Who does the cooking in your home?
By icyorchid
@icyorchid (2564)
United States
March 17, 2008 12:45pm CST
Is it shared by everyone in the home? Is it one day the man of the house and the next the lady of the house?
Just wondering as I try to do the cooking, but I have scoliosis and it is difficult for me to stand a while, so I try to do the short stuff. lol You know open a can and heat.
My hubby comes home from work and fixes steaks, etc. I really don't mind as he is a real good cook, I just feel like I am letting him down because I can't do certain things I use to do. I know he misses my cooking.
What about you, who does all the cooking in your home?
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@Chey1970 (1186)
• United States
17 Mar 08
I do 90% of the cooking in the house. Mainly cause I love to cook, not because it's required of me. At times my husband will cook, or we share in the cooking (sort of like a bonding time).
With your condition, I can understand as I'm sure your husband does too, that your cooking is limited. If he cooks, and doesn't complain, then I guess in his own little way he is letting you know that he understands and is wanting to take care of you.
Don't feel bad for not being able to do the things you once were able to (which I am sure weighs on you). But it seems to me like you have a wonderful husband, take pleasure in knowing that.
@icyorchid (2564)
• United States
17 Mar 08
Thank you Chey, I appreciate that. It does weigh on me. Like I said I just feel bad that I am not as I use to be, but I know he loves me and wants to take care of me, so that is good enough for me 
Thanks for replying
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@icyorchid (2564)
• United States
17 Mar 08
thank you mbcousins :)
Thanks for the reply
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@icyorchid (2564)
• United States
17 Mar 08
How nice that your son wants to help. I think that is wonderful
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@icyorchid (2564)
• United States
17 Mar 08
Thanks for the reply. lol I forget to say that sometimes
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@Fishmomma (11377)
• United States
17 Mar 08
I do most of the cooking; however, its great to spend time in the kitchen. Its great to know all the ingredients, as many of the already packaged foods have a lot of items in that make me concerned about what I just ate.
My husband will barbecue, but not very often. He would rather go out, than do any cooking. Yesterday he was upset because I refused to go out, so he had canned soup.
@icyorchid (2564)
• United States
17 Mar 08
Yummy BBQ!!!!!! Can't wait to get our new pit and all and do that again! Love his grilling!! My brother and sister say he is the best at grilling. 
Thanks for the reply
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@kimbers867 (2539)
• United States
17 Mar 08
We use to go out more but with the cost of everything going up we have scaled back. Plus we were living in a hotel for four months, they did provide dinner three nights a week, so the other nights I would cook with what limited space and supplies I had but we ate out quite a bit. So I think that helped curb our going out when we didn't feel like cooking attitude.
@suehan1 (4344)
• Australia
17 Mar 08
it is usually just myself that cooks,as i am a single mum and have to do everything.sometimes my daughter and her friends will cook something.i love going to my mums and she will cook us meal once a week,and it is so good.cheers sue
@icyorchid (2564)
• United States
17 Mar 08
Hi Sue
I am sure your mom enjoys it too as she has her family to cook for instead of just your dad and herself
I know I would love it myself
Thanks for the reply
I know I would love it myself
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@kimbers867 (2539)
• United States
17 Mar 08
Oh, how I miss going to my mom's for dinner. She was a great cook!!!! It was always so much fun.
@Ldyjarhead (10233)
• United States
17 Mar 08
I'm sure your husband understands that your ailment is what's keeping you from cooking more elaborate meals, not your desire to do so.
Neither my husband or I work outside the home, but I still do all the cooking. He's told me many times that he wants to take over the kitchen one day a week and that he's a good cook, but I haven't seen it yet.
He does do the dishes, though, so I won't complain!
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@icyorchid (2564)
• United States
17 Mar 08
Awwww another one with a hubby that cleans the dishes. lol Mine does when he knows I am really not feeling up to it. But if I keep the dishes up, then there aren't too many to do at dinner.
Good Luck with your husband cooking :)
Thanks for the reply
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@kimbers867 (2539)
• United States
17 Mar 08
LOL, Bob cooks and I have to clean up behind him. He is a neat cook, thank goodness.
