Shame to admit that....

@ciades (1624)
Philippines
March 25, 2008 11:30pm CST
Until now i didn't know how to swim. I try, but fear over ruled myself. I don't even know how to ride a bike and i never try it again ever from my last tried way back during my second grade in high school. Is it a shame of not learning that commonly kids do? Im not scared of water but i am scared of deep water. Im not afraid of a bike but im scared of what will happened. And now, is it because im just being pessimistic. I knew it...but why is it hard for me to be positive on this kind of things. Is it not late to learn with it? Well, i should try it again now that im going 28 years old this year.
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@dpk262006 (56768)
• Delhi, India
26 Mar 08
There is no age limit to learn anything, this much I can say. You can learn anything, any art and any activity anytime of your life. Many of people start driving at the age of 50 or more and they successfully drive their vechicles. You can learn swimming without any fear, starting with less deep water. You can learn to drive a bike, with the help of an experienced trainer....and when you take a decision to learn, so people who are more than your age and still trying to learn the things, this will make you more comfortable. And last but not the least - 'Where there is a will, there is a way". Best of Luck to you!
@ciades (1624)
• Philippines
29 Mar 08
Thanks deepak...happy that your around. take care my friend.
@dpk262006 (56768)
• Delhi, India
29 Mar 08
I would always be there to support you. You are welcome!
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@padu19 (1441)
• India
26 Mar 08
well ciades, you are no more a kid.. You can very learn it easily if are truly interested. Even i don't know how to swim. I just didn't have any interest in swimming. But of course i know to ride my bike(scooty!!). and i love riding it in a long road. I really enjoy it. Don't feel shameful for this. No one can learn everything as the proverb goes "Known is a drop and unknown is an ocean. " But one thing i would suggest you is to overcome your pessimistic feeling since it may stop your progress in life!!!
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@ciades (1624)
• Philippines
27 Mar 08
Biking - Riding a bike
I have fear to learn those things.And your right im not a kid anymore. Anytime time i can learn if im will. thanks padu and happy mylotting!
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@padu19 (1441)
• India
8 May 08
Hey thanks for giving mine-the best response..
@Jody20 (887)
• Netherlands
26 Mar 08
Hi Ciades, Your never to old to learn something new, so if you really want to learn to swim or ride a bike, then go for it.
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@ciades (1624)
• Philippines
4 Apr 08
I appreciated it jody!
@deepti15 (1190)
• India
26 Mar 08
Swimming - The more exertion you make underwater whilst swimming the faster your held breath will dissipate.

I would suggest two techniques for you to try.

1) Try moving your legs in a paddle motion, toes held together and keep your legs straight but make small paddle movements. Your arms should be moving in a breast stroke fashion as if your pulling yourself through the water.

2) A more difficult technique is to coil your self up and spring out as if grabbing water in a breast stroke fasion again using the water as a resistance, elongate yourself out but dont use your legs keep them together and straight as you slow down do the same technique again.

Holding your breath techniques.

To inhale as much air as you can when swimming underwater i think is wrong as it feels uncomfortable and bloated.

This is what i would do: First of all take in two big breaths but exhale each one as if your trying to get air into your lower diaghram. The next breath you take which will be you thirn and final breath intake your air slowly and feel your hold body taking air in, hold for a second and release a small amount till you feel more comfortable. then head underwater.

Practise this tecnique anywhere, on the bus, at home watching tv, but be warned you may feel dizzy when practising this technique so i would advise not driving. Lol

