Can you be friend with you ex-boy/girl friend?

I don't think that you can be friends with some one that you dated, because no one wants to see anyone they were with, with someone else, and real friends talk about that stuff. If the relationship was with love there is no way, and if it was one sided love it just adds salt to the wounds. That is way it is called breaking up cause you have to break it off or you will just always wonder why it didn't work and keep reopening that pain of the broken relationship again and again.

There are some people that I can be friends with, and some I cannot. I think it depends on how the relationship ended and if it was mutual or not. If you don't want to be friends with an ex, just come out and say it. There's no need to play games with somebody. Before I got married, I was with somebody that had cheated on me and I found that I couldn't be friends with him. I held so much negative feelings towards him. It was just easier to let him go. I ended up telling him that I couldn't do it anymore, everytime I seen or talked with him it reminded me of the past that I was trying to forget.

I think you can be friends with your ex after you've had a seperation period and have gotten over the relationship aspect. And if you are over each other. If you don't want to have that friendship I think its okay to say no, I don't think I want to be friends with you right now. Perhaps later on in time, but I'm not ready right now. Good luck wnb!

for me, it depends. if the break up was good then it's ok by me. after our break up my ex asks me if we could still be friends and i say yes. we even used to communicate thru texting like nothing happens. then one day when i texted him i was shocked b/c he said to me that i was nothing and i was a son of a b!tch, he even told me that i should leave him alone and told me that i'm a desperate woman and a life ruiner. stupid isn't it? if i'm a witch, i would cast some voodoo on him in that time. then after 3-4 months, he texted me explaining that it was her girlfriend who did text me that time. i never believe him b/c i know his style in texting the way he shortcuts his msgs, etc. after he explain some of those liars, i also told him that he's a dumba$s son of a b!tch and hope that he'll rot in hell then i never reply to him again and changed my number so that he won't bug me anymore

well if you had a very awful break up, it's actually very hard to befriend your ex... if your ex was your friend before, then there's a possibility that you will be friends again.. but if you didn't like your ex and they weren't your friends friend then don't stay contact with them, hehehe.. :D its much better for the both of you.. ^_^

i probly could if i actually wanted to...but i choose not to

I wouldn't have any problem staying friends with my ex, but the break up happened for a reason, and often, there's no going back to the way we were. Sometimes, people seem to get back together as a couple, after having a break from one another, but I don't think it's wise, because there must be something between you that isn't compatible, don't you think? I wouldn't need to tell him I don't want to see him again, because I wouldn't have a problem with being friends. I would just let him no that there was no way of going back to how we were, but that I didn't mind being friends. Brightest Blessings.

well, in my humble opinion, and as far as it concerns ME, there is no such thing as friendship after being together. Didn't work with any of my ex-girlfriends. But i do know people who are like that (i mean, just friends after being a couple) and they get along very well. Never got how that works, and i guess never will....

I think it's an individual thing. My ex and I split up after 9 years of abuse, physical and mental. Some how after we finally broke up, we have become best friends. Don't ask me how :) I guess God let us realize that we can forgive one another and become friends. I think it's a personal decision. Not everyone can be friends with their ex.

I am friends with about two of my ex's as a general rule I would like to do bodily harm to the rest. I have had some extremely bad relationships, physical and verbal abuse and I do not think i can look past that to be friends.

no i dont think its possible i dont think that men and women can be friends i just dont . men are always horney and women have what they want. just not possible.

Yes, i can. Before I also make friend with my ex-girlfriend, now we are very close and know more another. We become best friend and when who have problem will share to each other. It better than you lose the friendship...!!!

of course you can if you cant then it is either your problem as a person or there problem as a person. Friend are hard to come by and if you have spent good times with that person then you should always remain friends unless there was abuse or mis trust,but if you just grow apart as lovers then friendship is always best

yes i do i really loved a girl and failed i dont know the reason even though we r good frns we could have a face -face till nw im waiting for the friendly responce of my love...!

there are times that i wish to be friends with my exes but as i thought better about it, i decided that i better not to because i can't help but relive the past pains. you not wanting to see him again shows that you're totally over him and that you know you're better off without him in your life. you simply have to say your sorry and that you couldn't go on like this and that it'll be best not seeing each other again.

Better to avoid especially if you have already a current relationship. It can affect your relationship with your present partner. But if you still single and there's always a one more chance or chances and that matter is up to you. If you think that it should not be needed well simply and frankly told him that you already move on and you want to move on without him in your life. OR you will accept the friendship but not in the way of being close.

I am comfortable being friends with my ex bfs maybe because I have leanred to forgive them and forgive myself for whatever we have gone through when we are still together. But if the pain is still fresh, I would try to keep myself away from him for a while. Healing takes time and I make sure that once I am truly and completely healed, there would be no reason keeping grudges or good memories. I would treat him as my friend and I don't care if he doesn't feel the same. If he is up to something I don't want to happen like reconciling, I would courteously turn him down.

I don't see why you cannot befriend your ex-boyfriend. However, you need to set the limitation of your relationship. I still keep in touch with 2 of my ex-girlfriends but we do know our own limit. We know the proper boundary and we do respect each others. We see each other on regular basis by going for dinner, clubbing or going for movies together. We only hold hand and goodnight kiss on the cheek. We don't go beyond that because both of us are married to different person and we have separate life now.

surely lwould be and could be

if she can change her attitude i can give a second chance to her