Did you get a ring when he proposed?

United States
April 1, 2008 2:19pm CST
My fiance proposed to me 2 years ago without a ring, and i told him yes i would, but forever i would call him my boyfriend and told him i wouldnt call him my fiance till he got me a ring, well he still hasnt got me a ring and i go ahead and call him my fiance. He said he wants to wait till he can get me a real good ring, and I can understand that and i guess I will wait for it. How many others are out there and were engaged without a ring, or maybe even married without a ring?
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@SukiSmiles (1998)
• United States
1 Apr 08
I did not get a ring when my husband proposed. When Valentine's Day came, which was not too long after he asked me, he gave me a beautiful concho belt with silver and turqouise conchos. So, that was my "ring". I wore it in our engagement photo. Our wedding bands were custom made for use. I actually got a dimaond ring when I was pregant with my daughter (2nd child).
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• United States
1 Apr 08
aww at least you finally got it, he gave me a necklace that next valintines day, a heart with diamonds in it, and I wear it everyday (except for now b/c the chains broke I have to wear the other cheaper necklace he gave me later on) He wondered why i only wore that one but its b/c it means so much to me, it was the first real jewelry given to me from a man, It was more like our engagment jewelry. All that really matters to me though is that he loves me. thanks for your responce
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• United States
1 Apr 08
That is so sweet! You should tell why that necklace means so much. I hope you can get the chain fixed soon.
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• United States
1 Apr 08
yes maybe if i tell him he will get it fixed, hes taking his time trying to get a new chain or fix the old one LOL.
@tessah (6621)
• United States
2 Apr 08
i didnt get a ring when my husband proposed. i got a heart shaped rose quartz. the ring i did wear afterwards because he wanted the symbol to show our connections to each other, was a sterling silver band with a small onynx in the center that he bought off a beach vender for 6 bucks. materialistic shows of affection are not necessary, for me anyways. and i wore that tiny ring until it broke years later. hes replaced it now with a cubic set in white gold so itd be stronger and weather the years better. if hedve bought me a diamond, idve slapped him around and made him bring it back.
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• United States
2 Apr 08
why do you not like diamonds? i dont want nothing big when he finally gets me something, but i would like somethng that i could show to people, but its not a big deal to me.
• United States
2 Apr 08
I can see what you mean by that, Most people dont see it that way, i like cubic just as much as diamonds, so i could deal with a cubic too. I knew that the people that gather diamonds have to go in holes just big enough to fit in and are 50 ft deep or more, and all that keep them safe is a rope that can break.
@tessah (6621)
• United States
2 Apr 08
its much much more than just the safety conditions, or lack thereof, on the job. do some research.. youll be appalled.
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• United States
1 Apr 08
I did get a ring, but I absolutely hated it. It wasn't an "engagement ring", and just the whole thing was not thought-out and quite depressing. He got me a "real" ring last summer, though.
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• United States
1 Apr 08
I think i would perfer to wait on a real ring than to get a fake one before i get the real one.
• United States
1 Apr 08
It wasn't fake, he just didn't think about it. At all. Instead of forethought and saving up and planning the proposal, he ran out with whatever money he had at the time, got the cheapest ring he could find and then basically just gave it to me. He got on his knee, but there was no profession of love, no speech, not even the question. The ring was a Mother's Day special, emeralds in the shape of a butterfly on a yellow gold setting. He knew I wanted a diamond and he knows I hate yellow gold.
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• United States
1 Apr 08
Oh well grr.. LOL, thats just a man for you never really thinking
@mbs730 (2151)
• Canada
2 Apr 08
I didn't get a ring either and thats because I chose the ring that I wanted after he proposed. I was just thrilled to be dating a commitment phobic free man. And its been almost 9 years of marriage, and it sure isn't the same now as it was when we were dating! Anyway why can't be propose to you before the ring? The ring does not have to make it official. However we did have a long engagement, sometime into my engagement I did get the ring and I definitely had a ring after marriage but I am sure it does happen that couples get married without rings. Usually I would think for financial reasons.
