Ladies, which do you use, Ms., Mrs., or Miss? Why?

United States
February 10, 2008 1:45pm CST
Which prefix do you use and why? What are your thoughts on married women using the Ms? What are your thoughts on single women using Ms?
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• United States
10 Feb 08
I use Ms or Mrs. There is no rhyme or reason behind it. I wish they would do away with the Mrs. Ms is more appropriate.
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@Modestah (11179)
• United States
11 Feb 08
I do not see how Ms is more appropriate. It originated in use to identify women who called themselves Marxist Sisters. It might be appropriate for some, but certainly not for others - I am not ashamed of being a Mrs. and am satisfied to use the title. Most people do not use anything in addressing others or signing their own name. a loss of propriety and decline in decorum I suppose.
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• United States
10 Feb 08
IMO Mrs means married or widowed, Miss - never married, Ms - divorced or none of your business (LOL)
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@sacmom (14192)
• United States
11 Feb 08
LOL! I like your explanation! :)
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@GardenGerty (157552)
• United States
10 Feb 08
If I am filling things out online and I do not want everything to be known about me, I select Ms. I feel that it does not say if I am married or single, the reader can make their best guess. In person, I am Mrs. I am proud to be married to my hubby.
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@subha12 (18441)
• India
11 Feb 08
As i am unmarried, i use Miss. I think its most appropriate for unmarried women. I think Ms can be used for both married and unmarried women. But it makes confusion about the exact marital status.
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@Grandmaof2 (7579)
• Canada
10 Feb 08
I am my own person. I would never go by Mrs John Doe, I'm not John, I have my own name and I use it exculsively. Guess I'm just an old boot...hahahha. I just use my first and (married) last name. If in the event my husband passes away before me I will definately be going back to my maiden name.
@sacmom (14192)
• United States
11 Feb 08
I use Mrs. since I am a married woman. I never understood why the prefix Ms. was needed, except for a woman to hide her marital status. I remember my kindergarten teacher went by Ms. and had her students try to figure out if she was married or not. Okay, so she had a little fun at the kids expense LOL, but other than that, what is the point? :P
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@JoyfulOne (6232)
• United States
11 Feb 08
Personally, I use the Ms. prefix to designate who I am. I was a Miss for all the years before I was married, a Mrs. while I was married for 20+ years, and now that I'm divorced I see myself as a Ms. For some reason in my brain, a Miss is somebody who never was married ever or is a young woman...and a Ms. is somebody who was married once upon a time, but isn't anymore. However, there are times when I use Ms. as a designation for somebody in their 20's or so and who is not wearing a ring. You have no idea what their status is, or what they prefer to be called, so I just automatically use Ms. I have on occasion found many older women (who have never married) get offended being called Miss. Funny, I have not a clue what is actually politically correct lol.
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@Thoroughrob (11742)
• United States
11 Feb 08
I use Mrs.. I have always been brought up that you do that once you get married. It just seems natural.
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@MsTickle (25180)
• Australia
15 Feb 08
I hate labels. I use Ms because it's a generic term rather than a label. People ASSUME with women, if she has kids with her they assume she's married, if she looks a certain age they assume she's married if it's older or single if it's younger. I want to be addressed without someone guessing wether they think I look like I'm married or not. I feel being called Ms allows me some dignity and a smidgeon of mystique. With men, the term Mr/mister is a title not a label.
@MsTickle (25180)
• Australia
9 Mar 08
Thank you for best reponse. :)
@twoey68 (13627)
• United States
7 Apr 10
I used Ms. for about 20 years after I seperated from my ex-husband. We weren't divorced but we weren't together anymore either so I felt it was proper. Since Hubby and I have gotten married I use Mrs. I was always taught that Miss means you're not married, Mrs. means you are married and Ms. means it's none of your business LOL [b]**AT PEACE WITHIN** ~~STAND STRONG IN YOUR BELIEFS~~[/b]
@Modestah (11179)
• United States
11 Feb 08
I use Mrs. and my husband's name rather than my given name along with our last name. Why? because it is my state in life. my vocation. and it does identify me. I do not use Miss, because I am a matron. I do not use Ms. because it stands for Marxist Sister, of which I do not identify with.
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• Lubbock, Texas
1 Jul 08
When I was married, I used Mrs. and my husband's name. Now that I'm divorced, I feel that I am a person in my own right, but with 5 children definitely not Miss, so if a prefix is necessary I use Ms. I usually just go by my first and last name without a prefix.
@Mayuko (1268)
• United States
27 Jan 12
I'm not married but I prefer to use Ms. The only place I've ever used it is online when filled out survey profiles. Often, the survey then asks if I'm married or single and I'll admit that I'm single, so I'm not sure why I use Ms. over Miss When I get married, I'm sure I'd use Mrs.