Prejudice on MyLot

@worldwise1 (14887)
United States
March 24, 2008 3:06pm CST
This is only my opinion, but I feel that I have to let the members here on myLot know how I feel about the prejudice. The issue was brought home to me in the form of a discussion I have just responded to. My point being that I did the almost exact same discussion several months ago and received a very negative response -as though I had created the problem when I was only reporting on it. Now, today the discussion has come up once more and I find that there is overwhelming support and acceptance. What else am I to think? I have also posted discussions about people of my race who are worthy of recognition that might receive only one response, where if the topic regards someone sensational like Britney Spears, etc., it receives overwhelming response. I just don't get it.
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@stephcjh (32327)
• United States
24 Mar 08
I respond to everyone that I can on any subject matter that I have any input for. I, for one, am tired of seeing the Britney Spears one. We here enough about her on the news. they say she has bipolar disease but I think she is doing alot of it for attention, myself. Now back to your topic. I have no problem responding to all discussions that I can relate to and some days I get a good response from members and other days not. It is almost like a Jeckyl and Hyde type thing here. I say to just be you and post what you like. We can never please everyone here and I will not try or worry about it no more. they tell us what they think and we should be able to do the same.
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@worldwise1 (14887)
• United States
25 Mar 08
Although I know what you are saying is true, stephcjh, I would like to think that everyone would loosen up a little. I sometimes respond to discussions of which I have little knowledge in the hope that I will be able to learn something from them.
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@stephcjh (32327)
• United States
31 Mar 08
Ver true. I know exactly where you are coming from and what you mean. We should be allowed to voice our opinion and ask questions or respond to any discussion without prejudice. I would not worry about what the other ones say. If it bothers them that bad, then just skip over your reply. simple as that. I think alot of them think they are Mylot Gods and they try to rule the roost here. Alot of them don't have a clue either, LOL.
• United States
24 Mar 08
I do not think it's a "prejudice" per se, but just a skewed mindset. So many folks have been brainwashed by the TV set into thinking that talking about celebrities is more important than real world issues, such as politics (which effects us all), hunger, homelessness, etc. In regards to the discussion you engaged in. The first time the discussion came up, there was one set of folks responding. Now that it has come up again, there is a 2nd set of responders. Naturally, there will be a good chance of a different set of responses. I wouldn't put too much stock in this situation. I know it's frustrating at times, but just remember that mylot is comprised of folks from all sorts of backgrounds and mindsets. You will find "dud" discussions from time to time. Just like you get out in the real world. You don't always "connect" with everyone you talk with. Don't give up ... keep going.
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@worldwise1 (14887)
• United States
25 Mar 08
After giving my comments some more thought, barbaraeyre, I came to the same conclusions as you. I apologize if I offended anyone because that was not my intention.
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@gabs8513 (48710)
• United Kingdom
24 Mar 08
Neither do I and I guess that we will never understand how it Works Sweetie I do not respond to any of that sort of Discussion as it does not interest me what so ever but I do see that they seem to get a lot of Responses on them Don't let it get to you Hugs to you
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@worldwise1 (14887)
• United States
25 Mar 08
I am all better now, gabs. I like to think I have developed a thick skin, but sometimes I wonder.
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@gabs8513 (48710)
• United Kingdom
25 Mar 08
We all think we have Sweetie but then at times it does hit us though but always remember your Friends are here to support you Hugs to you
• United States
24 Mar 08
I guess more people respond to the sensational than the positive. It is sad but I guess it is true.
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@worldwise1 (14887)
• United States
25 Mar 08
That does appear to be the way life is, sarah, but the practice is so limiting.
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@jeanniemay (1803)
• Philippines
24 Mar 08
I used to think that way to worldwise. Don't feel sad, we can't please everybody and that's not what we are here for. We are here to share our views, learn and just enjoy the fun. Positive or negative, we have our own experiences to tell us what needs to be changed and what needs to be developed. I learned a lot from here and I am really thankful. I am in sympathy to what you feel. I asked one of my mylot friends about that and she replied polite enough to explain to me, 'maybe, it's not on their interest at that time' or 'maybe, it's something they are not interested knowing.' With your number of posts, you have really shared a lot I'm sure and many are still owing you the best points that you shared and made them known. I also would want to thank you. You are very informative in your posts and really helped me somehow. Keep up! Simple failures just make us realize that their are some aspects in us that we can change and improve.
