HOW RUDE..what would you do..

@ersmommy1 (12596)
United States
April 3, 2008 3:15pm CST
So a few weeks ago it was really cold here. In the 20's. There is a knock on my door. Not being one to just open the door, I look out the window.There was a young girl standing there. I recognized her as one of my neighbors, and opened the door. This child is maybe 14. It was 6pm. She needed to use my phone as she isn't given a key. And her brother has not come home to allow her in the house. Again it is cold. I let her in. She made her call. I let her stay. She was seated on the couch 1hr and 1/2 until a family member got home. No biggie. Trying to be neighborly!! Well it has bitten me in the butt. Today makes 4 times in the last week that she or her mother has come by to use my phone. They apparently came by last night. But My roomate didn't answer the door and my hubby wasn't home yet. So I go outside today to check mail, and am headed inside When I hear her yelling "Ya Fin not let my daughter use ya phone yesterday" she makes it up to my porch in record time. Caught off guard, I go retrieve a phone to tolet her call the phone company. While I am standing there she makes no less than 7 calls. And proceeds to tell me how she is working on getting her ged and "could I know how to do " part of her assignment. I won't be answering the door. I will let my hubby do it. I mean Please!!
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25 responses
• United States
3 Apr 08
Wow. It's unbeliavable how people act. That is extremely rude. So wait something that I can't understand is what she said. She said that you didn't let her daughter use her phone? And then she tells you whether you could do her assignments for her GED class? I mean I know she may be going through some problems being a mom and having to take GED classes and all but you just don't ask a stranger that.
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@ersmommy1 (12596)
• United States
3 Apr 08
She asked about a particular question. It gave 2 numbers in the thousands. You were supposed to round up the 2 numbers and then subtract to get the total.
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• United States
3 Apr 08
Oh okay. But that is still rude. I mean it's like your offering the frosting and they want the whole cake. I don't even think that makes sense but whatever. I wouldn't open the door again. You already opened the door to much because your a nice person and they are just barging in on you.
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@gemini_rose (16192)
3 Apr 08
One of my favourite sayings is give an inch and they will take a yard!! I have made this mistake a few times in my life and sometimes I think to myself why am I so kind! You will have to put a stop to it somehow or else they will just keep on doing it, what a nightmare for you. If you are anything like me then you will feel uncomfortable in saying what you want to say which is , now do not take the p***s go and buy yourself a phone! I would probably turn around and say it is broken or something, and say you cannot get it fixed for 2 weeks and then hope that by that time they have found someone else's phone to use!!
@stephcjh (32327)
• United States
3 Apr 08
That is something else. That sounds alot like what I go through here. You just cannot be nice to people these days because they will take full advantage of you. I don't answer the door either. My husband would tell them straight up that it is not good timing, etcetera. We don't mean to be mean to people but enough is enough!
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• United States
3 Apr 08
People wonder why I don't help strangers! In my opinion, it's like that saying... "Don't feed the strays or they'll just keep coming back."... I've learned my lesson!!
@Fidget (291)
3 Apr 08
I too would have let the kid in to use the phone but talk about taking advantage! I'm not sure how I would sort it, dunno if I'd be brave enough just to ignor them. An itemised bill perhaps?!
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@mari61960 (4895)
• United States
3 Apr 08
Jeez, nothing like an overbearing needy neighbor...lol I would stop answering the door too. Some people I think are just pushy like that.. Almost as if they don't know any better. Good luck with them, I hope they don't drive you too crazy. Blessed be, Mari
@rockvixen (894)
• United States
3 Apr 08
Can they not afford to have their own phone instead of barging in on you. That is rude and totally disrespectful. I have no tolorence for people who act like they can do whatever they want, whenever they want. I think you need to ignore these people. They should not be allowed to use your things in your home. Especially the phone, because then you get stuck with the bill.
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@makingpots (11920)
• United States
4 Apr 08
You did what most people would do seeing a 14 yr. old neighbor out in the cold. Now you are being taken advantage of. You are right to want to put an end to it. It is unfortunate for you that now you can't even do something as simple as go out and check you mail, but eventually they will probably get the message.
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@lilybug (21145)
• United States
3 Apr 08
I would be torn between not answering the door when she comes over and telling her off. She has totally taken advantage of your kindness. You are in no way required to let her use the phone. You are also not required to give her the time of day. Hopefully she will back off and leave you alone. Maybe she will start bugging a different neighbor after that. You may want to warn any of them that you like.
