Want to come to my sweet 16?

@p1kef1sh (45681)
March 31, 2008 11:31am CST
I have just sat through 30 minutes of the most revolting television. The show is called My Sweet 16 (MTV) and seems to be about the antics of young girls that are entirely spoiled and indulged by their parents in giving them a party to remember all their lives. Typically this involves an expensive venue, a cast of thousands, thousand dollar plus dresses, live bands and an obligatory expensive car. BMW, Porsche and Mercedes seem to come out tops. Now, is it me. What has our society become when we regard such indulgence on people that are already spoiled enough as acceptable. Perhaps I am out of touch. But these parties routinely cost in excess of $100,000. Am I a killjoy? or are others as dismayed by such conspicuous displays of wealth on largely empty headed and materialistic children.
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@Breath (1297)
• United States
31 Mar 08
That show just goes to show how people spoil their kids.Seems to give them more money and things then love.Daddy's poor little rich girl ect...I just wonder how some of those girls would handle it if just for a month or two they had to live my life.How would they cope if their family lost all that money?
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@p1kef1sh (45681)
31 Mar 08
I think that there is nothing wrong in ensuring that your children are well carted for etc. But you are right, love seems to equal things. Possessions are not a substitute for love. I wonder if these children grow up understanding that.
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@ruby222 (4847)
31 Mar 08
OHHH..this programme smacks a little bit of the one called ..young ,rich and famous...but im presuming its on sky..and i dont have sky ...the money spent on fashion shoes,cars..omg it is beyond belief!!! No corsa`s or astra`s for them lol ....our daughters first little car was a fiesta...red...a fab little car...and the partys...well in excess of $100,000...ridiculous.. Bring back the sausage rolls..the fairy cakes..cheese and pineapple on sticks!!!!!...lolol......no you arent a killjoy....just sensible....i was mad at my daughter a while ago..i cant say anything as its none of my business...but she bought a Vivienne Westwood handbag...£600...now thats beyond my coprehension....mine cost £15...but aybe its me who is sad!!
@sid556 (30953)
• United States
1 Apr 08
today i spent 6.00 on a purse and felt a stab of guilt. Thanks for making me feel a whole lot better.
@p1kef1sh (45681)
1 Apr 08
I suppose that she is at least recycling the toys within the family. But it must be hard sometimes to see things that were carefully chosen being discarded. My Dad made my daughter a dolls house when she was about 5. She's 19 now and naturally doesn't play too much with house. But we could never part with it. But I must admit to cursing the thing every time I trip over it in her bedroom. LOL.
@ruby222 (4847)
1 Apr 08
Wel thats a keepsake...so a little different...I agre whole heartedly that a little extravagance now and again is a good thing...but as you point out the greedy society that we have nowadays is getting beyond a joke... My daughter has just had a sort out of grandsons toys...she took what she considered that he never ever played with to her sisters for her children...well lol it was more that we ever got in a liffetime!!!!...and lol there were things there that we had lovingly bought for our grandson...it just makes you think are you wasting your time?? The latest thing that g/son is into is Playmobil...these sets cost an absolute fortune....each one being around £60..a boxed set....he has them all....but thats their prerogative...no way would i ever interfere....but i just think if they have everything now..what will they expect when they are older???
@ElicBxn (64172)
• United States
1 Apr 08
Oh, that is just too much. I know some people that are or at least grew up as part of that "class" one flat out told me that she didn't want a "coming out" party. Kind of the off shoot of the old "seasons" in earlier times to find a husband for daughters.
@ElicBxn (64172)
• United States
1 Apr 08
I agree, like I've said, I've know people (granted their kids are now mostly grown too) of the "class" that had those things. Its like they have one up each other these days. I think it shows a lack of class when they have to do that. Basically they throw money at the kids because they don't have time to spend with them so these kids are brats.
@p1kef1sh (45681)
1 Apr 08
Yes it might be seen as a coming out party. BUt this show is about what I call jewelry rattling. "Look how much money I have got." It lacks warmth and love and teaches children that those without money are not worth knowing. Very sad.
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@marababe (2503)
• Philippines
1 Apr 08
I think this show promotes being materialistic at an early age. I mean come on, not everyone who watch that and get all wowed up can actually afford that kind of thing. Just because you have almost everything doesn't mean you've got to flaunt it on national TV right? I mean what's the point of this show anyway? Can't they just keep it private. Well, it's just my opinion anyway. And my brother's also. LOL. Cheers!
@p1kef1sh (45681)
1 Apr 08
I think that you are quite right. These young people are totally overindulged. Of course, if they weren't there would be no TV show.
@marababe (2503)
• Philippines
1 Apr 08
Yeah, they are totally over indulged and they have nothing else to do but splurge for her 16th birthday. SIXTEEN. My gosh! It's not even the legal age yet.
