For loners

@rovian (1927)
United States
April 4, 2008 12:05am CST
For all the loners here on myLot, have you ever been told by someone that you needed to be social or you needed to have friends? If so, how did you reply to that person? For everyone else, do you think loners should try to change into social people? Would this be good for them, and why do you think so?
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5 responses
• China
30 Aug 08
This semester, I will have new colleagues in my office. On of them is outgoing and warmhearted. She suggests that I should have a boyfriend and go out to play. She tells me that life is not only work. I said I knew that and I knew life doesn't only mean work but also play. I think maybe she could never understand me. I like playing computer games and watching anime alone. And she likes going shopping with her husband. We're in different worlds.
• United States
24 Aug 08
I haven't been told that in quite some time now ~ at this point in my life (and friendships) I believe my friends simply know, understand and accept this about me...I love my time alone ~ and although I do occasionally participate in social activities with friends ~ it's not often ~ I simply, truly enjoy my time alone...
• Philippines
20 Aug 08
i get told that all the time. i know it's a valid point and i do have friends but i just prefer having less people around. it's my own preference and i don't think anybody should really try to change that part of me because it's what makes me who i am. i have no qualms socializing more but eventually, i would still isolate myself from the rest because i'm a loner by heart :) that's something in me that i won't ever change.
@trinale (1479)
• United States
6 Apr 08
I usually let them know I have social anxiety disorder which usually turns into another discussion because many people have never heard of it.
@whittby (3073)
• United States
6 Apr 08
Here you are with this discussion on "loners" and no responses. It strikes me as slightly amusing, not to be mean in the least. To answer your question, no one tells me to be more social, but sometimes I feel the compulsion to be more social than I am - kind of a pressure to be more than I am. I don't think you should try to change yourself unless your "loneness" is caused by depression/