Are you the person who other people find easy to trust??

@laurika (4532)
United States
March 23, 2008 2:36pm CST
I was really looking forawrd to last Friday since we invite my hubby new coworker with his girlfriend. I wanted meet her and maybe find some new friend. We introduce ourself and after few minutes I find myself listening to her personal stuff and crying on my shoulder when her boyfriend was on the balcony with my hubby. It didn't happen to me first time when other person open to , but it alayws surprice me how easy people trust me speicaly on the first day we met.
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@AmbiePam (84628)
• United States
24 Mar 08
Yeah, that happens to me quite frequently. When I first meet someone I'm very careful to listen to all they say. And usually that is what people want. They want to be listened to. You know hopefully as people form relationships both can trust each other equally, but I find that all I have to do is listen and people tell me the most extraordinary things.
@laurika (4532)
• United States
24 Mar 08
You are right Ambie, all it is about is listening. So many people probably don't anyone and when they find someone who is willling listen them , they will open to you.
@madlees (1377)
• India
24 Mar 08
Yes, I have seen that happening with me also. Somehow people easily get friendly with me. They open out easily and come out with their woes. I have had similar happenings in my life too. But I can never come out that easily with others. I have not found a person I can open out at first sight. All the best
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@summta (65)
• China
24 Mar 08
I often had the same experience.In first time,I thought it is so interesting that the person who only just met you about ten or thirty minutes,she or he told you many things about them involving their privacy.One of my friends told me that I had a creditable face,and I always gave them kindly smile.So kindly smile can open others heart.I think it is good to meet these things,because your listening can make others' pain relief and you also be happy. So keep up!
@laurika (4532)
• United States
24 Mar 08
You know I was also thinking if it is not about expression on your face and you are probably right, the smile can do a big thing
@praveenjena (1304)
• India
24 Mar 08
well people do trust me... some people find it easy to trust me than they do to trust others.... i don't let them down... secrets with me always remain secrets and i never reveal anything that was confided with me.
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@laurika (4532)
• United States
24 Mar 08
I am glad you can keep secrets.
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
24 Mar 08
Yes, that happens to me an awful lot. Even strangers will tell me their personal details. Im a very private person and also quiet unless I really get to know and am comfortable with someone. I always thought maybe that was why...I don't say much so they talk more. I really don't know but it does happen pretty regularly. I don't mind.
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@laurika (4532)
• United States
24 Mar 08
I am the same, thank for participating.
@ciades (1623)
• Philippines
24 Mar 08
It's happened to me mostly of the time. The feeling is different. When someone share to you about there problems and personal stuff its so appreciated. Coz means they trusted you. And i can also assure to them that they can really trusted me.
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• India
24 Mar 08
The same type of things happens with me...i think sometimes i become more comfortable to another person..thats why he/she is able to share his or her secrets with me......
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• India
24 Mar 08
there are many factors laurika, why people trust you or why you think that people trust you. did you know that being very distant also gives people a sense of security that they can share e.g. in an airport when you are almost certain that you will never meet the person again, you will tend to share something very personal with him or her. that does not actually mean that he or she trusts you, it is a natural way of life. in fact the trust you are talking about is very difficult to build and takes time and effort. if you have that kind of trust worthy friends who would do something sacrificial for you without questioning, then you are really lucky. first time trusting stuff just because someone confides something in you isn't that valuable to me at least
@laurika (4532)
• United States
24 Mar 08
Well, I can undertsand if you are in the airport and there is a big chance that you will not meet the person again, but when you mmet the girlfriend of your husband coworkes there is a big chance I would be meeting her again and again.
@arkaf61 (10881)
• Canada
24 Mar 08
Yes, it often happens with me, and I often find it a bit surprising as well. Sometimes I have people telling me things that I really don't think I want to hear or would prefer not to know. Specially when I don't know them that well. I do have a reputation of never repeating what is told to me in confidence. And it is true that I don't. But I don't even know if that is the reason why so many people confide in me. I understand that my friends do. That's normal, I confide in them as well. But some people are not necessarily my friends, or at least not my close friends. THey're merely acquaintances and I am taken by surprise when they tell me things that are private and personal.
