Am I really want a boyfriend
By Joanne137
@Joanne137 (1)
China
April 2, 2008 6:54am CST
Some time, I ask myself,do i want or need a boyfriend due to i am 22 years old, and, do not have a boyfriend yet.
When the time my girl friend talked about their date,how happy,how delightly,how exciting...the time they were together,I fell very sorry about myself.
To most of the man who are my friends or classmates or collegues,tream me as a boy....I wonder?
Would you please kindly tell me, is a gril who 22 years old should have a boyfriend?
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23 responses
@jhoannejoj (963)
• Philippines
2 Apr 08
Hi joanne. Dont rush things my dear and pressure your self. The idea of having a boyfriend is not like as shopping for a new clothes you want to have. In your world where most of your friends are couple with somebody, dont let that thought get in your nerves. Enjoy life of being single, God is preparing someone for you. You will just feel it the moment you meet that someone. As of the moment, go out and meet some new people. Maybe somewhere and out of nowhere you will just commit yourself to a person, regardless of your age now.
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@ShardAerliss (1488)
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4 Apr 08
Hey Joanne, welcome to MyLot.
Well, lots of people have given sage advice on 'the right time to get a partner.' So I'll give that a miss. I'll jump onto the 'being treated like a boy' thing.
I'm a tom-boy. Always have been and damn well always will be. I don't wear make-up (at 25 years old I wouldn't even know what to do with it!), I can't stand skirts, my hair is almost always up (though I love my hair and like wearing it down it's just impractical), I'm sporty and generally happy to jump into a fight (though I have a tendency to squeal like a girl when play fighting... _ ).
I never went out looking for a partner, I didn't really want one. The majority of my friends were (and still are) male and I get along much better with guys and other tom-boyish girls.
Yet here I am, moving into my sixth year in a happy and loving relationship (in our own apartment) with a guy I understand and who understands me.
The moral of this tale; be who you are, be happy with what you are and what you have. You'll find happiness much easier that way.
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@steney (1418)
• Philippines
4 Apr 08
There is no definite time or schedule for having a boyfriend. You'll just know when you meet the right person. Don't be pressured to have one just because your friend is in a relationship. The right time will come and there's no need to rush about this. Strive to have quality and meaningful relationships, rather than short term flings. You will end up happier in the end. In the mean time, enjoy being single to the fullest. :)
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@kat_princess (1470)
• Philippines
4 Apr 08
Don't rush yourself.you'll find your man too.Good luck!
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@gabrielle47 (1219)
• Philippines
4 Apr 08
Hi Joanne. First of all, welcome to myLot. For me, there is no age when to get a boyfriend. Its when you are ready to handle a relationship and is in love with that person and the same way that that person is in love with you. Being in love for me is the main reason for having a bf/gf or a relationship for that matter.
I was like you when I was young in my teens envying my friend who have already suitors and bfs and looking myself as ugly for not having one. I was 17 when I had my bf and was already in college. But what I learned today is that love comes at the right time and the guy for you will come. You can have many suitors but you can chose from them which will be best to keep a relationship.
At your age, its ok to have a bf but if the reason for you wanting to have a bf is just because of peer pressure or just to be with the norm or same with other people, then it is of the wrong attitude and thinking in my opinion. I have known many women to be single until their early 30's but when they had a bf, it was long lasting and a good one. So dont be in a hurry. As the saying goes, haste makes waste. Good luck!
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@lisa_ljy (85)
• China
3 Apr 08
Hi!I am just two years older than you.But some experiences maybe helpful to you.In my opinion,it is not the right way to pursue love or a boyfriend or a girlfriend this way.Ask yourself,do you really unhappy now with your friens?do you really need a boyfried just
because almost your girlfriends have one? Don't afford your love so casually.Just wait the day you really need
it and believe it!
best wishes!
@simplyjemz (188)
• Philippines
3 Apr 08
it is not a "must" to have a boyfriend when you're 22. but when you really need someone to be with..to share life with...and a sense of belonging..you better find one. hehe. remember also that age doesnt matter in love. eventhough you're already old..there's still love. maybe..you just envy your friends because they have something to talk and share stories with other people.
they treated you as a boy? huh! tell them..you're just a late bloomer!
@nimette (338)
• Philippines
5 Apr 08
im 21 and currently single too. i understand how you feel because all of my girls have their boyfriends. i cant help but feel that i'm left out! but i'm comfortable hanging out with them there's just this times where i cant help but wonder why they have a bf and i dont. they even push me into it. its annoying because i dont think its a necessity at this point in time. and im not pushing away guys its just that no ones ever made me feel that i'm in-love yet.
don't get pressured! yet dont push guys away give everybody a try and when u feel like your ready just go girl! dont hang on to your ideals! just feel the love!
@Moliliuzu (140)
• China
3 Apr 08
to be frankly,i don't know the answer.we are in the same boat.
i think you are the one who know the answer.you should ask yourself.