Ive managed 80m underwater using the first technique but its upto the individual and how comfortable you feel with it.
There is nothing to be ashamed of. I also learnt swimming when I was 22 and my husband forced me to learn. There are few simple steps to learn swimming and I think you can try them. start with floating on your back to build confidence, stick your stomach up when on your back... go on your stomach and kick to try and get foward, also, paddle...stick your arm out straight, cup your hands, and pull the water back keep your head underwater and count your strokes...1,2,3...and breath left or right depending on what wand is back and foward...the hand that is back (near your armpit) is the direction you breath for the breathing you can use the idea of "sniffing your armpit"if you can't do any swimming at all then start with just sticking your head under water and breathing out your nose...everytime i go under water i've made a habbit of automatically breathing out of your nose, you get used to being under water and it is an awsome feeling Good Luck!!
@ciades (1624)
• Philippines
4 Apr 08
i appreciated your instructions and tips deepti! i will love to try it..
@sugarfloss (2140)
• Malaysia
26 Mar 08
hey ciades!Learning how to swim and ride a bike wouldn't hurt you.Just try it and you'll never regret it.But try it with someone you really trust.Hope this helps;)
@ciades (1624)
• Philippines
4 Apr 08
Its a pleasure to have your advice sugarfloss! happy mylotting!
@williamjisir (22901)
• China
26 Mar 08
Hello dear ciades. It is ok not to have learned what you would like to learn at an earlier age, but so long as you have the desire to learn, I am sure that you will learn it soon. I think that the major fator that lies between you and the thought whether to learn or not is that you are a little bit worried too much, without which you would have been a professional in those aspects. lol. It is never too old to learn. After you are so young in your twenties only. Thanks for your discussion, my dear friend. Good night.
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@ciades (1624)
• Philippines
4 Apr 08
Your right william and i do agree with you.hehehehe.. Well, i responsed this late and its morning in here..good morning friend!
@whyaskq (7532)
• Singapore
28 Mar 08
There is nothing to be ashamed of not knowing what the kids know. It is never too late to learn along with them, or from them. I am sure the kids are more than happy to teach you. Go for it. Find an instructor. You sure can make it :)
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• India
27 Mar 08
well I don’t know how to swim or bike either and I am not ashamed of it. I never had the opportunity and I stay in a country where girls were not encouraged to swim and bike 30 yrs back. There were girls no doubt, but they belonged to the upper-middle class who went to exclusive swimming pools chaperoned in cars or they were the village girls who would just jump into the pond and learn swimming. Middle-class India had not arrangements for public pools and even today, girls from middle-class families seldom continue swimming beyond childhood.
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• China
27 Mar 08
Don't be ashame to it, don't be scared of it, I think you'll learn it well. It must be your psychological process.
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@youdontsay (3503)
• United States
27 Mar 08
I didn't learn to swim until my mid-thirties. It's never too late. And the bike thing, you could learn if you really needed to. But I'd suggest you not wait until you get old enough that your bones are brittle! :-) Seriously, wear a bike helmet, jeans, and long sleeves and have someone help hold the bike steady for you until you get your balance. Keep your eyes straight ahead and chin up. A way to train yourself is to improve your balance when standing on one leg and then the other for longer and longer periods of time. This will help you get your sense of balance refined. Then it won't be so scary when you balance the bike. Don't give up! You can do what you put your mind to doing.
@aenasao (129)
• China
27 Mar 08
hey,Ciades,i also don't know how to swim,i made up my mind to learn swimming several times,yet,i failed,the main reason is that i am scared of water,especially when i put my head into the water,i feels very terrible,i can hear the "wong wong"sound from my ears,that frightens me,so,i quit.for riding a bike,i can do that when i was young.One point i need to tell you is that,it's not a shame,it's very normal,also,if you want to learn swimming and riding,try it,as you said you just 28 years old,i think it is a young age,so,if you want do something,just do it,don't care too much about what others say.
@reinydawn (11649)
• United States
27 Mar 08
I grew up around the water so I have always known how to swim. When I moved to Colorado in high school, very few of my classmates knew how to swim. They actually taught you in school and that was a requirement to graduate. I don't think you're too old to learn to swim or ride a bike. You just need someone with a little patience to help you out. I hope you do learn, you might find you enjoy it!
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@theprogamer (10539)
• United States
27 Mar 08
Don't feel bad Cia, things like this happen. Nothing to be ashamed of or anything. You could always try again, but if you don't like it, then don't do it.
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@maddysmommy (16233)
• United States
27 Mar 08
It's never too late to learn anything and I am 37 and don't know how to swim properly. I can keep myself up in deep water and probably swim a few strokes but that's about it.
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• Philippines
26 Mar 08
You are certanly not alone, Ciades. I, too, will be 28 this year and I also don't know how to swim. You are right, it's the fear that always keeps us from learning new things. I hope both of us can break free from the fear so we can enjoy swimming, too!
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@Phlamingho (7831)
• Denmark
26 Mar 08
It's notthing to be ashamed about, but I just wonder, why didn't you ever learn? Didn't you parents ever want you to learn it? :-)
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@ESKARENA1 (18299)
26 Mar 08
im in my 40s and have never learnt to swim. I was scared by my elder sister when i was a young child and have never bothered to get in the water ever since.
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26 Mar 08
I wouldn't worry about it at all. I only recently learned to swim myself, and I'm still petrified of water and the thought of drowning. I also don't ride bikes anymore after an accident I had a couple of years ago, so I don't think you need to worry about a thing. You're free to live your own life and learn things as and when you want to.
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@youless (97623)
• Guangzhou, China
8 May 08
You shouldn't feel shamed to it, my dear friend. In the past I didn't know how to ride a bike, too. Actually I learned it in the university so that you can tell how long it was. As to swim, I think you can learn it. I learned it since I was a child, so that it might be easier. But I know a friend, he learned how to swim at least when he was over 30 years old. Don't be afraid, have some confidence and I look forward to your good news. I love China