@icyorchid (2564)
• United States
17 Mar 08
LOL when you leave home, you need to know a little about cooking. I told my daughter that and she didn't believe me and guess what. She is moving in 3 months and knows very little, but I know she will learn as she goes, she is smart like that
Thanks for the reply
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@kimbers867 (2539)
• United States
17 Mar 08
Oh I agree with you S. I didn't do a lot of cooking when I was still leaving at home, I was more into baking. So during my first marriage it was trial and error. Hubby #1 didn't like leftovers and he was the type that you couldn't plan meals because he said he wouldn't know what he would want to eat until he came home from work. So we did lots of takeout.
Now Bob on the other hand loves to eat and learned how to cook at a young age out of necessity.
So when the girls want to help me in the kitchen I let them. It is skill everyone needs.
April gets a modified home ec in a couple of weeks and I am anxious to see what they do, since it has been a long time since I was in a home ec class.
@lingli_78 (12822)
• Australia
17 Mar 08
i do the cooking in my house as my hubby doesn't know how to cook at all... but it is a fair share because he does the dishes everytime after that... so i am not complaining...
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@icyorchid (2564)
• United States
17 Mar 08
LOL I do all the dishes! He does them only when he knows I am really in too much pain to do them. lol
Thanks for the reply
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@enchantedleppard (1541)
• United States
17 Mar 08
Well my boyfriend and I live with my parents. Out of my parents, my mom cooks, my dad doesnt come near the stove. My boyfriend and I will cook at least 3-4 nights a week. He cooks on the grill and I will make the sides. I also use the crockpot, or bake chicken, etc. I think your husband understands your situation. If I were in the same situation, I would hope my boyfriend would understand as well.
@icyorchid (2564)
• United States
18 Mar 08
It's nice that you help your mom like that.
Thank you for this. I know he understands, just makes me feel bad.
Thanks for the reply
@mummymo (23706)
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19 Mar 08
icyorchid I am in a very similar situation to you - I do not have scoliosis but I have chronic back problems and there are days I cannot sit never mind stand and cook! My other half also does most of the cooking , my 14 year old son helps out so much too if my partner is on shift! I know exactly what you mean about letting him down but I can guarantee you he does not think that way! Be kind to yourself and love your husband - and let him show you his love without feeling guilty! Hugs xxx
@icyorchid (2564)
• United States
20 Mar 08
Thank you for that I really appreciate hearing that.
I have a dr's appt. next Thursday and he is going with me. I am trying to get disability and he is supporting me with that too. He is a great man and I guess I am hard on myself. Have been for almost 5 years now. My accident happened in 2003.
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@goinliveinfive (561)
• United States
17 Mar 08
I do 99.9% of it. My wife does some baking around the holidays but meal planning and cooking are not her thing. It was that way before we got married so it's not like I didn't know what I was getting into. I'm creative and adventurous with food, she needs to have a recipe. It's all good, though. I like being in charge of the kitchen.
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@icyorchid (2564)
• United States
17 Mar 08
You sound like my husband. lol He loves to mix up things. A little of this, a little of that. lol
I bake too, especially for the holidays, but I do take my time and he helps with that too
Thanks for the reply
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@michelyn (717)
• United States
19 Mar 08
Up until about two months ago, my husband did the majority of the cooking in the house. I am still recuperating from back surgery. One of the kids would cook at least once a week, but then he did the rest of it. Within the last two months, I've been feeling much better, so I've been doing the cooking more. Now, my husband cooks on Monday nights because I don't get home until almost 7:00, which is a late dinner for us. One of the children still cooks at least once a week, sometimes twice, but the rest are mine. I love it that the kids are finally old enough to be cooking for everyone. It's rather nice.
@littleone3 (2063)
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17 Mar 08
In my house i am usually the one who does the cooking. I dont mind doing it as i enjoy cooking. But now and again my partner will cook or my 14 year old will as he also enjoys cooking as well.