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@worldwise1 (14887)
• United States
25 Mar 08
Your insight is great, jeanniemay, and I will remember your positive words and attitude.
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@tinkerick (1257)
• United States
24 Mar 08
There are so many variables that must be taken into consideration. Timing for one. Depending on when your discussions are posted, you may get a different "audience" for each one. (hmm..maybe someone should experiment with posting the same discussion, at different times of day). Also the time will affect how many people will see or be interested in responding to your discussion. Then it is luck of the draw - depending on who runs across your discussion will determine the nature of responses your get. I cannot say that there is NOT any prejudice, because there definitely COULD be. But I wouldn't chalk off your situations to prejudism. It could just be bad timing or bad luck.
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@worldwise1 (14887)
• United States
25 Mar 08
I am in total agreement with you, tinkerick!
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@whittby (3073)
• United States
24 Mar 08
I've seen discussions here in my short time where one gets a bunch of responses and the other just a few. I think some of the serious discussions on current events or people don't get many responses sometimes - folks at that particular time may just be looking for EASY discussions to respond to. That being said, I'm sure prejudice is alive and well on here, I hate to think that is the case too. Remember there are a lot of us on here that could care less about the race/religion whatever issue. I also think it bears a factor in some discussions, but I like to think of it as a positive factor - a different point of view for instance. I enjoy your discussions, so please take this response as a token of support and acceptance...whit
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@worldwise1 (14887)
• United States
25 Mar 08
I take your response in the spirit in which it was given, whittby. Even knowing that we will not always hit upon discussions that will interest all of our fellow myLot members, you would think that from a list of over a hundred friends more than one response could be received.
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@carolbee (16231)
• United States
24 Mar 08
Think I understanding what you are saying here but not positive. Personally, I won't respond to anything involving Britney Spears because I am sick of hearing about all her woes no matter who posts a discussion about her. She's a major goofball who is a failure as a mother and obviously only worries about her fun times. What is ashame is that she is talented.
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@worldwise1 (14887)
• United States
25 Mar 08
I would much rather discuss a topic that challenges my mind, carolbee, and it is nice to just do fun topics at times. I also like to find people who might be of interest because they have made positive contributions to our society. It's too bad if some here on myLot don't wish to give these subjects the time of day.
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@anniepa (27279)
• United States
24 Mar 08
I'm not sure what discussion you're referring to but I'll tell you in no uncertain terms I've seen a great deal of prejudice here and I hate it! I don't get it and I never will get it. As for someone sensational like Britney Spears and company, I don't get that either. Annie
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@worldwise1 (14887)
• United States
25 Mar 08
No matter how some people think, anniepa, I will not be deterred from my objective in trying to post quality topics and submit logical responses.
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@carmelanirel (20979)
• United States
25 Mar 08
You want to truthfully know what I think? You may not like it, but prejudice is not about skin color, but hate..I have heard black/white and hispanics all go after each other. The white don't like the hispanics, the hispanics don't like the black and the black don't like the whites and it shows in the way some people treat each other.. Now don't take me wrong, there are many that are not like that..My husband works in the city and there are black and whites that get along great, including my husband and this co-worker, but at the same time, another co-worker of the same color as the one he gets along with is absolutely awful and this person is also female, giving her more leverage to do what she wants, because she can cry because she is a female..Very frustrating..
@worldwise1 (14887)
• United States
25 Mar 08
What I really think, carmelanirel, is that in a world where people are supposedly so advanced, we have learned nothing. I can only say that I'm glad that I'm not one of those people who can only see a person for their skin color or religion. Racial hatred goes all the way back to Biblical days and I don't think we'll ever see an end to it.
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• United States
25 Mar 08
You are right World, this hatred does go back to Biblical times. The first was Cain who hated Abel not because of what he looked like, but because he was jealous because his brother had the better sacrifice..
• United States
24 Mar 08
Hmm , I think people really dont care about predjuice unless it happens to them. & maybe it's not an important topic to them , where if you hear Britney it is , because of her reputation.May I ask what's your nationality?=]
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@Hatley (164221)
• Garden Grove, California
24 Mar 08
why do people even care about a sleaze like Britney anyway?
