Woman found on boyfriends toilet...she sat there for TWO years!!!
By Feona1962
@Feona1962 (7526)
United States
March 15, 2008 11:40am CST
This is so bizarre..She sat on her boyfriends toilet so long that her body was stuck to the seat..It took the guy 2 years to call the police...He served her meals while she was in there...He asked her when she was going to come out and she would always say, "maybe tomorrow." She didn't want to leave the bathroom...
This is just so unbelievable..The boyfriend may be facing charges for waiting so long....Her legs were atrophied..She was fully dressed..her sweat pants were down to her mid thigh...Poor thing...The police said she looked disoriented...
"She said she didn't need any help and that she was OK, and didn't want to leave...They pryed the toilet seat off and it had to go with her to the hospital because her skin had grown around the seat....
This is very sad...
The boyfriend never said why it took him 2 years to call the police...
Does anyone have anymore on this story? What are your thoughts on this?
It happened in Wichita, Kansas...
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14 responses
@muscare (3068)
• Australia
16 Mar 08
Gives a whole new meaning to someone giving you the 'sh*ts'! I get a bit annoyed if I need to go and someone's in the toilet for ten minutes!! Where did he go when the need arose?
I read the story in the local paper, and I really did wonder how someone could allow their other half to stay in the loo for that length of time. Yes, she must have had problems, but leaving her there for 2 years just made it so much worse. I also wonder about the mind of someone who would allow it to go on for so long!
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@muscare (3068)
• Australia
16 Mar 08
In reading more, she wasn't on the toilet for two years.That does change the story quite a bit. It is really hard for people caring for others with OCD to get it right, to work out the right time to seek help for fear of making things worse. Someone very close to me suffers from OCD tendancies, though it is with her thoughts, and not her actions. Medications work to a certain degree, but at certain times of the month, or certain types of stress, they're less then perfect!
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@Feona1962 (7526)
• United States
16 Mar 08
Hi muscare, did you get a chance to read what AJ said...a few responses above you...There are links provided that give more info on people that do this...It is hard to understand...
@ayumitakashi (4462)
• United States
15 Mar 08
I actually heard about this in the spanish news but i couldn't hear the whole thing because my siblings were talking. But that is just weird and I can't believe how someone would do that. I mean was there something wrong with her or something? Was she scared to go outside or something? I don't know but that is just plain weird and two years is a long time.
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@Feona1962 (7526)
• United States
15 Mar 08
I read it in my home newspaper..It just said she didn't want to come out of the bathroom...there had to be something psychologically wrong..
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@ayumitakashi (4462)
• United States
16 Mar 08
Yeah that's what i'm thinking. That is just the craziest thing i've heard of.
@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
16 Mar 08
That is the weirdest story I have ever heard Terry. She might not have been mentally well by the sounds of it. I am going to read up on the link that the other poster posted below!
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@Feona1962 (7526)
• United States
16 Mar 08
That is what I had thought...It was so good of AJ to post the links so we could get a much better understanding on things of this nature..
@xXxMikesWifeyxXx (3072)
• United States
15 Mar 08
Alrighty then.LMAO.
thats a bit gross:( you woulda thought he would call after after a week or so.
I could understand if he waited a week but 2 freaking years!LMAO.
did the story sat why she wanted to sit in the bathroom? or was that somthing just because if her being dissoreinted .
wow this is a really weird discussion.lol
@Feona1962 (7526)
• United States
16 Mar 08
The response above yours explains it alot better..Apparently it wasn't as long as was said in the paper...
@Ldyjarhead (10233)
• United States
15 Mar 08
That is without a doubt the most bizzare thing I've heard in I don't know how long.
How did she get stuck in the first place?
How is it no one else knew she was gone? Or did others know and just not do anything about it?
I don't know, but I'm thinking a toilet that hasn't been cleaned for 2 years is going to be pretty crappy looking(pardon the pun), full of fungus, etc. How could that not affect her?
I find it a bit unbelievable. Two years? And the only issue was her legs were atrophied, and she was disoriented?
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@Feona1962 (7526)
• United States
15 Mar 08
She wasn't tied or taped...she just didn't want to get off of it..Her boyfriend gave her food and water and kept asking her when she was going to get off the toilet and she kept saying "maybe tomorrow." My question is, Where did the boyfriend go to the bathroom at? Maybe they had two...This is just insane..It didn't say anything about other family members or anything...She was 35 years old..the boyfriend was 36..she had sat there so long that her body became part of the seat...very sad..
@DevilHands (573)
• Philippines
16 Mar 08
Haha... the boyfriend IS dumb and stupid. I can understand the girls situation as it might be very humiliating for her, but wtf is her BF thinking? He can't just agree and go on with whatever her gf said.