@icyorchid (2564)
• United States
17 Mar 08
That's nice that your child helps with cooking too.
Thanks for the reply
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@Dahlia24 (10)
• United States
17 Mar 08
He understands and I think that you have a great husband that will cook for you. He knows that you help as much as you can. In my household I do all the cooking, cleaning ect. My husband doesn't like to cook, and will not help me. So I count you as one very very lucky lady.
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@icyorchid (2564)
• United States
17 Mar 08
Thank you Dahlia, I really appreciate that.
Your hubby will do the same when he has too. I mean if you took a trip who would be there to cook for him?
I wish you luck with your hubby.
Thanks for the reply
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@Antithesis (110)
• United States
18 Mar 08
I do! I love cooking for my mom, dad, and brother. I get to pick the meal and make it my own. I'm a very picky eater so it also means that I can leave out whatever I want to. I think I'm a very good cook, but just not as great as baking.
@icyorchid (2564)
• United States
18 Mar 08
sometimes that's the way it is. Rachael Ray (cook on tv) loves to cook, but doesn't bake. lol
Glad you like cooking for your family, that's always good to hear
Thanks for the reply
Thanks for the reply @kimbers867 (2539)
• United States
17 Mar 08
I guess Bob and I share it. LOL He is a great cook, loves to experiment while I cook strictly by the recipe. I don't feel comfortable winging it but he does.
I do most of the baking in the house but he does make a wicked apple pie.
@icyorchid (2564)
• United States
18 Mar 08
Yum homemade apple pie! I don't think I have ever had that and if I did it was when I was a kid! lol
Thanks for the reply
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@kimbers867 (2539)
• United States
19 Mar 08
The good part is that it is from apples that we grow. The disgusting part is that he can roll out a pie crust perfectly without a rolling pin. Makes me sick.
@mflower2053 (3223)
• United States
22 Mar 08
Everyone gets a trip out of this but who cares it works for us. I'm a SAHM and my hubby cooks us dinner every night unless he doesn't feel like it and then we go out to eat or eat leftovers. My hubby likes to cook and I can't stand to cook. I would cook if I had to but then the deal would be he would have to keep an eye on the kids which he does but I think he would rather cook. He likes teaching my daughter how to cook also.
@icyorchid (2564)
• United States
22 Mar 08
That's really nice that he doesn't mind cooking and is teaching your daughter to cook. I bet she enjoys that time with her dad
@littleowl (7157)
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18 Mar 08
hi 'orchid-am sorry to hear about your illness it must be very difficult for you to do cooking thing is i live on my own and truthbeing known hardly eat much but a friend i do see during the week always cokc something up when i go so that is normally the best dinner i get during the week-its bad really but thought i would share that with you-blessed be littleowl
@icyorchid (2564)
• United States
18 Mar 08
Hi Littleowl,
I am glad you have a friend who gives you a meal even if it is a few times a week. I am sure you have stuff for sandwiches, or microwave tv dinners.
Thank you for the reply and I hope things get better for you.
@littleowl (7157)
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20 Mar 08
hi 'orchid-thanks for you response but when it comes to food i really cant be bothered cooking! don't like bread-am more a vegan but hate admitting it gueass when it comes to cooking i'm down right lazy 
guess cos its just me--there's still no justification 
--you take care blessed be littleowl
guess cos its just me--there's still no justification --you take care blessed be littleowl
@icyorchid (2564)
• United States
31 Mar 08
Awwww, but he should learn, if he was to be on his own, what would he do?
@shynie (556)
• Philippines
22 Mar 08
Since I live with my parents, I normally do the cooking because it's one of my favorite household chores. I get so interested with new recipes and i always try on new flavors and spices as a new experiment. My family loves my cooking. I always make a simple meal for them and it makes me happy knowing that they always look forward to meal time.
@icyorchid (2564)
• United States
22 Mar 08
How nice! I bet your parents appreciate you helping like that.
Thanks for the reply
@alexdra77 (147)
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22 Mar 08
i live in a shared student house, so everyone does their own cooking!!! sometimes we might cook for each other.
