Would rather stay Single if you can help it?

By Nic
@academic2 (7009)
Uganda
March 28, 2008 6:27am CST
I see very un happy couples around waking to go to divorce courts, quarrelling, fighting and in all these the kids suffer in the confusion-would you rather stay single?
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11 responses
@theprogamer (10539)
• United States
29 Mar 08
I have to admit plenty of risks are involved in marriage nowadays (at least where I'm at). One false move and you lose everything. Wife that supposedly loved you either gets "bored", finds someone else, or forms a false accusation on you... in any case, you lose...and you lose big. (loss of assets, loss of children, loss of freedom). I still want to get married, but I'm cautious, careful and realistic. Its better to see there is a deck stacked against you instead of pretending the lopsided odds do not exist.
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@academic2 (7009)
• Uganda
23 Apr 08
You are right there with the intelligent responses as usual my dear the programer-with marriage for it work, you must recognize that it requires caution, care, and realism! Thanks
@stephcjh (32327)
• United States
28 Mar 08
I know what you mean. I am very happy in my marriage but if something ever went wrong, I don't think I would ever try it again. People are just not compassionate to one another anymore in alot of cases. I wouldn't want to go through a divorce either. I think I would stay single and maybe date sometimes.
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@academic2 (7009)
• Uganda
6 Apr 08
I see your point so vividly stephcjh!
@tigerdragon (4297)
• Philippines
21 Apr 08
i would rather give marriage a try than to stay single. as they say, no man is an island. it is not good for man to be alone. everyone has a partner. we all need someone to be by our side. how would one know unless you had the experience. have faith. it may not have worked with them but it does not mean it won't work for you.
@academic2 (7009)
• Uganda
23 Apr 08
You are absolutely right my friend-dont choose a single life-God did not desire it that way-He saw that a man and a woman should unite to be one in body-I know it is not and easy business living a happy married life-but with prides swalloed from both sides, joy really dwells in the realms of marriage!
• Philippines
23 Apr 08
right on! go forth and multiply, as what God said.
@checapricorn (16065)
• United States
3 Apr 08
Nope...life is too short not to enjoy what it offers to every individual..I will try it and if not successful I will keep trying and trying until I will find happiness..I am very positive that in every failures there is always a success once you have that attitude to find it!
@academic2 (7009)
• Uganda
23 Apr 08
I think you are ight my friend, not to marry will probably make you miss out on what another individual would hav shared with you as a friend an a companion in a home!
• United States
23 Apr 08
You got it, if we will not try we will never know how it will affect our lives!what are the wonderful feelings it will bring within us!
@hey_baby (426)
• Philippines
3 Apr 08
i got married 11 years ago, separated 2 years ago. yes, i would rather stay single. being alone doesn't mean being lonely. :)
@academic2 (7009)
• Uganda
23 Apr 08
Dont give up yet, on matters of the heart, you can never tell, 2moro a truely loving partner will show up-and may be you can find happiness again- I agree with you for now though that you need a good break to rebuild your life again-I hope you have kids! If you do, that should keep you busy parenting!
@nice030481 (1108)
• Philippines
3 Apr 08
here in the philippines divorce is not allowed but anullment with very long procedure. i am a married person as of today and i wish we cound not be separated. to those people who get divorce, i think they just dont love each other very much..
@academic2 (7009)
• Uganda
23 Apr 08
Nnice... you have a sweet little one there-no life is easy that is why life will always be a struggle-i like your accaeptance of marriage and your dream to stay united with hubby-no marriage is completely 100% happy-but when you get married, tolerance will carry you going-stay where you are-let your sweet little angel grow to see Mom and Dad together! God bless you
@kitan2979 (115)
• Philippines
3 Apr 08
It is sad to hear about divorce, unfaithfulness and all..But I dont think that we should doubt getting into marriage because of that..maybe we can learn from them..i think one of the reasons marriages fail is because couples marry for the wrong reasons..its not that they chose to marry the wrong person but because they got married at the wrong time or with the wrong reasons..It is really better to have a partner in life than to stay single, though I know some people are called to single blessednes.
@academic2 (7009)
• Uganda
23 Apr 08
You are very correct here, marriage is an Instttution, wwithout which this world would be a world without scial values
@alexigne (903)
• Philippines
3 Apr 08
There are women who sacrifice their happiness for their siblings. They don't want to end up into divorced to give their sibling a happy family with a father with them. Maybe its right if their siblings doesn't notice their parents cold treatment and will not affect them emotionally otherwise i won't do it. But its too impossible because children are too sensitive in many aspects. When i was young i say that i only like child and not husband. I was marry with my husband and while 3 months pregnant, i push him away, i'm not ready into commitment that i can't stand. It is a big responsibilities for me. Now i was with my family together with my daughter, my mind is fix when it comes to being single.Maybe time will tell if i will choose man between my family and my daughters sake.
@academic2 (7009)
• Uganda
23 Apr 08
My view is that we as human beings need to make a little sacrifice whe it comes to the life our kids-saving them from disgraceful moral states by their discordant parents in a marrriage would be make them better citizens
@snowzhxq (46)
• China
31 Mar 08
No, I don't like stay single even there are so many people divorced. But in fact, there are many warm families in the world in the same time. I don't like alone, I need someone to give me warm when I am cold. and I need some to hug me when I am hurt. and I like to do anything for better lift of the whole family.
@academic2 (7009)
• Uganda
23 Apr 08
Please stay that way, marriage is hot place alright, personally sometimes i say to myself that if there going back in time and deciding whether or not marry , i probabaly would have delayed-but onething is for sure, you cannot say no to marriage and be at peace with yourself!
@Bethany1202 (3432)
• United States
29 Mar 08
I went through a rough marriage where I married young and my husband turned out to be abusive and manipulative, etc etc... After I separated from him a few years ago and finally divorced him, I was certain I would never want to have another serious relationship again, because I felt that all men were scum and everyone was liars, cheaters, etc. I didn't think I would ever have the desire to marry another man ever again! Then, I met a wonderful man and we developed feelings for each other. We have been together now for a year and the love is still going strong. He is the apple of my eye and I am sure one day in a year or two we will get married. We've talked about it quite a bit but want to wait until we can afford to buy a house together. If someone chooses to stay single or not is not important. If you find love and that person satisfies you so much you don't want to be with anyone else, I think that's good, as long as it's two good people in a relationship. It sounds cliche, but I didn't look for love or even WANT to find love, it just happened!
@academic2 (7009)
• Uganda
23 Apr 08
Keep him now and enjoy your God given life! Am sure life is going to be blue for you both for ever if you respect each other!
@jesbellaine (4155)
• Philippines
23 Apr 08
No, I don't like to stay single for the rest of my life. I want to get married and make my marriage works out for my kids. Incase, I would have to go through with the divorce, I will do everything that I can to let my kids understand but I hope I would not have to go through that.