attitude of child

India
March 26, 2008 8:31pm CST
Hello every one My younger child of 5 years is an intelligent child but he's taking advantage of the love he's getting as the youngest. He is not finishing his work in time,he takes lot of time to finish his class work, to eat. His attention span is very less,he likes talking, playing. He's is not even trying to learn the drawing, colouring and writing alphabets. He says, Iam baby know so I cannot do the work.inspite of being aclever child he is not improving in his work. please suggest me how to teach him to finish his work in the given time and how to increse his attention span and concentration.
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7 responses
• Bahamas
27 Mar 08
Hi sunnyb. He's just five, and sometimes they will test you. You say that he's intelligent so stop babing him so much. Let him know what you expect from him. When it's time for him to work try taking away anything distractng.Just remember not to put to much pressure on him,i've come to find that kids his age dont stay focused on any one thing for long. Just be consistant with him he'll come around.
@ladym33 (10979)
• United States
27 Mar 08
It could just mean that he is not yet mature enough to be in the grade he is in. Sometimes it has nothing to do with how smart a child is sometimes they are just not physically or mentally ready. You could try using a rewarding system by promising him different things at the end of the week, if he gets all of his school work done on time. Have the teacher send a note home at the end of every week as to how he did. Don't let him play the role of the baby, start making him do more things for himself, and keep re-inforcing that he is a big boy. Praise him when he accomplishes things. Ignore any attempt he tries at acting like a baby.
@mansha (6298)
• India
27 Mar 08
At five kids push their limits and try to find a way out of every task. Its just a growing thing and now you must make sure thatyou do not get in to this emotional backmailing. Chek out babycentre.com it has great tips for handeling such behaviors in kids as per the age. He is trying to see how far he can push you and you must set limits now and make every task you want him to be a tad more interesting. use play way methods of teaching.If its interesting he will do it without even realising it.
• Singapore
27 Mar 08
Firstly, try discussing with your family members ignoring him first. This will make him feel lonely and tired after he has his fun. After which he would try to interact with you. Secondly, Ask him to do something that you want him to do. He would reject it this time most likely. So ignore him again. The third time repeat and ask him to do something and tell him that you would ignore him for as long as he does not do what you says.
@aenasao (129)
• China
27 Mar 08
hi,i think now your child is very young,don't put too much work on him,he is a child though,yet,if you want him to do something,pay attention to your method,for example,if he can finish your assigned work in the given time,you can give him some prizes such as taking him to the zoo on sunday etc,thus,i think your child will be willing to follow you.also,as you mentioned above,your kid also takes lots of time doing class work,i think it's ok,it can train his collective spirit.with you and your child happy.
@ladysakurax (1161)
• Canada
27 Mar 08
he should understand that if he keeps on going like this, he is going to fall behind the rest of the students. Children around his age can do those work so his excuse is not good enough. Maybe you can try to do all those activities at home with him and show how fun it could be. Learning with the parent could be good. Promise him that if he gets a good school report , you will buy him a lil gift to encourage. My mom would buy me pastries or candies. It is important that the child isn't spoiled to much though :) goodluck
@alexigne (903)
• Philippines
27 Mar 08
Maybe you can use the carrot stick approach... But before you use that try to be polite for him to listen... Maybe there's also wrong in what he see... maybe you show some being bias... if not maybe she just misinterpret... i am quite wondering about the situation because i didn't know the whole story... We are three in the family and i never felt that my mother loves the other so much than me... SO it depends on how you show your love...You still have time... make her feel that your love for your siblings are equal... Way back to carrot stick approach... It says that if he will do what you want, he get a reward.. if not he will be punished like he can't play his favorite game or he can't go out with you at the mall or at the park... If he study so hard you will bring him to his favorite place.. Let him aware of what he needs to do not to push him to disobey you...