2 years OMG! That's really unbelievable!
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@Feona1962 (7526)
• United States
16 Mar 08
Hi DevilHands, apparently there is more to the story..a couple of responses before yours will give you more information on the story..I thought there was more to it, and I am glad I asked someone...AJ found the information that needed to be added to the story..
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@wisconsin26 (3859)
• United States
18 Mar 08
Wow that is crazy. I just read about it here http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/23595533 And to know she refused to get medical attention tells me she did this herself.. I don't believe her Boyfriend had much to do with it, I am guessing this was her choice.. However if i were him i would of called at least after a few days of her being there that she needed some type of help... I know I couldn't sit on a toilet that long no matter what.. A few minutes is enough for me.. After a bit my back starts to hurt.. That is a for sure bizarre story..
@AJ1952Chats (2332)
• Anderson, Indiana
15 Mar 08
I read this.
She might have some kind of anxiety about soiling herself--perhaps due to being abused by a parent or other caretaker whenever she had an accident.
The son of one of my friends had a kind of contamination anxiety that made him decide to lock himself in the bathroom for a couple of years so that he wouldn't end up contaminating his parents.
He had a cell-phone in there with him so that he could communicate with the outside world.
He had all kinds of decontamination rituals he went through each day.
He finally came out and, eventually, went for residential treatment for a time.
The last I heard, he's managing to live on his own and cope fairly well--and even without medication.
His condition is called OCD (Obsessive Compulsive Disorder).
Even though he didn't quite know what to do with his girlfriend--but neither did my friend and his wife know what to do for their son except to accept him on his own terms and not try to force him to do something he wasn't ready to do--this man certainly must love her a lot and has had a lot of patience with her.
I hope she's getting some kind of meaningful treatment now and that she and her special guy can end up truly living happily ever after.
@AJ1952Chats (2332)
• Anderson, Indiana
16 Mar 08
I have an update on the story--and it turns out to be a kind of urban legend in some ways (that is, things being added to it to make it more interesting).
My hunch was correct in thinking that she might have been abused for soiling and/or wetting herself as a child.
But she wasn't on the toilet for two whole years.
She ended up spending more and more time in the bathroom about two years ago until she told her boyfriend that she was going to be staying in it.
He would try to coax her out without forcing her and, in the meantime, he would bring her food and clean clothes.
It was a month ago when she further limited her world and started sitting on the toilet and not getting up.
Her boyfriend still brought her food into her and tried to coax her into getting up.
I guess he didn't want to bring in a bunch of people who would REALLY force her to go by their timetable instead of her own--which would be traumatic to somebody in this kind of condition.
He probably thought that he understood her better than outsiders, so he was trying to handle the situation himself.
Then, when she seemed disoriented, he decided that he had no choice but to bring in some help.
I'm going to see if I can find anything on what happened with my friend's son several years ago. His story was on a show called 48 Hours.
This man shouldn't be prosecuted. He should, instead, be counted among boyfriends who truly love their girlfriends.
He wasn't neglecting her. He just knew that she had already been hurt and traumatized enough in her life, and he didn't want to bring other people into this situation unless he had to.
I've heard of at least one of our elected officials who actually had the nerve to go into the recovery room of his wife who had just finished undergoing a double mastectomy and serving her with divorce papers.
He was never even asked to step down from his position when word got out that he did this, much less arrested.
I know from my own personal experience that people can stick to chairs and toilet seats pretty quickly, so she wouldn't have had to be sitting on the toilet very long for something like this to happen.
This boyfriend and girlfriend belong together, so it would be nothing less than cruel to cart him off to jail. His girlfriend needs him by her side more than ever!
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@AJ1952Chats (2332)
• Anderson, Indiana
16 Mar 08
As promised, here are some links to information about David...
http://www.viryours.com/showcase/ocd/ocf1420r.htm
http://www.cbsnews.com/stories/2001/01/01/48hours/main260714.shtml
Nice-looking young man and very bright. His poetry would knock your socks off because it's so sensitive.
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@Feona1962 (7526)
• United States
16 Mar 08
Thank you AJ..that was very informative..I had a feeling there was more to it..I sure do appreciate the information..I am going to read the links you gave to me...I sure do feel for the woman and her boyfriend..We are so quick to judge without seeking further information...
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@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
16 Mar 08
I haeard this on the news also. I feel bad for her. She must have been really mentally ill. The guy must have been ill also to let her sit there like that. I think the poor woman was so depressed and she asked her boyfriend to just leave her be and so he did. I really don't blame him because she wanted to be left alone and he helped her to have peace.
@Feona1962 (7526)
• United States
15 Mar 08
Yes, it is true..It was in my hometown paper...I am finding it hard to understand myself...