@moneyandgc (3428)
• United States
2 Apr 08
My husband and I have caught this show on MTV more than once. We are shocked everytime we see it. Not only are these girls and sometimes guys demanding, and selfish; they are completely ungrateful! It irks me to no end that not only do the parents shell out all of this money on a party; they buy the expensive luxury or sports cars too. When it comes in a color other than what the kid wants they throw a big tantrum! The funny thing is; watch the mother's of the girls. More often than most they are just as bad as the teenager! I saw one that the parents bought the 16 year old girl a stretch Hummer. UH, this kid just got her driver's license and they buy her this ridiculous car?? I am hoping (sad as it is) that these parents are only acting this way for the cameras. The whole thing is disgusting. My husband and I agree, our kids would probably be spoiled if we had the kind of money these people throw around. But they wouldn't be like these kids with their new Mercedes and BMW's. Not only that, at the first sign of disrespect they would lose the luxuries that they had until they learned. We also don't want our kids handed everything on a silver platter. What lesson would they learn with that?
• United States
2 Apr 08
Yeah, watching them they walk around as if they are entitled to all these things. Even though they haven't worked for a thing!
@p1kef1sh (45681)
2 Apr 08
I think that the sort of money that is spent on these children sets them completely the wrong value set. Of course you should be able to indulge them every once in a while, but this sort of ostentation is just completely over the top. What concerns me is that these children are being taught that to have lots of material possessions is what life is all about. Very sad.
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@skinnychick (6905)
• United States
1 Apr 08
LOL I have never seen this show but I have heard of these types of parties. How ridiculous is it. I guess when you are wealthy and don't pay any attention to your kids otherwise, you have to make it up to them somehow. I guess that is through money and not actually realizing that you are screwing up as a parent by doing this to your kids whether you want to see it or not. No work ethic just turn your kids into mooches. Makes a ton of sense! Ughhhh!
• United States
1 Apr 08
Attention and love- is exactly right. These parents buy instead of attention. They are trying to make up for the lack of it. Sad really how much value is placed on the family and how much value is placed on possessions. All I can do is be the exact polar opposite whatever my financial situation is.
@p1kef1sh (45681)
1 Apr 08
I get a sense from these shows that Possessions = Love. I find that terribly sad. What you produce is someone that cannot function without the latest gadget of gizmo and thinks that they are unloved because you haven't bought it for them. Time and love, in my view the two greatest gifts that you can give someone.
@pumpkinjam (8876)
• United Kingdom
31 Mar 08
My first thought here is "why?". Why did you sit through 30 minutes of such drivel? I think this is a really bad thing to happen. We should be encouraging good behaviour and hard work in our youngsters, not showering them with expensive gifts that they don't deserve. Of course, I don't begrudge someone who has the money giving their child a great party but what is going on here is purely exploitation. If I had thousands to spend on my kids birthdays, I would think of a more productive way to use it and it certainly would not be televised. I don't really understand the whole thing. It's not as if 16 is all that special and then I suppose these kids will be overindulged 2 years later as well with something even more lavish. I'm not jealous or anything. Really. For my 16th birthday, I had a few friends round at my sisters. If people have to spend all that money and be so extravagent, I wonder why. Would they have as many people turn up to a few drinks down the pub?
@p1kef1sh (45681)
31 Mar 08
In answer to Why? Bonding with my 19 year old daughter and her friend. They were more astounded than I was. Although they have seen it before. I agree entirely with the rest of your post. We did give her a party for her 18th, and it did cost a bit. But we didn't run to anything like the parties that these 16 year olds get. Personally, if I had that kind of money to spend on a party, I wouldn't. You can do so much more with it than a car that won't be appreciated and a dress that will be forgotten the following day. I cannot even remember my 16th, but for my 21st, I went to the pub and someone bought me 21 Southern Comforts - I honestly don't know whether I drank them all or not. I have never touched that particular drink since.
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@Sissygrl (10909)
• Canada
1 Apr 08
I have seen this show before and i kinda wish my parents had that much money to spend on something like that for me. although i wouldnt take the party, i'd take the car ;) hehe. I only watched the show once.. i'm with you.. that girl was super spoiled!
@p1kef1sh (45681)
1 Apr 08
Wasn't she just. I see no reason why parents cannot indulge their children, but this just seems to have moved way into the bad taste zone.
@mummymo (23706)
31 Mar 08
No sweets you aren't a killjoy - well either that or I am one too! lol I wouldn't do this for my kids even if I could afford to - I like them to learn about respect, working and actually earning what you receive and I don't see them learning any of this if they get everything they wish for when they wish for it! My kids don't take anything for granted - if they misbehave they have privileges totally removed but at the same time they are very good students who are constantly getting praised both for their diligence and helpful nature towards others and their academic ability! I don't for one second think they would be this way if they had been so spoilt! That sounds awful but it is true but we still have an awful lot of fun together! xxx
@mummymo (23706)
31 Mar 08
You know what the weird thing is -- both of my kids have told me that they would far rather have family time and fun than expensive toys and gadgets (that I know they would really love) i also think they enjoy having discipline and set boundaries, it makes them fell safer and secure - they know where they stand, even if they do sometimes still push the limits to see if they can! xx
@p1kef1sh (45681)
31 Mar 08
You are so right. Of course you want your children to enjoy the good times. But this sort of over indulgence is just too extreme. In the show, the mother bought the girl who was still only 15, a car, a BMW I think. She gave it to the girl the day before her birthday. The girl threw a hissy fit because she wanted it to be presented to her at her party the following evening. I have worked for three quarters of my life and whilst I can now afford a BMW, it would be a serious consideration and I don't think that I would bother. To give one to a girl not yet old enough to drive seems positively potty and shows a lack of judgement bordering on the insane to me. Nurture your children and give them the one thing that money absolutely cannot buy, LOVE. That will mean more to them and you than anything else.