@arkaf61 (10881)
• Canada
24 Mar 08
Exactly. That a friend confides in me, doesn't surprise me, but someone that is not that close to me does.
@laurika (4532)
• United States
24 Mar 08
You are right it is very different if friends tell you something from their privacy and if acquaintance tell you something.
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@drannhh (15219)
• United States
24 Mar 08
Yes, I project a lot of empathy and so people usually open right up to me. Of course, some people will dump their problems on any shoulder they can find, but I like to think there is something especially trustworthy about my appearance, lol. In truth, I do tend to draw people out. I've been told I pick up things between the lines, so to speak, that others don't notices, and I guess that makes me a sucker for sob stories.
@laurika (4532)
• United States
24 Mar 08
LOL. I think sometimes the smae, that there is something special about me.
@vsraovsr (734)
• India
24 Mar 08
I 'm not sure b'cause I never had this kind of experience but the opposite of what you wrote is true because I believe people blindly.
@laurika (4532)
• United States
24 Mar 08
Be careful with that, don't trust everyone.
@ayou82 (3450)
• Philippines
24 Mar 08
I show them things that they dont have to doubt on me Coz when your records shows you that you are not a type on trustworthy person you will really have a hard time to get there trust.
• China
24 Mar 08
you must a kindy person ! and like to listen other person's suffer !
@nicholejade (2430)
• Canada
23 Mar 08
I know where you are coming from on this one. How can people be so willing to share such intimate things with a person. From the past I have seen too many people open up to me in this way. Is it good? Is it bad? Well I still haven't figured this one out. The only person that I have really opened up with is the doctor. It's alot easier laying your medical history out there for the doc to know as it will be more beneficial for them to diagnose and help you in the long run. But just simple friendships I have yet to do that.
@laurika (4532)
• United States
24 Mar 08
Thank you for sharing.
• United States
24 Mar 08
I find the same thing. I think some are more trusting then others. With that I have also been told I have a motherly not in your face, old soul kind of personality. I listen with out judgement and really sometimes I think I need a couch and to start charging rent. It all works out in the end because as long as the relationship is give and take equally you will always have someone that can help you out. Just be sure not to give more then you would be willing to ask others to or you may just find yourself tired and confused.
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
24 Mar 08
Yes, I think so. I have had new friends only knowing them for a while, and yet (you are right) it is surprising how people give me their trust, with their secrets, with thier problems, and sometimes even with monetary concern. I guess I was able to show them how much i can be trusted and having these, i also try to not disappoint them when they do trust me.
@mvpriyank (407)
• India
24 Mar 08
hmmm..... you are right laurika... I am one of the guys who are trusted easily.The reason of trusting us blindly is may be that we talk in a beautiful way or we are help full to others. so they tell all their problems and secrets to use and also share everything with us. Have a nice day!! MAY GOD BLESS YOU
@subha12 (18441)
• India
24 Mar 08
i think yes. that i have noticed few years back. i generally give a patient ear to my friend's problem and try to solve as much as i can. so many people trust me.i think its not that people trust me on first day but in few meetings.
@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
24 Mar 08
Talk about opening up to you immediately. Maybe she found you a very nice and caring person and someone who listens :)
• Australia
24 Mar 08
I run into that alot too, maybe some people just trust everyone til they give them a reason not too. I dont usually like to share intimate details but i agree that some with people you feel like you can talk about anything.
@gemini_rose (16264)
23 Mar 08
I think that people without realising it can instinctively tell if they can trust someone, I guess they perhaps pick up on feelings. She must have felt this in you and so was able to feel that she could tell you her personal stuff, I have had this happen to me before and I sometimes find it a little uncomfortable, but at the same time feel glad that I could be of help to someone by just letting them get their problems off their chest.