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• United States
2 Apr 08
Yes its financial reasons for us, and i know sooner or later i will get a ring, I dont much mind only when ppl lift a brown when i tell them im engaged without a ring
5 Mar 10
my bf just proposed to me and i he didnt give me a ring. But i told him that did matter because we live together and we just got this house so i knew that I would have a long wait bfore he could afford a ring so it's cool i dont call him my fiance even though he is... I call him my bfriend because u know I love him the same whether he is my bfriend or fiance... it's all love
• Australia
2 Apr 08
I did get an engagement ring. My husband actually took me ring shopping before he proposed so it wasn't much of a surprise! But I don't think whether you get a ring really matters. It's just a symbol. What really matters is the committment you two decided to make to each other.
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• United States
2 Apr 08
Yes i know but it just makes you feel better when you have a ring on your finger when you tell people your engaged, i dont really care though.
@luckycat (220)
• Bolivia
2 Apr 08
My boyfreind gave a ring 2 years ago.I know it was not expensive.b'c we were both students.but i lost it.and one year later we brokeup. But i think the ring is not so important .b'c if he loves me ,i think that's enough.If engagement.i guess he will give you a wonderful ring later .also his heart too Best wishes!!
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@ruby222 (4848)
1 Apr 08
I wouldnt worry about it!!..i didnt have a ring ..in fact i got an engagement ring on our silver wedding anniversary!!...but it diddnt matter one little bit....i had my wedding ring..that was all that i needed!!
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• United States
1 Apr 08
I aint that worried about it, I will get one sooner or later. we were going to get married this year, but we are moving it to a later date and waiting for our business to pick up before we get married
@ruby222 (4848)
2 Apr 08
Good luck with the business
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23 Apr 08
My partner and I just sort of decided that we were going to get married. He never really proposed or anything. He's been talking about getting me a ring for years, but we've never had enough money or gotten around to it. It doesn't really feel official or anything though. I think it will if he gets me a ring one day. Until then it feels odd saying that he's my fiancé so I just call him my partner or my boyfriend.
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• United States
23 Apr 08
Yes thats how it was for me, i couldnt call him my fiance for about 2 years after he proposed b/c most people are like well wheres your ring. I now call him my fiance, and sometimes boyfriend. I went ahead and put a band ring on my finger so that it doesnt look as bad. But I cant wait till he gets me a ring
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@cheenlly (3483)
• Philippines
23 Apr 08
Count me in hehehe....hmmmm does engagement ring really matters hehe if it is then i should start buzzing my fiance about it. Anyways now seriously my guy which is my fiance now proposed at me just last month and that time it doesn't really come into my senses that there should be a ring as i was very overwhelmed that time and said yes. What most important to me is the love that we both feel hehehe but come to think of it, it will be more romantic if he did give me a ring. Oh well it doesn't stop there yet, it has still a lot of suprises so maybe i'll just wait for the one that is most important the wedding ring.
• United States
23 Apr 08
I agree with you when he asked while i was cooking a while back all i remember is the feeling i felt not the fact that there was no ring, no flowers. Just him out of nowhere asking if i would marry him. It was one of the most memerable times of my life.
@globell45 (143)
• United States
10 Apr 08
I have been married 18 years on the 6th of April. When my husband proposed, we didn't have the money for an engagement ring. I was pregnant with my now 17 yr old and had gotten out of a very nasty and scary divorce 3 yrs before. My little girl was born after a painful 40 hour extremely difficult labor of which her daddy was with me the entire time, holding my hand, walking the halls and just generally letting me know how much he loved me for having his child. This showed me not to be afraid of trusting him and that is when I decided if he still wanted to get married, I would. If I had waited for a diamond ring, I don't think we would have married. I am glad I didn't. I still don't have a diamond ring, but I did hit the jackpot, I have a wonderful loving husband, and we have 2 beautiful little diamonds in the rough who are now 17 and 16. I would rather have that.
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• United States
10 Apr 08
yes i would rather have that too, the ring is just an added bonus. I will get married without one if i have too.
@kitan2979 (115)
• Philippines
7 Apr 08
Me too, he asked me not just once and we always talk about it but i dont know when is his plan to get me a ring.. if he does I think it wont be a surprise, I think I will be the one to pick my ring..LOL
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• United States
7 Apr 08
LOL I dont think i will be suprised when i get my ring, we are going to pick out some wedding bands next week, before i ever get my engagement ring. We are going to start wearing them even though we havent had a wedding, ubt in our eyes we are already married so it doesnt matter.
@moneyandgc (3430)
• United States
2 Apr 08
I have been married twice. The first time I went with him and picked out the ring. There really wasn't much of a proposal. The second time; my (now) husband took me out to the beach at night. On a pier he asked me to marry him. He picked out the ring and surprised me with it. We have been married 3 years this past February.
