ANGER – Should it be exposed or not??????
By subathra
@subathra (3519)
India
January 19, 2008 10:45am CST
Generally there is an opinion that laughter is the best medicine for human beings. When you whole heartedly laugh the stress and mild heart attack will be gone away without consuming medicine. Whether you laugh or not it is not going to bring a big problem but in case if you try to control your anger it will bring a great deal of disaster.
It is always good if we expose our anger and we will feel relaxed. When we expose our anger on someone it is unavoidable to hurt someone in our family. No human in this world to say that he/she will not get angry. Only it differs from person to person.The quantum of anger varies and the circumstance in which it is shown differs a lot.
If only one gets sudden provocation off course the result will be sometime beyond control. The person concern might go to the extent of committing suicide. What iam trying to tell is that if a person is angry he/she shouts or hurt by words the family members realizing the situation instead of further provoking him/her and must allow him/her to expose the anger so that in a minute he/she will come to normal stage and also his/her problems as if solved he/she feels.
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11 responses
@shotgunner101 (315)
• United States
20 Jan 08
Look if you don't expose your anger its just gonna build up till you blow on the next person who screws with you.If you want the truth then anger should always be dealt with one way or another.My personal way is through my computer and the internet :P
@marciascott (25529)
• United States
23 Jan 08
I do that alot I vent through different talk forums, like morachat. and mylot.
@marciascott (25529)
• United States
23 Jan 08
I do that alot I vent through different talk forums, like morachat. and mylot.
@r_yuen (332)
• Indonesia
29 Jan 08
It's hard for me not to express what I feel. I'm an expressive person. When I got mad, I can express it in words. So far, I'm really good at controlling it not to become harsh and destructive.
I think it's normal if you want to express what you feel inside, so people will know and realize. If you angry to a person without any reason, you better not do it. It'll be destructive.
Just put it short : "Constructive Anger" is allowed. "Destructive Anger" is prohibited.
@marciascott (25529)
• United States
23 Jan 08
People that can't control their angry needs angier management classes, or a support group, or just someone to talk to, like a counselor.
@Aussies2007 (5336)
• Australia
20 Jan 08
It would be good if we could release our anger on people who continually provoke us. Quite often they do it on purpose in order to challenge us.
But we have a multitude of laws which prevent us to release our anger. Each one of those laws can send us to jail for being angry. While the person who makes you angry has immunity.
So the best policy is to ignore the people who try to make you angry... and better still... remove them from your life. It is all about not reacting. And I know... it is a very hard thing to do... particulary when they won't let go and start stalking you.
There are people out there who are so sick that they could easily turn you into a murderer from anger. It happen all the time.
@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
21 Jan 08
I agree with you that anger also needs to be exposed or needs to be expressed. But our culture is such that kids cannot show their anger in front of their parents, younger ones cannot show their anger openly in front of elders.
What you wish to say is that one should be given the opportunity to express herself/himself, before arriving at a conclusion.
If it is not possible to show the anger in front of elders, feelings of anger should be vented out while one is alone. Anger (pent up emotions) needs to be released by one or another, otherwise it can cause health problems.
@fianne (1057)
• United States
20 Jan 08
i guess it should be exposed on the right environemnet, right time, right place and the right person. yes it is true, anger should be bursted out especially if you feel too much but it will be embarassing to those who are with you and if you yell in the wrong place. imagine if you yell to an uninvolved person, where do you think will you be caught up? in jail.
@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
20 Jan 08
I think laughter is very good medicine for everyone also. I wish we all got to laugh more than some of us are doing now.
I don't like anger and I try to sway from it myself. I want to be able to live and enjoy life and be able to have a laugh instead also.
@kykidd (6812)
• United States
19 Jan 08
The way we react when something bothers us becomes habit. Getting upset and yelling can be very stressful and as you say bad for the heart.
If one will try to gradually change this habit, it will be very healthy for them. When one gets upset they can try to change their voice pitch from a 5 (on a scale of 1-5) to a 4 at first. Concentrating and breathing slowly and trying to get their point across without being offensive. Eventually that pitch will go down to a 1.
It is also good to let people know why what they are doing bothers someone. Or if it is a child that is doing something wrong, give them something different to do.
@williamjisir (22819)
• China
20 Jan 08
Hello dear subathra. To expose anger can be either good or bad to us. As is narrated here in the discussion, it is a good way for the person to vent his anger so that he would not keep himself depressed in the mind as he is pressed by a mountain. But on the other side, just like what you said, it may hurt the feeling and relationship between the one who gives vent and the one who receives vent. To me, I would rather keep my vent instead of hurting the other one, ie, I would rather be hurt than hurting the others. Because I do not want the relationship between me and the other get involved in a further unpleasant situation. I can only say that this is part of me. lol. Thanks so much for the discussion, my dear friend.
