Are you ever accused of thinking too much?

Hello shizuoka!:-) I have been accused of over-thinking and I tend to agree, sometimes, that I over-think things but not all the time. I think everybody obsess about something or someone, at least at one or more points in their lives, and tend to overlook simple solutions one way or the other. I was told that there was a survey which concluded that Adults often tend to see problems in more complex ways before trying simpler answers or solutions. I don't know about authenticity of this survey or its results, but it sounds true to some extent. Moreover, it is believed that as engineers are in a habit of modeling things mathematically, though in structured way, so they also tend to complicate problems. So, being an 'Adult Engineer' increases the probability that I would over-think. But, I, personally, don't think that I spend hours planning each and every detail of everything I do 'over' the earth and 'under' the sky. I do plan things but all that is possibly, and reasonably, visible in hindsight. Sometimes, I also think that I have under-thought or under-planned things and I do enjoy all the simplicities of life. PS: Aside from the topic of this discussion, I find it uncanny that how much we resemble. If I may, I would like to know that from where you got this avatar? (the only site, in my knowledge, who had this avatar, took it off their list). And, you screen name is also very interesting, is it 'she is you ok a' or is there something else that inspired this screen name? I hope you don't mind me asking and as I told that I over-think sometimes, so naturally I am curious especially because how much we resemble, not only in avatar but also in the writing style. Anybody can mistake you for me. I hope you don't mind asking!?:-)

Are you following me? First the mom discussion, now this? You know me to well! Yes, I do tend to over think. However I would not say to obession. I try to cover all angles and then prepare for as much as possible, but just hoping to cover myself should the worst happen. My problem is that I have to be so careful as I can't afford to waste a single cent, so I have to do all i can to accomodate my income and not go over. I have not had to much good in my life so I am always trying make the best choise possible, hoping it is sucessful. Seldom do things "go right" for me no matter how hard I try. So.... Guess I'd have to say more than over-think - I over concern/worry. Afraid to do something for all the things that could go wrong (and usually do) so I over think my options, hoping to find that one time that will succeed. Not to sucessful to date!

My partner gets me for this all the time. She constantly tells me that I think too much. In reality that is true. I do think to much. However I know I have an obsessive way of thinking. Sometimes I will get ideas in my head and they just won't leave so I end up dealing with really crazy ideas for several weeks at a time and then they leave and then the cycle just starts all over again. It's a pain really.

This is a very interesting discussion you have started here. I often will try to figure something out for a long time. Then when I finally leave it alone and go do something else, "Poof" the answer just pops into my head. LOL

yes i have and it sucks, i hate when i overthing things and people get mad about it

The best way is no thinking. Feeling your body. when you over-think things, you are actully enxiety. so relax your muscle, and then your brain will stop ,obsessing in the relax feeling. It really does good. You can have a try.

i am also having a tendency to over-think things.but i do not tend to ponder things,because i should think most things and even good things. the thinking is better for my career and for my mind