Are you more sick if your spouse is stressed out?

When you have someone that is sick like with cancer ya cant stress out. have to keep and even head and keep up a happy face and keep them laugh show no emotions of being scared!This is what I di dwith my hubby and I do beleive He got thru things better than if I cried and carried on all the time I left that till after he passed then cried fo r 2 and 1/2 year solid but slowed down but do still cry more than I used to .

I don't know if I'm an exception but whenever my husband is sick or stressed out, the more I stand firmer because I know it's my responsibility taking care of him or support him in any way I can. As his wife, it is my vow to share with him not only in good times but also in bad times. I have to make things easier for him to make him up on his feet again. I know it's really disheartening and dragging hearing or knowing what your husband or spouse is going through but if I let myself be drowned in the problems we are facing, we will both sink. If we both sink, what will happen to our family and to our children? My family is my life and it is my love for them that gives me strength and inspiration to keep me going and to overcome all problems.

With my parents having a lot of medical problems. Only one gets stressed out when the other is sick, which is my mom. Now when my mom is sick, all the sudden my dad is sick as well and it's worse than my mom's illness. 9 out of 10 times with my dad, he's usually right. He's had 4 heart attacks, don't know how many of them that was minor that after taking his heart pills stopped it. 2 of them with maybe seconds in between, skin cancer, high blood pressure, etc. I guess I take after my mom, I stress out when my husband is sick or something is wrong. Mine doesn't act sick or appear sick, neither does he get stressed out. He's actually my strong hold that helps me.

I have been blessed by not having to deal with this yet with my husband and he has been blessed also by not having to deal with it from me. I think I would be sicker if he got sicker because my stress level is always up there and I know it would really get me down. I think he could handle it alot better than I could.

We have,so far, been fortunate to avoid major illness in our lives, but it makes sense for one spouse to be more stressed when their partner is ill. If it is a "mild" illness (not requiring hospitalization, but requiring bed rest), there is naturally going to be more household/family responsibilities put on to the healthier partner. Plus, with any illness, we do not like to see our loved ones feeling bad. Major illness also brings on the fear/stress of worrying about their future. As the "sick" person, your stress will increase as you see your loved ones concerns and responsibilities grow. Stress is not conducive to healing, and hampers the immune system, so it makes sense that the "sick" person will get sicker.

winterose I found that I was really stressed out when my husband had a second heart attack and was hospitalized. I had to work and that did not help then they moved him from ICU into a p private room so I was told he was getting a little better so I had a ray of hope so I kept on working as we needed the money but always thinking about him and wondering if he was really getting better. He was in the private room one day and the nextday I got a call from the hospital to come at once as he had taken a turn for the worst. I wasterrfied but my second boss took me to the hospital and tried to reassure me that he was in good hands. He was back in the ICU and on a respirator and was unconscious and I never even got a chance to say goodbye. he was gone two hours later. I was totally in shock as I had not expected that but it happened and now ten years later i have dealt with it.

Come to think of it, I find it rather true. I do feel the stress if my friend is stressed, not to mention sick. Of course, if I am sick, I appear sicker. Whether it the same the other way round, I not sure.