@worldwise1 (14887)
• United States
25 Mar 08
I am an American, heatherxbby, who just happens to be black. My race does not define who I am nor does it limit what I can accomplish. It is appalling to me that so many people are hungry for each tidbit of information about the likes of Britney when it is clear that she has serious problems or is just plain stupid.
@subha12 (18452)
• India
25 Mar 08
I have felt prejudice are everywhere.it is also seen that i started some discussion which have few reasponses. some very very popular member here starts similar discussion few days after. it gets hundreds of responses and all are just supporting him/her view so much.
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@worldwise1 (14887)
• United States
25 Mar 08
My advice to you, subha, is to not give up because if you do then they win.
@callarse1 (4786)
• United States
25 Mar 08
It has a lot to do with varoius things. For example, wording. If you are rude then obviously people are going to response. If your discussion is very short not too many people will respond, if you aren't responding to the comments left to people you won't get much reponse. I totally understand what you're saying about that. It seems like it just depends on timing. Pablo
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@worldwise1 (14887)
• United States
25 Mar 08
I don't fit into either of those categories, callarse, but I will continue to do what I am doing and not feel intimidated any longer.
@ifnalife (323)
• Indonesia
25 Mar 08
But not every body like that, here at mylot. Don't be sad. I do gets lots of miss understanding here since i don't know english very well.
@worldwise1 (14887)
• United States
25 Mar 08
As you learn your way around, ifnalife, your English will improve simply by being on myLot and participating in the discussions. I have seen great improvement with some members for whom English is a second language.
@sid556 (30989)
• United States
25 Mar 08
I don't remember your discussion but I bet I responded. I think it all depends on who sees your discussion and who responds. it is just the timing. don't take it to heart. Really there are so so many members here....it really is all about who caught it.
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@worldwise1 (14887)
• United States
25 Mar 08
That is one reason, sid, that I will try and keep my discussion open for perhaps longer than I should(unless I get an immediate overwhelming response). I do, however, understand your point.
@Hatley (164221)
• Garden Grove, California
24 Mar 08
that is disheartening and rather disquieting but did you make sure that people understood just what your viewpoint was when you posted your discussion? i know what you are saying I have posted what I thought were relevant discussions on something and got no responses while another rather fluffy one like do you like hamburgers got a huge response so I do not know what to say.
@worldwise1 (14887)
• United States
25 Mar 08
My viewpoint was exactly the same as the person who posted it this time, Hatley. The only apparent difference was in the cities mentioned in the post. I find it hard to believe that everyone's opinion on any issue would change so radically in just a few short months.
@mummymo (23707)
25 Mar 08
Worldwise sweetry I am dismayed to hear you feel this way! I in no way condone prejudice or bigotry and I know for a fact that there are a lot of members here who feel the same way! I am not saying that prdjudice and racism does not exist - although I fervently wish I could! Could somew of it not be timing? Or the fact that the person you have started a post on is not widely known whereas Ms Spears is famous globally or should that be infamous? I don't mean to be dismissive sweets or to make light of prejudice just exploring the options. xxxx
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@winterose (39897)
• Canada
25 Mar 08
like anywhere else in this world there will be prejudice on mylot, people are people they think differently some are fair and some are not, if you have reason to feel that your discussions are treated unfairly please report. as for myself, I rarely ever use the negative rating button I think that button should be disposed of to many people abuse it.
@Darkwing (21587)
25 Mar 08
Me neither, my friend. I've seen a big drop in my responses of late, but I think there's a glitch in the system, where friends are not being notified of my starting a discussion. However, there are times when I just don't understand the working of people's minds. Is it because the "other" person who starts the same discussion has a larger following of friends, or is it merely because their mood is not right? There's nowt as weird as folk, as we say in England. Brightest Blessings.
@Deea48 (1168)
• United States
25 Mar 08
I to think it would have to be the day, or what ever people interests were on that day. I think you do very well at starting discussions. I have also seen you get very good responses as well, I would not give it much concern. Oh and just to let you know, I have not once replied to a Britney Spears discussion, not yet anyway. I just have no interst in those sorts of things, I look for good discussions like this instead. Keep up the good work and don't take it to heart if your response is not what you hoped for.