what would you do if you love a boy who has a girlfriend?

China
March 4, 2008 3:45am CST
recently incurably fell in love with a boy i met at work,but! he has had a girlfriend. i disappointedly decided to give up,but my mind was not in control! Every time he stepped in to the room I felt everythin is covered by the golden sunshine, and with the thought of he already having a girlfriend my heart sank. what should i do? and if you were me,what would you do?
6 responses
• China
5 Mar 08
Make friend with him first, ordinary friend.Make sure whether the boy you're carrying the torch for is the right one for you.And think about are you the right one for him. To know him more,if the answer is Yes,wait for your chance.Well,but don't disturb a pair in true love. It's very difficult to do so, you may try to find someone else. To be competitive,not just on relationship.
• China
6 Mar 08
that's so sweet,and objective. thank you!you know sometimes i misunderstood the high probability we met for god's order. every time when i thought he left and felt lost, he would show up again, and gave me some solace.
• Philippines
4 Mar 08
This is a tough situation to get into. This has happened to me before, and I'm afraid I got tangled inside this web of emotions and gave in to the temptation. But, as soon as it started, I had to end it. It is a very foolish thing to do, getting involved with someone who is attached. I did the best I can to forget about that guy. I immersed myself with different activities, and I started to date other people. Hanging out with my friends helped me forget about my foolishness, and with their support, I was able to get through it.
• China
5 Mar 08
yeah, i have to admit that you are right, so right that i don't have any excuse to get involved!
@subha12 (18452)
• India
4 Mar 08
I think love does not consider all these conditions. what is the harm your heart has done in loving the person. its bad luck that he has a GF. now it is not acceptable you will be in relationship with him. take attention away from it. try to engage in other activities that make you happy.
• China
4 Mar 08
yeah,for him, no harm actually.he even doesn't know. may be love is always a journey of one's own, i can get the sensations and inspirations just for loving him.
@academic2 (7009)
• Uganda
4 Mar 08
Try to show him you are the best and let him see the light in yu than in the other girl and make a move on his own. Remember life is about competition, those who endure most win the competition.
• China
4 Mar 08
thank you for your support,but the thing is i don't think i am the kind of person that so competitive. most of the time i chose to give up,not just relationship, all the things. this may be the first time i had the idea of not giving up!
• Indonesia
5 Mar 08
I have never fallen in love with a boy, even if he didn't get a girlfriend. I'm normal, you know :-). I've ever fallen in love with a girl who had a boyfriend. Yeah, it's was really a hard time. I think, since he has a partner, it's not wise to let your love grows.
4 Mar 08
Wow,that's dangerous to love a boy with girlfriends. My advice is to leave. Don't disturb them, or you will hurt three of you. There are lots of nice boys, and you can find one for you. Who want to share love with others? If you don't want, please don't try to share others'.