Do you live largely in the now, past or future?
February 26, 2008 3:11pm CST
You know the feeling? a smell takes you back years, a persons voice awakens memories. Out of your revere, you are woken by pressing concerns in the now. Or do you spend your time dreaming of the future and making plans? Now I know we all do all of this but i wonder if we do some more than others?
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29 Feb 08
My meditation is a discipline to focus on the now. But what is past will keep coming up until I reach completion for mistakes, that my ego tells me are sins. Once I have completed, I move on. Sometimes, something recent can come up that keeps bothering me and I think I should be OK with it. Then I discover that it is an similar incident that has become strongly linked with a previous more intense incompletion.
2 Mar 08
Yes, an ego of their own, a good description here as the ego's purpose is to keep all things separate, so anything that it has created, it views as separate and a threat and so the disintegration of who we really are continues. I ask myself if this is the "devil" of Christianity creating other little devils.
28 Feb 08
It took me quite a while to learn not to look into the past so much, because i was still young, and well you live and you learn right?! It is much better to live in the now and think to the future then to live in the past and dwell on the what was. You can't change the past, but you can sure change your future ;) Hey isn't that a coin phrase ? What the heck does coin phrase mean?!
27 Feb 08
Mostly I live in the now. I do have nice memories from the past, and a few not so nice, but they're not on my mind all the time, and the future.. well, I do dream sometimes, but I don't live there:) I am pretty much a present person, a day by day person. Do I remember past times? Sure but as memories, I try not to live by that, since that's not my life anymore. The same for the future. I tend to dream about things the way I would want them, or planning for things I want, but my feet and head are still pretty much on the present.
28 Feb 08
Well... I live in the present... learn from the past and dream for the future. I believe that that's the way it should be. Its hard to live on the past alone... you can't move on. If you live with the present and not dream and prepare for future... then you just keep on waking up and counting days. if you live for tomorrow... then you will be missing a lot of things and time. I think we should consider the three.
27 Mar 08
yes, i definately know the feeling! yes a smell takes me back in time and the voices back to the memories! i personally live on the here and now. i feel that is most important because if u focus on whats going on right now at this very moment you are more likely to become aware of the situations/ difficulties you are experiencing in your life and then will be more cautious of how to deal with them. as a career and work counsellor i have learned that many people live based on the past. i have learned over time, that is not very helpful at all. those who live in the past will base everything in the present and future on what happenned in the past. even though the times have changed, generations, ages, styles of learning, everything... people still tend to think that because of how an incident resulted in the past, that it is going to repeat itself. i think that people need to learn more about their internal locus of control and realize what they're feelings are RIGHT NOW, think of options of how to deal with it, explore then, and work towards developing an action plan to achieve their goal/ dealing with their situation and/ or problem.
27 Feb 08
for me is just a great & memorable moment my past, as you said smell take us back years, in this time a just spend my time of planing my future with my family,praying that god will give us more life & with healthy family together, i want to see my grand children before i will die:)
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3 Mar 08
I mainly live in the now, right now because this world is so fast changing, we have to keep up with it. I do get a chance to think about the past on occasion though, but very rarely. I am always planning for the future because time passes by so quickly, we have to make sure we are prepared for our golden years.
27 Feb 08
I think i live largely on the 80's. I am born 1980 flat.I really love the 80's and i still watch movies and listen to songs of the 80's. I don't know why 80's are important to me, maybe because i experience good things and memorize while growing up. I even joined blogs and groups that focuses topics about 80's. I love all about the 80's and obviously I am still living in the past. Some of my friends adviced me to think of my future and yes I am focus on my future but when it comes to happy memories most of them happened in the 80's.
28 Feb 08
I think I routinely live in the now. But don't let what I just said mislead you into thinking I am some Zen master. Well, I am definitely not though I guess being one is kinda cool.:P I just try not to think. Thinking sends me into depression and not thinking just... nothing. It's the devil or the deep blue sea. Neither is a good option though. :(
27 Feb 08
I don't think I ever really think about the present. I think I mostly think about the future because my past is depressing. Whenever I think about my past, I just want to forget about it. Thinking about the future though doesn't always help because if it doesn't work out the way you hoped it would, you feel like a failure. Oh well....C'ést La Vie!