Internet Love Relationships- do they work?

Philippines
March 9, 2008 6:32am CST
I have been in the internet chatting my time away for years now and have found that some use it to find their mate. As a constant user of YM, yes, I admit, I too have been a "victim" to have a relationship in the net but as most experience, it was all good true to be. It may not have worked for me, although I was not really looking...But hey, I have also known people (personal testimonies) that have suceeded in finding their love in the net. Maybe my time has not yet come...LOL. How about you? What's your story?
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14 responses
@pergammano (7691)
• Canada
9 Mar 08
I admire you, my dear! This is someplace I have fear of going! I don't know why...I guess I have seen too many talk/horror shows. My only experience was with a girlfriend, she went crazy, shortly after she lost her husband, in the shortest period of time imaginable, she met and married two "internetters"...both were horrible experiences..and I was there holding her hand! I am not very good at judging people unless I can see their eyes, and hear their voices....and I do not trust my judgement with these two viables. Good luck...be cautious. Smiles.
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• Canada
9 Mar 08
Boy..I shud check my postings better. That should have read "and I DO NOT trust my judgment WITHOUT these two viables."
• Philippines
9 Mar 08
Thank you dear! Well I did not really go down to it to find love but just so happen with the flow...but then now... Im more cautious. Altough you can see it in their eyes (thru webcam) and hear their voice (thru voice chat) still from my experience, its not an assurance and I believe in meeting and getting the person personally. Yes you can feel it as one guy was even crying in front of the cam for me or over the fone but nonetheless distance have the better of it. PS. I still have a lot of proposal to whom I know in the net for a long time now. LOL
@sctoddc (58)
• United States
9 Mar 08
I actually met my wife online...have known her for about 12 years...in August will be married for 9.
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• Philippines
9 Mar 08
Wow thats another great story to hear! More power to your marriage! So this answers yes true love can be found in the net! Thanks so much! May there me more people like you.
@gemini_rose (16192)
9 Mar 08
To be honest with you I would not use the internet as a means of dating, I am married so I wouldnt be looking anyway, but if we ever split up I would not meet anyone off the internet. There are lots of nice stories where people meet online and find real happiness in real life, but there are also some not so nice stories. It always shocks me that people meet off the internet and within a couple of weeks they are living together. On the internet you can be who you want to be, you can hide behind a facade of make believe and pretend. I think you have to be really careful but it is not impossible to meet someone.
• Philippines
9 Mar 08
Yeah you are right when you said you can be everything you want to be in the net and be very careful of people like those. Yes there are nice and bad stories in the net but the bottomline is to be careful especially if you are thinking of long term relationship. My bottom line always is...if you are serious, meet me in person!
@beyonce03 (2331)
• Canada
9 Mar 08
You have to chat in chatroom that have people in your area. It's easier to meet and to find love :P I've met my boyfriend on the internet. We were chatting for 2months before we decide to meet each other. WE where having some feeling for each other online, but we couldnt say we were in love until we met. When we met each other it was almost love at first sight. 4 days after our first meeting we were going out with each other. We have been together for 4 1/2. We have our house and now a beautiful son also :) So you an really find true love on the internet :)
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• Philippines
9 Mar 08
Wow that great for you and your husband! Hope to have a happy ending like you. Although I had a lover who I know really loved me but for contraint that he was already married and cannot go home to meet me due to financial constraint also thats why we decided it will never work out for us. Yes, I have met some guys near here but they have been judgemental I guess and are looking more on the physical side of the person.. sad to say. Anyway...as I say.. the best is yet to come!
@subha12 (18452)
• India
10 Mar 08
I have never tries to find someone significant on net. i never feel it safe myself.But i have seen a friend of mine got his GF from chatting online only. after that he met her. it was good for him but not for all i guess.OPne must be careful in online relationships.
• Philippines
11 Mar 08
Nice to hear the story about your fiend. Maybe you have not met the one for you Subha and yes you have to be careful with having relationship here in the net and really good thing to do is meet and know the person. Good luck!
@sid556 (30989)
• United States
10 Mar 08
I think it can work but you have to be smart about it. It is so easy to present yourself as someone you are not on here. It is in person too. You have to take time and get to know the person. When you finally meet in person then you should meet in a public place. Get to know the person a bit before bringing him to your home or going to his. I have a friend that was famous for travelling to meet guys she'd met online. She got herself into some pretty hairy situations. yes, I do know people who have met and had wonderful friendships and relationships. I think you just have to be careful
• Philippines
11 Mar 08
I perfectly agree with all that you said Sid. you can never be too careful nowadays. And yes, I have heard of some girls who had some unpleasant experiences when not meeting in public places. Really ahve to be careful in "monsters" in the net. Thanks for the insights and concern.
