?
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@williamjisir (22900)
• China
15 Jan 08
Hello dear friend. I think that I can understand my parents very well and it should be the same to many people as the majority of us are brought up by our loved parents. Therefore there should be any problem that it is easier for us to understand them. Understanding can be one thing while love can be another. This is another question. You can understand one, but it does not mean that you would love one and vice versa. I think that they are two different concepts. Thanks for your two different questions in the same discussion.
• China
15 Jan 08
Sorry, there is one missing word in the sentence "Therefore there should 'not' be any problem...". Thanks.
• China
16 Jan 08
Yeah, there are two different problems, love is not equal to understanding, and vice versa. Thank you for responding.
@stephcjh (32327)
• United States
14 Jan 08
I grown up now and a mother myself. I really don't understand my mom, unfortunately, and I really don't think my daughter understands me, but it isn't because I don't try to explain myself to her when I am trying to be motherly. Love will eventually equal understanding in alot of cases.
• China
15 Jan 08
Don't worry, take it easy. I think no one could understand another one comletely, but we still try to understand our folks do our best. Thank you for responding.
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@stephcjh (32327)
• United States
16 Jan 08
Your welcome. I am a very understanding person. I just want the same in return. I do not understand some aspects in other people's life but to each their own. Eevery one of us are different.
• Philippines
1 Feb 08
when i was younger, i didn't care about what my parents thought or would said. no i pretty much matured -- i can say that i understand them more. might not understand them completely, but i now know where they are coming from. we really can't understand people unless we get to be in their shoes.
• China
2 Feb 08
perhaps, you really understand them, more... Thank you for responding...
@candytang (341)
• China
18 Jan 08
I love my parents as they love me ,but I think sometimes we still can't understand each other . Our attitude about the things ,our experiences maybe different,so there is still have distance from ourselves ,no matter we love each other ,we still have the different opinions and I think that shouldn't impact we love each other .
• China
20 Jan 08
Thank you for responding.
@carolbee (16231)
• United States
14 Jan 08
I think understanding is a part of love and love is a part of understanding. When my parents were alive I loved them unconditionally. Throughout my teenage years it was a trying time as far as parents, love and understanding. We weren't quite on the same page and that's understandable. Teenagers and parents are rarely on the same path during that particular time. Eventually things smooth out and life is good.
• China
15 Jan 08
Oh, How profound it is! Perhaps love could do unconditionally, how about understanding? Is realizing the parents' hardship equal to understanding?
@cherriemae (3374)
• Philippines
14 Jan 08
yes, i really understand my parents because i'm already a parent too...i think love and understanding will go together because if you really love your kids and family, you can understand them, the life of your kids they wanted, the degree in college they want to get.. i think parents really want to do everything for their kids to be happy and contented..
• China
15 Jan 08
I'm sorry, perhaps you only realize parents' hardship, but not understand. But I agree with you that love and understanding will go together, more understand, more love. Thank you for sharing your opinion.
@marketing07 (6266)
• South Korea
14 Jan 08
yes i do understand my parents,now that im already a parent i understand how they suffer,how they love and take care of us,,,most of all how they educate us and discipline us...i love my parents more,,,and thanks to them.
• China
15 Jan 08
Are you sure you understand your parents? That's great, very great! Thank you for sharing your life.
• Australia
14 Jan 08
I think you can only understand your parents as much as you can understand anyone else. I think we all learn more about eachother and ourselves every day. Love and understanding are seperate things.
• China
15 Jan 08
Oh,yeah, do our best, that's all. How wise you are! Thank you for sharing your opinion.
@angela2006 (1846)
• China
14 Jan 08
I think I understand my parents,so when doing something,I can take their feeling into consideration.but,I agree with you that love is not equal to understanding.some parents love their children so much,but they do not understand them very well,then love becomes a burden to them.
• China
15 Jan 08
Oh, that's great. I agree with you love becomes a burden sometimes. Thank you for sharing your opinion.
• China
14 Jan 08
honestly, i can't tell whether i understand my parents. it is no doubt that i love them, but between love and understand, i think there is still a long loooong way. i myself sometimes feel that few people understands me. although no man is an island, we do feel lonely from time to time. i think the only thing that can understand me thoroughly is my diary book. lol!!
• China
15 Jan 08
Hi, cherubgardenia, I agree with you that there is a long distance between love and understand. I think it is difficult to understand one completely. Oh, dear, looksvivek, you are not sure if your folks understand you, but are you sure you understand them?
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• United States
17 Feb 08
I always try my best to understand my parents. I feel that they are heroes. The fact that my mother went through labor to give birth to me, work 10 hours a day to give me shelter and food, and love me because of who I am really amazes me. I used to think that going to school was the worst but now I know otherwise. Dealing with payments, having enough time to keep a relationship with the kids and spouse, and balancing everything in their lives. That is a whole lot to do. I won't pretend like I fully understand what my parents go through but I try and appreciate and love them for their efforts. Hopefully when I have a family of my own and start my own career, I'll be able to really understand my parents and repay them back for what they have given me.
• India
4 Feb 08
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Well, I am proud to say that I am a very responsible child and I love my parents very much. I never argue with them. I always try to understand what they say. As I know that parents love their children very much and their opinion is never wrong. They always want that their kids should go on right track and do something nice so that they can fell proud on themself...... I never argue with my parents. Firstly, I carefully listen to what they say and then after giving it a relaxed thought I further carry over a discussion with them if I have some problems with their decigion. I try to convivce them, but, If they say no then also I never speak anything opposite to them. I think I understand my parents very well and they understand me too. According to me, when there is love, understanding is there own its own but when there is no love, its very difficult to understand each other due to which arguements takes place.....