@shynie (556)
• Philippines
3 Apr 08
Having a boyfriend does not mean that you should go for it just because you feel like you're of the right age. Getting in a relationship means you should be ready in everything. That the person you choose to be with is the one that you truly love. You have to be ready both in mind and emotionally.
@renaud_tan (416)
• Philippines
4 Apr 08
[i]hahaha, it actually depends on you.. 
if you want a boyfriend, you should be prepared and don't have a boyfriend cause your 22 years old, you should have a boyfriend only if you really like some or if you love someone.. [/i]
if you want a boyfriend, you should be prepared and don't have a boyfriend cause your 22 years old, you should have a boyfriend only if you really like some or if you love someone.. [/i]
@kuan01 (135)
• Philippines
2 Apr 08
for what reason? im also 22 y/o but why? are you jealous with their boyfriends? or you just need someone to care about you? there are millions of reasons why you want to have a boyfiend, there are people who are dependent with their selves that is why they need a boyfriend to help them. But "some" guy(s) wants to have a girlfriend to have s*x, sad but true and doesn't know the meaning of relationships. But for your question if a 22 y/o girl should have a boyfriend? maybe it still depends on you, because we don't know how mature or how ready you are with relationships. Try to ask your friends or your mother as well(mother knows best).
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@princesita4ever (145)
• United States
2 Apr 08
hi Joanne, sometimes we need someone to be by our side helping us treating us like if we were a princess.... and someone to make us feel that we are the most special thing in the whole world for them,It is normal for you to have a boyfriend I mean you are 22 years old.. but you should do what makes you happy, maybe you don't want to be with anyone because you haven't found that special someone;)
another thing if your friends/classmates/collegue treat you like if you were a boy then maybe you need to get in front of a mirror and look at the way you dress(is it girly??) and the way you behave when you are with them, maybe what you need to do is start behaving more like a girl, I mean I don't know how you are but this are my tips for you,if you always wear a pony tail then is time for you to take it off, take more care of yourself,do your nails, your hair, maybe do some hihlights they look pretty cute, and use a little bit of makeup, that would make you feel a lot better with your self, try it out, feel free to write me back if you want any more tips or if you need someone to talk to, take care xoxo
@ShardAerliss (1488)
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4 Apr 08
Why should she have to change herself to fit in with societies norms? No one should feel as though they have to change because they do not fit the preconceptions everyone else has.
Why would suddenly, out of the blue, wearing make-up and doing her nails make a person feel better?
Joanne, if you don't want a boyfriend then do not feel as though you have to go out and get one, just because everyone else does. The worst thing you can do is go out searching for a partner, making it a goal in and of itself. I've only ever seen it lead to tears.
If you happen to come across someone that is interested in you, just as you are (not all doled up and acting a part) then go for it! But don't think you have to pretend to be something you're not and look for a partner.
I'm not saying every girl should stop wearing make-up, and stop doing 'girl-y' things. But that everyone should just be who they are. If you are a person that likes to wear make-up and dress up in pretty frocks then you should do that, and you'll find someone who likes people who do that. If you're the kind of person that likes to climb trees and wrestle in the mud then do that, and you'll find someone who likes people who do that.
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@princesita4ever (145)
• United States
6 Apr 08
hey..
you are right, she shoudn't change who she is, but maybe she should take care of herself not for anybody also but for herself and like I said in the other article maybe she is not going out with anybody because she hasn't found that special someone ;) But Joanne don't rush it because at one point or another everything happens for a reason and sometimes is better to be alone than rather be with someone that you don't truly like.
@Mandyhao (20)
• China
6 Apr 08
I have the same situation with you.I am nearly 22 years old and I havenot got a boyfriend.But my friends and classmates are all enjoying happiness of sinking in love.Sometimes I envy them.But what can I do?!I cannot rush to srteets and shout to walkers:"Who wants to be my boyfriend? Who want to be my boyfriend?",can I?
Just because I am ugly and not gentle,I am lonely now.But sometimes I think,why do I have to get a boyfriend?Cannot I be myself without a boyfriend?Of course not.So just let it be,Joanne,and maybe one day,a handsome man comes to you,who knows!
@checapricorn (16061)
• United States
2 Apr 08
it depends..at 22, I date lot of guys but none of them I want to be in a serious relationship! I just enjoy knowing people and learning from them. But, if you feel lonely, you can start dating too!If your problem is no one ask you for a date, maybe you can start evaluating yourself..are you friendly? or guys are hesitant to approach you? start gaining friends, more friends by showing that you are interested to know them better. If still you think there are no more available guys in your area..there are online dating..it will also improve your skills and who knows your luck is there!! Have a great day!!!
@littlewhite (256)
• China
3 Apr 08
wow..i am the same years as u..but kindly i dont think i need a bf..
if u sometimes feel lonely and wanna someone be with u,,i suggest u can find a bf.
good luck.
@Happywood (10)
• China
3 Apr 08
you are the only person who knows how you feel ,if you really have a crush on someone ,don not hesitate,what matters is your feeling ,not your age .