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• United States
2 Apr 08
aww thats so cute, well congrats and good luck, my fiance and I have been together for 3 years this past March. LOL
@itsmepinky (1301)
• India
2 Apr 08
yes we got engaged officially and in our tradition we have to exchange rings. He gave me a traditional ring of his mom's choice which i din quite like , but i had to accept it since i had no other option. I too gave him a gold ring which he never wears coz he is not used to wearing rings. I find it quite disgusting coz thats my gift & he refuses to wear it. *sigh*
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• United States
2 Apr 08
aww thats sad i wish he would understand what it means to you
@gemini_rose (16192)
2 Apr 08
When I got engaged we could not afford a ring, so we used my Grandmas engagement ring! I was married in 2001 and still did not have an engagement ring. My hubby finally bought me my engagement ring about a year ago, he could not get my ring size as I always had my rings on and he did not want to tell me what he was doing and so he just had to guess my size. It was a beautiful ring but is a little too big so I just had to get a piece taken out of it to make it fit properly.
• United States
2 Apr 08
Thats cool, we have the same problem of not being able to afford it. I know i will get one one day. thanks for your responce
@sacmom (14250)
• United States
2 Apr 08
My husband proposed to me without a proper ring. It was more like a friendship ring that he bought off of the shop at home network! LOL But it wasn't his choice. He wanted to propose to me with a proper ring so about 6 months later he got me an engagement ring. I actually used this as my wedding ring as well, but shortly after we got married he bought me a proper wedding ring as well. I have worn both ever since.
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• United States
2 Apr 08
well its been longer than 6 months but I know that he will get me one sooner or later, i too will always wear them once i get them.
@tigerdragon (4297)
• Philippines
2 Apr 08
if you love the person that much does the ring really matters? it sometimes gets i the way and becomes an issue. it is not a sign of ones love waht matters most is how you love that person the ring cn wait just have that committment and do it.
• United States
2 Apr 08
I know i never said that it really mattered to me I was just seeing how many others didnt get a ring, if it really matterd to me more than my love i dont htink i would still be here after two years thanks for your responce
@Rosekitty (19396)
• San Marcos, Texas
2 Apr 08
Back in 1970 i didn't want a ring, i wanted a sewing machine cause i needed that more. Later he did get me a ring and someone stoled it but i still have the sewing machine lol.
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• United States
2 Apr 08
I think thats the funniest story i heard, LOL, yes i told him that our business and stuff is more important right now too. I could have him get me a fake cheap ring but would rather wait
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@reejane (294)
• Philippines
2 Apr 08
I am! I haven't gotten any ring at all. Even if I would love to have one, I didn't ask for my hubby back then for a ring. I want him to give it to me w/o feeling obligated. Oh well, I guess some guys thinks that having an engagement ring is not really a must but optional.
• United States
2 Apr 08
Yea it seems more and more girls dont have rings, It also is probally the prices too LOL
@kellys3ps (3726)
• United States
1 Apr 08
We were engaged for about a week before I got my ring - he wanted me to pick out the ring I wanted to wear for the rest of my life.
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• United States
1 Apr 08
Thats a good thing but i think i would perfer him to pick it out for me, i dont know i give him hints of what i like here and there.
@Madona1 (2098)
• Gibraltar
1 Apr 08
Yes, I did get a ring when my hubby proposed to me. But I can understand those lovers who don’t get rings when their love one proposes as it is not necessary to follow the traditional way or old manner. As long as the couples are happy together and love each other will do.
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• United States
1 Apr 08
I totally agree with you, and your icon just is perfect for this discussion LOL, i just keep thinking of the day that he engaged or the days that will come when we go have a romantic time.
@lisan23 (444)
• United States
1 Apr 08
Well, there wasn't really a proposal in the first place. We just decided that if we were living together we might as well get married. I didn't get a ring until 7 months after we got married, but I don't wear jewelry anyway. My husband doesn't want a wedding band so he doesn't have one at all. Once we become debt free, though, we will get a new ring for me and a band for him.
• United States
1 Apr 08
Yea we arent really in that bad in debt, but we want to wait till our feet are settled before we think of things like rings and stuff. I'm fine without one, the only thing that i dont like is telling someone im engaged and they look down at my hand and wonder where my ring is.