torn between the two of them

I think i would just have to go with my heart. I have been in a situation like this in the past. Before my husband and I married, he had left me and was dating someone else so I moved on with my life as well. I really liked or cared for the new guy I was with but my heart and my love was still for my now husband. I had to break the news to the other guy that my husband wanted to work things out with me. It wasn't easy but the other guy understood.

I would stay with the current relationship and put the past behind me. There was a reason why the first relationship didn't work in the first place and eventually it would probably come back up again. Out with the old in with new.

Well I was in a very similar situation and for a short time chose the first option of seeing both of them. You're right about it being a bad choice by the way! Anyway, then I chose the old lover and broke it off with the other one. As it turned out it didn't work out in the end anyway! However, I don't regret it because if I hadn't done that I would have kept up with the "what if's" and at least it taught me a lesson (I hope!). If the same situation arose again I would pick the third option and stay with the one I had. It's very easy to allow sentiment about the past to blind us to the realities of it!

I think that a situation may be similiar but different for each person and there would be many different factors to consider. Maybe the old lover has changed and matured, or maybe not. For me, I don't know, I think my ex lover would turn my head a bit, and give me something to think about, but I would choose to stay with my husband. What I have with my husband is real, and the grass isn't always greener on the other side.

I'd tell them to wait if they could until I can clear my head from this quandary. Weigh the options and the pros and cons. I might as well have them meet each other. Who knows? They migh both leave me ^_^;

If you love your current partner stay with him. Think of why the previous relationship broke up in the first place. I have gone back to my ex before and I regretted it, sometimes we always think the grass is greener on the other side. If this guy treats you right then you should definately stay, try and forget about your ex. It will only diminish the relationship you are in now.

I have been on both sides of this fence and it really depends on the people involved and what you want in your relationships. I was married to a guy and he decided to get a divorce and go back to his ex, I moved on and found another man who rocked my world. Well my ex came back and wanted things to be the way they were between us and I just couldn't find it in my heart to go back. Years have past and I still wonder at times if we would have made it together. I lost the man that rocked my world in a hunting accident last year. I haven't wanted to get back in the dating scene as it is just too soon. My ex has moved on and been in and out of relationships. I can't help wondering though if the reason is because his soul is still missing mine, or if he is just that bad. Either way I will never know as I have my own memories to carry me the rest of my life.

I think this is a difficult situation, But i would like to stay with the current one. the past is past. whgen the past let me broke away, why to make those feeling revived? And also what is the fault of the new one? Why to hurt him?

I would stay in the current rlationship and forget the past. For the past is the past and the future is now and the present

Put the past behind you for they are the ones who broke it off with you. Now you are happy with some knew. You will still have feelings for the one from the past.BUT thats the past.Life goes on.