Am I a bad person?

Croatia (Hrvatska)
January 27, 2008 5:49am CST
My friend signed up for a football team yesterday.. He`s one step closer to a professional contract.. My female friend is a model.. She`s gone to america for a Ford Beauty Contest.. If she makes it to the top 3 beauties, she`ll also get a nice contract.. although i`m happy to see that my friends are finally making their dreams come true, i`m kinda depressed.. i`m still far away from making my dream come true.. currently i am preparing myself for an audition which will probably happen in august, for a guitar institute in london.. i`m practicing hard but seeing them succeding before me makes me a bit jelaous.. am i a bad person?
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@lilaclady (28207)
• Australia
27 Jan 08
No your not a bad person, I think everyone can feel a little envious at times, your time will come if you want it hard enough..I hope to see you when you are a famous musician, just keep practicing and think positive.
• Croatia (Hrvatska)
27 Jan 08
I really want my time to come.. Wherever I`m, music is in my ears... today i was in church.. priest was talking, but i was somwhere out in my thoughts.. this past few months, all my thoughts are focused on london and audition.. hopefully i won`t become just another "could have been great guitarist".. thanks for a kind words..
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@ratyz5 (7808)
• Philippines
27 Jan 08
Your not doing anything bad towards others so you ain't bad in that aspect. Why not take those envies and jelousy that you get from progressing friends and turn it into motivation for your own aspirations in getting ahead for your goals. Its nice to know that your happy for them. You can't deny comparisons but, you could at least know where you stand and which things you should focus or work on to make things better on you part.
• Croatia (Hrvatska)
27 Jan 08
Although that jelousy is a great motivator it`s also a demotivator.. Seeing that people of your age are pretty close to their goal is demotivating... it makes me wonder why i`m not one step closer to my goal.. where did i fail.. what did i do wrong.. should i practised harder.. and all the sudden, i`m thinking more about football and modelling than music and guitars.. thx for response..
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• Croatia (Hrvatska)
28 Jan 08
I really don`t have intention to brag around just because i made it to GI or just because i`m famous at last.. Playing guitar is the best thing that ever happened to me, and probably the only thing that i am really good at it now.. (i really don`t know about that feature, sorry)
@ratyz5 (7808)
• Philippines
27 Jan 08
Seeing that you've already noticed it yourself, it now really depends on how one would take peers that are having a lot of success in their lives. Would you take it in a bad way or would you make it as a source of motivation to do harder and even better? As if a personal goal to be more successful than your peers but, no intention of bragging about it when it does come by. Your welcome ^_^ its nice to respond every now and then. (By the way, does myLot have an option wherein it'll show you replies to your posts or responses at particular topics that you just commented on and not really instigated? Thanks ^_^)
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@sugaree (109)
• Philippines
28 Jan 08
jealousy happens to most of us, if not to all... you couldnt really be called bad if you get jealous, unless it becomes excessive.. As long as you dont get to the point of praying that they dont succeed, or hating yourself for not being the same, or bringing them down, nothing's wrong with you.. Just keep in mind that real friends support each other.. if it happens to you, your friends will be happy for you,too. and also, everything has its perfect time.. just wait for yours... i'm sure your deam will come true.. just have faith..
@sugaree (109)
• Philippines
29 Jan 08
well, thats it.. then you answered you're own question.. you're not bad after all..
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@sugaree (109)
• Philippines
13 Apr 10
i know its been 3 years.. but i want to know what happened to the audition.. you mind telling me the story? :D
• Croatia (Hrvatska)
28 Jan 08
Nah, i don`t think i`ll ever get to the point of praying for someone`s failure.. it`s just not me.. i was thought not to pray for someone`s failure or even laugh at his failure.. hopefully, i`m not the only one who thinks that this is not right..
• China
28 Jan 08
hello,the first thing i should say is u r not a bad person.considering with this situation,i think ur emotion is understandable.it is easy for us to be upset when we have not got our goal while the poeple around us are successful. but on the other hand, u should keep going.u must concertrate on ur own goal and be happy with ur friends.that is the best way for life:)
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• Croatia (Hrvatska)
28 Jan 08
In my group of friends they always believed that the three of us will become someone.. am currently step behind them, but if you look it from the other angle, i m still few steps in front of my other friends who still don`t know what to do in life.. just by making a decision and setting your goal, you are closer to it.. just need to keep on going and don`t look back.. i never have doubt in my goal, but i have doubted in the ways of getting to that goal.. seems to me that i`ve taken the longer road, but i don`t doubt in it..
• China
27 Jan 08
jealous is normal to all of us and control it in a proper area and degree is OK. you say that many friends of you become successful before but it's not a bad news.oppositely it shows that you are a good guy for you have so many good guys to be your friends.Success depends on abiliy,luck,society needs,etc.What's more you have try your best to be better just like your saying that you have practised guitar so hard. China has a saying that great minds matures slowly. You'll be better,trust me
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• Croatia (Hrvatska)
27 Jan 08
i really like that saying.. well from your mouth to god`s ears..(i think that`s the english translation for one croatian saying).. thanks for response..
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28 Jan 08
Just keep thinking that if it's happened for them then August may be your moment! You need to think positive to make positive things happen. I know it's easier said than done but try to concentrate on things you have achieved, no matter how small & it will make you believe that no matter how small the steps are, you're always getting closer to what you want. Have faith in yourself, if you put the work in there's no reason why you can't make it! And no, you definately are not a bad person. Maybe you just need a little confidence boost! Nica x
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• Croatia (Hrvatska)
28 Jan 08
I really hope august will be my moment.. one year in London, spending the time by playing with the best and learning from the best.. it`s gonna be a great moment.. hope it will last for a long time..
