Are you having problems with your husband/so? Is he treating you badly?
By ctrymuziklvr
@ctrymuziklvr (11057)
United States
February 29, 2008 9:21am CST
This is a true story and will be on 20/20 tonight. This husband and wife weren't geting along and one morning the husband "found" his wife of 14 years in bed dead. After a police investigation it was concluded that she probably committed suicide. What the husband didn't know was that she had given one of their friends an envelope telling them if anything ever happened to her that seemed suspicious that they were to give it to the police!
I think there's a lesson to be learned by any woman who is being abused or is afraid of her husband/so in any way. It wouldn't hurt to have something like this written out and even just kept where someone might find it who can be trusted.
You can read the whole story at this link:
http://abcnews.go.com/2020/Story?id=4359389&page=1
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7 responses
@madlees (1377)
• India
29 Feb 08
I have not yet read the article to which you have given the link. I can guess what would have happened. I see lots around me here and also in a site where I am an advisor. Many such abuses are coming out late. These ladies should have enough courage to come out with the truth at least to their friends who are there.
Nowadays every household has a computer and the internet connection. If and only if she had made some friends over the net she could have got help without dying.. The in laws staying with the couple doesn't help the couple to settle down together either. At least articles and advises like these should help those ladies to come out in the open.. Then the menfolk will also be wary of such treatment.
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@ctrymuziklvr (11057)
• United States
1 Mar 08
Sometimes even when it's out in the open the woman doesn't leave. My daughter was in an obvious abusive relationship for over 20 years and I feared for her life the whole time. The good thing was that he knew if anything were to happen to her or the kids he would have been the first one the police went to.
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@madlees (1377)
• India
4 Mar 08
That one thought makes them stop a bit and think about it. But these abusers will not change. They have to be taken to the therapists for treatment. Women also should start coming out in the open for that. They should have the courage to come out and tell others and not wait to savetheir husbands' pride.
@lolalolacherrycola (899)
• United States
29 Feb 08
Interesting read. Thanks for sharing. I wonder if he did really do it.
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@ctrymuziklvr (11057)
• United States
1 Mar 08
If anyone read that letter it's very interesting that she knew so much but still let him get away with it. She was smart enough to write it so why wasn't she smart enough to leave?
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@worldwise1 (14885)
• United States
2 Mar 08
That's very interesting, ctry, and it also brings up the issue of how deceptive some people can be. I see it happening more and more where the husband no longer wants to be bothered with the wife, and rather than doing the manly thing of telling her he wants out, he secretly plots to kill her or have her killed. From my past experiences in abusive relationships, I cannot understand why some women don't just walk away -or, if necessary, run as fast as their legs will carry them. The old excuse that these women are afraid to tell anyone or leave doesn't hold water with me. I had no problem leaving, and my pride would never cause me to hold anyone to me that no longer wanted to be with me. Unless the man is a master of deception, there are always clues that he wants out of a relationship.
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@pergammano (7682)
• Canada
1 Mar 08
That is one unbelievable story! It seems the prosecution had their hands tied at every move! Oh, it's sickening.
It seems the key to all of this is documentation. I just saw a show on Oprah, a woman abused for many years......and she kept a journal at work, with her boss. The boss documented with pictures...all this came to the forefront after her murder! But during her short, beautiful life, NO law, No-one, gave her support. The husband was eventually prosecuted...BUT all for naught, a beautiful life was lost.
How is it that mentally/physically abused women, most often have to die, before they receive help?
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@elemental69 (1559)
• Ireland
29 Feb 08
Thankfully I could not have done any better if I tried when I met my husband. He is the best in the world to me and the kids.... I read in our paper this morning of a woman who was given 30 years prison sentence for trying to kill her husband by lacing his meals with anti-freeze!!! The husband thought that they had a happy marraige!!! Thankfully he survived after so many weeks in a coma.
@writersedge (22563)
• United States
3 Mar 08
If she felt he was going to kill her, too bad she didn't have that relative contact Stop Domestic Violence and see if something could be worked out so she could go to a "safe house." So many stories on TV talk about the people that get killed, but very few talk about the ones who escaped and started over. With good reason, most will be in hiding for the rest of either their lives or the guy's-whichever applies. But SDV has relocated many woman and children so they could live decent lives.
No, my husband and I aren't having problems, and he does not treat me badly.