@Angelwriter (1955)
• United States
10 Mar 08
Well, this is my brother's story. He met his wife online while they were both in college. They spent time online and also traveled to each other's home states to visit, and she came down here for graduate school. They got married and celebrated their 4th year anniversary last month.
• Philippines
11 Mar 08
Wow that's nice to hear about your brother. Its one thing spending your time together and having constant communication and another thing to commit to know each other and meet. Hope they will have a lasting relationship! How about you Angel, had any experience in the net?
• United States
10 Mar 08
Even as a young person (only 21! :D) I am worried that I will be alone in my old age. Luckily, my boyfriend of seven months treats me very well and I could see myself being with him for a long time. If I was older, in my 40s and 50s, I think I would try looking online for company. :) Broaden my horizons, especially if I was working.
• Philippines
11 Mar 08
Don't worry to much in being alone in old age. Hope you and your boyfriend works out well. The net is really a good company even though you cant meet them in person. Its really nice to meet friends and of different culture and personality. Good luck!
@lecanis (16664)
• Murfreesboro, Tennessee
9 Mar 08
I met my husband on the internet. It's been about 10 years now since we first met online and about nine years since we met offline. :) I wasn't really looking to meet someone online at the time, and in fact had a couple of half-hearted romantic entanglements going on offline during the time my husband and I were talking (as friends) online. In fact, my husband was one of the people I would come home from a date and call to talk about it with, and that sort of thing. So it was really funny when I started realizing how much I liked him, and I was kind of embarrassed to tell him at first because I had just ranted at him about some guy I knew online telling me he loved me. Hehe. I think our situation worked out well, but it wasn't the typical "online dating" situation. We didn't use a dating site, and we weren't thinking about getting together when we first started talking.
• Philippines
11 Mar 08
Now talking about falling in love with your friend. Nice isn't it? Well it was my ideal situation to be friends first to the one who you will be with for the rest of your life. And most of the time, knowing too well the person what one makes him/her fall in love. Also, I've found that most guys/girls fall in love to the person whom he usually confides in. Wish you a long happy marriage!
@Amberina (1541)
• United States
9 Mar 08
Well the internet is where I found my husband, but I had to go through ALOT of "frogs" to get my prince. It was worth it he treats me like the Queen that I am and I treat him like the King he is..We met on a dating website.
• Philippines
11 Mar 08
That's nice of you having had the best of the lot after all those "frogs" as you call it. LOL. Well I guess its worth the wait as what you are telling me now being the Queen of your King. Maybe what has passed me are still "frogs" and the prince has yet to come. More blessings to your relationship!
@julyteen (13257)
• Davao, Philippines
9 Mar 08
yes lots of individual succeed on this kind of relationship but we can't deny many also failed...i have a neighbor being a victim...they rush to the near airport to see his chatmate but 24 hours passed they don't see the person even his shadow...this might happen to any, so be careful of doing this online relationship.
• Philippines
9 Mar 08
So sorry for your neighbor's friend. Yes, thanks for the warning. I have not been fooled in meeting chatters but I had experience in meeting a good friend of mine whom I met only in chat and we have established a good relationship after that. I met him in another country which he sponsored my ticket and all just for me to meet him and up to now we are still good friends and calls me every now and then.
• Philippines
10 Mar 08
I've been with internet love relationship for almost a year... But it didn't work... I can say...U cant trust someone you haven't seen yet... You cannot see if they're sincere or not... since you don't know whats their attitude, or their business after you've talk... All the while you're expecting a positive result from your partner And doing good for the benefit of your relationships... but without knowing, he's doing same thing with someone else... It hurt.. isn't it?Sad to say... But I've gone with that thing... The good thing their is... "You got some QUALITY TIME sharing WEIRD THINGS""A WILD DREAMS"
@vicky30 (4773)
• India
10 Mar 08
Yes it worked for my cousin sisters husbands brother.he was chatting on yahoo messenger after chatting for some days they became friends,then they sent their photos to each other and both of them liked each other and got married.
@kreinao (56)
• Philippines
10 Mar 08
I guess for some this works. Many women today are going online to look for a mate and it usually wokrs for them. They would find love, get married, and have a happy life. Maybe they are just lucky to find the right one on the net. I have tried that before, chatting wiht guys and thinking that I am "inlove" with some of them. Well most of them just played around, but there were some who were serious. But it did not get too far. I did not want to meet with any of them. It was just constant chatting, text messaging and voice calls. For me, chatting is just one way of releasing my stress and finding a little bit of laughter with my chatmates.