people being nice...

Philippines
January 23, 2008 3:16am CST
Why do some or most people become nice when they become sick or when they are already dying? Why not become nice from the start when you still have all the time to do it. When you still have the strength to share and enjoy life's blessing with others.
11 responses
• Philippines
23 Jan 08
true in most cases. that's why people must learn to be nice while living to make life worth it and more enjoyable. in relation to your observation, i think when you are sick and dying you have no more strength to be something else or do something else except to be nicer. it takes energy and expels strength to get angry or raise our voice or be mad at something. even frowning uses more muscles than to smile. when a person is sick or dying, he/she can't afford to use more energy or strength than he/she is capable to do... that's why, being nicer is much more easier for them. hahaha... just an observation too. :)
@vehaileairu (2286)
• Philippines
23 Jan 08
a grandmother - but not my grandma, this is a good person than she is
very true... god... i experienced that, and hell very true. my grand mother is as strict noisy and very perfectionist and people hate her, they run away when she starts scolding or demands something.. she slaps the maids when they commit mistakes, she call people insulting names like "stupid" or "dummy" she's rude and very materialistic, you cant eat one piece of her chocolate, not touch one inch of her dolls and perfumes! she'll love you when you give her gifts, money and expensive things.. she only love the rich side of our relatives, the poor ones, she treat like garbages, when theres celebration, you cant touch the food only her favorite grand sons, who are all plastic and fake to her, one thing she'll love you when you will praise her.. like you are the prettiest or whatever... but one day she went ill. suddenly... she turned into an angel.. from a monster.. duh.. people and other relatives felt sad and concern from her, but me? i pity her... she could have been good at the beginning. a well understanding and respectable person from the start.. but just because of she fell ill she'll be nice? thats the irony of humans... when something is consciously existing, we tend to ignore it.. she tend to ignore the love and care people giving her when shes perfectly fine... now that she's unable to, she now see the worth of those she insulted, those she maltreated. and they are the ones who stayed and helped her.. that was 3 years ago... but now.. shes as strong as ever, and still a monster.. hahhahah..
• Philippines
23 Jan 08
im so sorry for the double post.. the pc hang and now i pressed submit response and doubled it.. sorry^_^
• Canada
24 Jan 08
You know I have often wondered about this very thing. It is a puzzlement to me that people can be so miserable for their entire lives and then bang they get sick and all of a sudden they are sorry for their bad attitudes and bad behavior. It seems so sad to me because they missed so much good in their lives but then I am always happy they they turned around in the end. Do you have loved ones in your life like that?
@squaretile (3833)
• Singapore
24 Jan 08
yes that is sad isn't it. but at least they are trying to make amends for their previous bad behaviour. some people don't even try. They just are nasty till their last breath. i guess this is a good reminder to all of us to be nice all the way and not just when it's too late anyhow. cheerio!
@koikoikoi (1247)
• United States
24 Jan 08
Well some people become nice when they're sick because they think the nicer they are the less torture of being sick they'll have to go through, you know get healthier faster. And well some people when they're dying they think that in the last hours of living if they'll be nice enough, no matter how bad they've been in life that they have a good chance that they're going to hell, they will be nice enough to make it to Heaven. People like that sicken me.
@youless (98996)
• Guangzhou, China
23 Jan 08
Perhaps when people are dying, they will realize something wrong that they have done before. And they feel sorry about it and want to change it. So being nice is a way to make them feel better.
@19ewf84 (463)
• Austria
23 Jan 08
I think many people get nice because they think if they don't they will die alone. And that's something most people don't want - to die alone. So they trie to be nice and act like there is no past....
@slickcut (8141)
• United States
23 Jan 08
This is a easy one..People are nice when they get sick just like people get religious when they get in prison..They get that way because they have backed themselves in a corner and they are looking for a way out..If people are mean and bad they are just that way..Just because they get nice when they get sick does not make them a nice person..If they were to get well they would go right back to being mean...they do not get nice, they are just being nice because they are not in the postion to be mean right now because they are sick, they need help, they are so sorry they were mean,its all just a big front to gain your symphthy......
@bunmi2501 (467)
• Nigeria
23 Jan 08
People that are sick and dyeing need people around them to help them through, at those moment, they have no choice than to be nice, even when they are not naturally, but because they need people, they tend to be nice to them just to get want they want. Anyway this goes to only those who are not nice naturally. They need to consider their ways because when the storm of life shall come, the people that mistreat are the same people they will call for help.
• China
23 Jan 08
it's obvious that when we are alive ,we are engaged in busy and high-pace working .we have no time to think about our faults twice.we just wait others to come to approgize to us instead of forgiving them because we have our own interests that everyone fight for in all the life.we are influenced by our surroundings and never spare time to retrace.i have an experience that when i sit alone ,the memory of my mistakes and my plans would come to mind.actually i saw what i think. and when people are dying .nothing make sense.sorrow ,dispute and all the unpleasant thing fly away.what we want to do then is to make a good and deep impression on others' minds so that one can be memorized.
@vehaileairu (2286)
• Philippines
23 Jan 08
grand mother - not my grandma
she's too evil for this face..
very true... god... i experienced that, and hell very true. my grand mother is as strict noisy and very perfectionist and people hate her, they run away when she starts scolding or demands something.. she slaps the maids when they commit mistakes, she call people insulting names like "stupid" or "dummy" she's rude and very materialistic, you cant eat one piece of her chocolate, not touch one inch of her dolls and perfumes! she'll love you when you give her gifts, money and expensive things.. she only love the rich side of our relatives, the poor ones, she treat like garbages, when theres celebration, you cant touch the food only her favorite grand sons, who are all plastic and fake to her, one thing she'll love you when you will praise her.. like you are the prettiest or whatever... but one day she went ill. suddenly... she turned into an angel.. from a monster.. duh.. people and other relatives felt sad and concern from her, but me? i pity her... she could have been good at the beginning. a well understanding and respectable person from the start.. but just because of she fell ill she'll be nice? thats the irony of humans... when something is consciously existing, we tend to ignore it.. she tend to ignore the love and care people giving her when shes perfectly fine... now that she's unable to, she now see the worth of those she insulted, those she maltreated. and they are the ones who stayed and helped her.. that was 3 years ago... but now.. shes as strong as ever, and still a monster.. hahhahah..