aching feet and itchy backs,

well, when he works he is a carpenter and he works with his hands alot and so he says they ache and hurt alot. they are knots on his fingers which we think is gout. And he is lifting and tugging 2x4s,2x6s,4x4s and 100-400-(60-80 pound a piece ) heavyweight blocks and mixing morter and tugging a wheel barrow full of morter and sand and then building houses and pouring footers,sidewalks, running up and down ladders, putting in window, siding,roofs,shingles so if it was me I would be to tired to even raise my arm and he when he tried a few times it was never hard enough cause his hands are sore they also bust open and bleed sometimes and I would get frustrated and say forget it! But he never would do my chubby ugly feet, or legs. He gets charly horses and big knots on his legs and ask me to rub them down and massage them he also has broken veins and vericose veins in his legs that cause him alot of pain. I shouldn't be a grouch about it because he does work hard when he can. I should be a good wife and rub his legs and back when it is needed but lately I haven't as much. I feel quilty about it at times because he has to work so hard. That is why I live simple and don't ask for much except for the nescessities, I try to pay for my own stuff and net myself and even the phone if I have any left.

why do you do it for him then, I wouldn't I would say what is good for the goose is good for the gander like my grandmother used to say

you are so lucky

what a sweet deal

now that is interesting even doing it in his sleep.

that must have been frustrating for you.

you are lucky to have that, I have no money for a therapist.