your father

I have a perfect and harmony family.But if this terrible thing happens and father comes back after his betray,I will forgive him in a dauther's side,but cannot forgive him for the hurt to my mother.Whether accecpting him will large depends on mother's thoughts,because mother is the only person who will go on to live together with the man who ever betrayed her.

I have a ex wife that when my current wife was away on a long trip..she seen me at a local Bob Evans and we chatted up...she called me later as this was my birthday and asked me to go out an do something..i was flattered but I said no thank you but thanks for the invite..i have a wife and the reason we stay together is that we have a 22 year old marriage...I did not think the first wife would ask me out as we went through a lot of bad times but I always was decent to her family even after we got divorced...but don't mistake kindness for weakness...even if I was not marrie I should not go out with an ex...it would be tempting as we always had fun when we got along.. Your parents hav feelings too..you really don't know how your mother feels about this man you call your father...they must have had something going but things happen and not all stories have a happy ending...i find my ex wife very charming and she still looks attractive but once is enough and when you have another women who is you current wife...you better not play with fire...the truth always comes out in the end...

How could I not accept my father? Yea he would have hurt my mom, but if time comes when he wants back in my life I would accept him back and work on building our relationship for that fact that he is my dad.

my father did that more than 40 years ago and believe me i do know what pain you are going through....but about 15 years ago i found my father again and i forgave him and i am really glad that i did...not long after we found each other again my father was diagnosed with dementia so we started to lose him again but i was able to have at least 11 good years with him before the dementia was so bad that he did not really know what was going on....then we found out that he had cancer and i lost him two years ago this month.....i have to tell for all of the pain that i went through when he left and all of the anger i felt.....i know now that those are not the memories that i need to dwell on i have the last 15 years to hold onto and for that i will forever be grateful....so yes i accepted him back into my life and i am glad that i did

Fortunately this doesnt happen in our family. My father still loves my mom very much after all this time. But, I do have several friends that have cases like this. Most of them told me that it really did hurts them deeply, but mostly not only because their father left their mother.. but also because they feel their father didnt think they are worthy enough to love. Some of them feels that their father didnt want to be part of their life again. I wouldnt dispute that.. and I do think it is up to them if they want or dont want to accept their father in their life at later time, but one thing I have to say.. dont hold on to the hate that you feel for him. And also, no matter what, he was still your father even if he is not someone that you can call dad anymore.. he is still what makes you YOU... and without him, then there wont be any you... remember that once before.. you were still created out of love that he and yourmother feels... according to my friend experience, this way of thinking lessen the hurt much.. and make her able to sort of accept her father in her life ...