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@tjades (3591)
• Jamaica
3 Apr 08
Have you ever heard the saying, "Give them an inch they'll take a mile"? Well apparently your inch began with the daughter and now they're both determined to take the mile. Some poeple just seem to take one show of kindness to start becoming a bit too familiar. Familiarity breeds indiscretion as in a friend who takes the other for granted. Can you imagine if you were her friend? I think you displayed a lot of patience and tolerance. Once I see a pattern developing I am going to put an end to it. Its either that or put up with the unpleasantness of the situation and I certainly could not do the latter for long.
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@Hatley (164231)
• Garden Grove, California
3 Apr 08
It sounds to me like the two are really taking advantage of yuou non stop and I would ask my hubby to tell them politely to bug off and get themselves a cell phone instead of using yours all the time.
@Marcola (2776)
• United States
3 Apr 08
I wouldn't answer the door. Just sit in silence and hope they go away.
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@dfinster (3535)
• United States
3 Apr 08
WOW, she sounds like she totally took advantage of your good hospitality. I don't like it at all when people do that. I can't believe how rude she was to not only stand there and make all of those phone calls but then ask you to do her ged stuff. That's unbelieveable.
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@sherrir101 (3676)
• Malinta, Ohio
3 Apr 08
Sounds to me like you have a situation on your hands there. Stand your ground. I know that it makes you feel bad and mad at the same time. I would. Do they help with your phone bill? I had this situation, also. I had to put my foot down. Made quite a few people mad at me. But I pay my bills myself, they don't.
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• United States
4 Apr 08
Lol, you have neighbors that definitely trump mine. You should install a payphone in your house, so that next time you're prepared :).
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• United States
4 Apr 08
Well atleast you know you tried to help! You did a good thing its just sad how people dont appreciate anything anymore
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@mbs730 (2151)
• Canada
4 Apr 08
That is rude and its not your responsibility that they cannot afford to pay for a phone! Sounds like they love to take advantage of others. Yeah let your husband deal with them, time to blow them off, you don't need it! Their problems are their problems.
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• United States
4 Apr 08
i think you are a SAINT to put up with this nonsense..my wife would not let people in the house as they have to call first..she is most adament on this rule.. we have our house up for sale and our for sale sign is price and phone number and we do not just take people in off the street..unless we know them REAL well... we had a "real estate man" call and my wife told him NO REAL ESTATE PEOPLE..PERIOD so i see later the same man who called my wife came by all dressed up in a suit and i would not let him in the house and told him my wife does not want any real estate people..PERIOD..so of course he has a briefcase and pulls out an envelope and says "I Have a signed offer" which means nothing but it going to be less then our already LOW asking price..plus of course he wants his 10% so i told him to forget any offers..i don't care to even talk to him and only want to talk to the buyers..he said "well that is not going to happen!" so i told him Goodbye..and we upped the asking price from 139,900 to 150,000. as my wife and I sat down and figured we had four people of interest stop and look at our house since spring started..the point is yes you were taken advantage of and a lot of people will try to take advantage..everyone wants something for nothing..one phone call would have been a real need but what your NEIGHBORS are doing is beyond rude...i feel sorry for the children who have to see their parents teach them this kind of bad behavior..sets a bad example..they are just freeloaders
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• United States
3 Apr 08
Some people think other people are user friendly. If she learns you are not, she should go away. I hope so, anyway. Best of luck.
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• United States
4 Apr 08
If she knocks on the door again go to the door and smile and wave at her!! That will make her mad. She should be responcible for her child who is old enough to have a key. I know its hard but tell the daughter she may use the phone but then she has to leave. Or tell her your phone got shut off. And I know you dont want involved but maybe you should call someone on her for leaving her child without a way in the house. A visit from the cops and she should change her attitude. If she would have yelled something like that at me I would have imidiatly called the cops. Techinically its your phone and your property and she shouldnt be there unless you ask. I would have said hold on Ill go get the phone and call the cops right there in front of her. I hate people like this. They expect to much from everyone else. GET A GRIP LADY! {Not you her} Get your life together. If you know you wont be home whn your aughter gets there either give her a key or have a sitter there waiting for her. Simple as that!! ~May The Kisses Of An Angel Cover And Protect You Always~ Copper