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@sid556 (30953)
• United States
1 Apr 08
i never saw the show as i don't watch much tv and neither do my girls...thankfully...they don't need to be getting thoughts that this is "normal". I really don't know but I doubt that most families indulge their little girls this way ....it is just tv i hope.
@p1kef1sh (45681)
1 Apr 08
Gosh I hope that you are right. I think that you are, otherwise there wouldn't be much of a market for such a TV show. But it seems very sad to me that conspicuous indulgence is the only way that some people can show their love for their children.
@suehan1 (4344)
• Australia
1 Apr 08
i have not seen this show,and i really could not tell you if it is actually on here in australia,but i think i probably would think the same as you.i don't think that i would spoil my children if i had that much money.my godfather is a millionaire and has five children.he never indulged them and they worked for every cent they got.he had a hugh farm and the kids would have to work the land,even though he good have hired men to do it.they allhad to buy their own cars and they would have to be the most greatest bunch of kids around.cheers sue
@p1kef1sh (45681)
1 Apr 08
I think that this show degrades families actually. It suggests that possessions are all that life is about. It also has a mickey taking aspect. Why would you buy a child not yet old enough to drive a car that the average person could not afford in their lifetime. Your Godfather sounds like a sensible man. I see no harm in the odd indulgence, but making it a way of life is just so pointless to me.
• United States
31 Mar 08
Over here the show is called "My Super Sweet 16", and I for one HATE THE SHOW. It's the most vulgar and disgusting show I've ever seen. Sure their parents are giving them a party to remember all of their lives, but I seem to recall "the happiest day of my life!" being a wedding day...Not a sixteenth birthday. How are the parents going to top it next year? Why can't these kids just be content with 2 Proms, 4 Homecomings, and huge wedding bash like the rest of us? My wedding was no $100,000 affair, coming in at only $5000 incl. clothes for everyone, but it was more than enough. These girls are manipulative, socially retarded, materialistic (doesn't even cover 1/2 of what they are), and very hygienically disgusting. Caked on makeup and singed hair is not cute. Neither is the tooth-cheese and green stuff coating the inside of your over-lipsticked mouth. Why can't the parents of those girls teach them better than that? It is beyond dismaying to realize that there are people choosing between groceries for their kids or diapers for the same kids, and these too-wealthy, empty-headed, materialistic sons of b!tches throwing ridiculous parties for their lower-than-vomit kids, and teaching these stupid stupid kids the same "values and morals". If you want to teach your kids real values and morals, make them work from the time they are old enough to get a job, and volunteer in a homeless children's shelter on the weekends. Sorry b@stards... I really hate most people. Society has forgotten how to function properly. I despise rich people especially because they have more money than brains. Why does that always seem to happen? The more money you have, the stupider you are.
• United States
31 Mar 08
I also think MTV should come out with another show and they should call it, "My Super Stupid Sweet Sixteen: The Day After" and show pictures of that beautiful Mercedes/BMW/Lexus wrapped around a telephone pole. I can't afford one of those cars, and I'M GROWN! What kind of moron gives their CHILD a car that costs more than a year's salary for the general population?!
@p1kef1sh (45681)
31 Mar 08
I got the title wrong too. It is My Super Sweet 16 here as well. I don't know that rich people are necessarily more stupid, but they lose touch with reality. Their $1000 is my $10 and so on. I find such displays of wealth hideously vulgar and the message that it sends to the children is that it is OK to look down on those that are not so well off. I find that very sad. When I read about people that were living reasonable lives now living in RVs or the backs of their cars even I just wonder how the same society can be comfortable buying designer dresses for 16 year old girls who by tomorrow will have moved onto the next expensive frippery. Part of it I think is that the parents of some of these children have made it and want to show off their success. Over indulging your children does not strike me as the way to do it. As you say, how do you top that.
@TinaP40 (329)
• Spain
2 Apr 08
I caught the end of this the other day and I agree it is a complete waste of space with lots of rich spoilt kids demanding more money from daddy. why do they make such rubbish programmes! It amazes me that people watch them.
@p1kef1sh (45681)
2 Apr 08
I think that it is what is called "Aspirational TV", they think that we could live like that too. Not for me thank you.