@manu619 (450)
• India
12 Jun 08
Jelousy is natural okay.. Dont express it.. And practice ard... U might succeed.. i wil pray for you..
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@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
12 Jun 08
Don't compare yourself from others. That's the best thing to do so as to relieve yourself from unnecessary stress. Stress doesn't help. Let me share to you a story. There was a race with all the turtles in the world. Hundreds started the race on a grueling course. Just before the finish line, there was a huge cliff and the turtles had to climb. Everyone in the audience shouted, "That's impossible! no one could climb?! Turtles are not built to climb!!" One by one, the turtles quit in defeat but one. After the finish line, the turtle was interviewed. But never answered. Until a colleague said, "He won't answer you because he's deaf!". Moral of the story. Stop listening to negative people around you. Focus on your goal. Sometimes, it's best to listen in deaf ears when someone talks negative things about you. I suggest, look blindly on the achievements of others, perfect your skill and surely by the time you realize things, you'd see you have surpassed everyone else. Just focus on yourself. Good luck!
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@Wario_1 (965)
• Sweden
27 Jan 08
I understand how you feel about it, its not a nice thing to be in. Your not a bad person, out of my perspective as long as you dont get stuck being jelaous. dont use to much attention to the succes of your friends, of course you can rejoice with them about it but you still have a life to live. I say work hard on practising with your guitarr, do what you need to do and take care of your own business. Its nice when your friends are getting somewhere, but that should not be in the way of getting somewhere yourself.
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• Croatia (Hrvatska)
28 Jan 08
Of course it should not be in the way of getting somewhere myself but last few days, i feel like i`ve missed the train in which they apparently jumped.. hopefully there is another train for me.. thx for kind thoughts..
@Rappybas (51)
• Netherlands
27 Jan 08
Do what you wanna do, and everything comes on it's place ;)
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• Croatia (Hrvatska)
27 Jan 08
short and effective.. but sometimes, we have to bring togehter different parts of jigsaw to focus it on our goal.. thanks, and welcome to mylot..
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@di1159 (1580)
• United States
28 Jan 08
No you are not a bad person. What you are describing are just real emotions we all feel at one time or another. I think you should focus your energy on your goals and let nature take its course. Soon you will find your own successes and you will realize that they were worth the wait. Good Luck!
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• Croatia (Hrvatska)
28 Jan 08
I just hope that nature will do it`s thing at right timing.. don`t want to be a teenage star, but i also don`t want to be too old for becoming someone..
@ladym33 (10979)
• United States
12 Jun 08
Envy does not make you a bad person unless you let it consume you. It is only natural to feel a little disappointed in our selves when those we care about seem to be doing much better. Just be happy for them, we all will have wonderful moments, and not so wonderful moments in our lives. There is room for all of us to do well if we want, so wasting time being jelous is just that a waste of time. Spend that time working on your dreams.
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• United States
22 Jun 08
Not at all. Jealousy is only shows that YOU know you need to work harder to reach your full potential and that you know you are not there yet! Just do not be mean to your friends and wish them well. But also..take your jealousy and let it teach you! Frustration makes us all work harder to reach our goals, and as long as YOU know that the reason you feel this way is so that you will push harder to be like them and reach your potentials in life..then it is good! Jealousy is only bad when the person is lazy and refuses to work for their own full potential..then blames the others for "luck", when they EARNED that so-called luck! Success is WORK and preparation meeting opportunity! Now take your jealousy and frustration, like your friends did..and get back to work! You'll get there!!! (Go fot it!)
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@guybrush (4658)
• Australia
21 Jun 08
Of course you're not a bad person! It's natural to be pleased for them, but a bit sorry for yourself as well. Your time will come, though - and it's best to stay positive and optomistic while you're waiting, and make sure you're as good as you can be. Good luck - I hope your audition goes brilliantly!
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@cripfemme (7698)
• United States
4 Feb 08
No, it's natural to envy people who are succeding. Just don't overly focus and forget to work on yourself and you're goals.
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@Elixiress (3878)
10 May 08
No that does not make you a bad person, it is natural for people to be jealous of other people's success. A bad person is the type of person that sees their friends makes it and stands in their way.
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• Philippines
5 Jun 08
good day... No not exactly as long as in your heart you still have the best interest for your friends. Life's like that bro, some have it early most have it late but what counts is you're trying your earnest and you'll get there just be patient. Use your bit of jealousy as fuel to inspire you more and excel in your craft. Good luck
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• India
11 May 08
not at all ur a very nice person as i rather say ur a hard working one... n dont woory you will suceed in auditions n life best of wishes... for august from my side...
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• China
11 May 08
NO,you are not a bad person ,your friend are making their dreams come true, as i, i will admire them too ,but i don not envy them, i believe they have made more effort than i do, i will try hard and hope you arrive you goal soon.
@Odamashin (434)
• Philippines
5 Jun 08
..hi good afternoon..you know hat? if you're a true friend you'll be happy for them...to see them successful in achieving their dreams because what they have achieved is your achievement too. Maybe it's not the right time for you...it so happened that their opportunities comes first..All you have to do is continue aiming,try harder and do your very best to achieve your own dreams...if the perfect time comes...you'll also succeed and your friend will be happy for you. So, stop feeling jealous.